Separation
I have been there and it had nothing to do with WLS...that came years later. But I still mourned the loss of the marriage and the 'complete' family...although it was not complete in hindsight.
I was almost paralyzed by fear that I couldn't 'do it' without him (rubbi**** turned out...lol). I had 2 early teens and worked shifts.
But from fear comes strength, if you let it, you will be ok...I am sure that your strength to get where you are already will carry you throught these tough times and into a life worth waiting for.
My warmest regards to you and your family....I will keep you in my thoughts.
Joy
Surgery March 23/2011. Completed three full marathons and two half marathons, two half Ironman distances. Completed my first Full Ironman distance (4 km swim, 180 km bike, 42.2 km (full marathon) run) in Muskoka August 30/2015. Next Ironman Lake Placid July 23/2017!
on 12/6/11 12:37 am - Toronto, Canada
I asked my husband to move out several years ago now, and it was unrelated to wls since I"m still pre-op, but it hurt like hell anyways. I was surprised at hard it was to adjust even though I was the one who wanted out.
I had lots of guilt re: the end of the nuclear family and how it would impact my son. I worked hard on developing a co-parenting relationship with my ex that would still give my son a sense of family while also respecting our new found independence from one another.
To be truthful, it took me about 2 years to hit my groove as a single parent, and then from that time on its gotten better and better. I'm happier now than I've ever been. One of the things that I did was develop a lot more friendships, especially with other single moms, and that really helped to make me feel less isolated.
I hope things get easier, but do know that even the painful feelings and difficutt times are part of growing as a person and coming out happier on the other side.
Take care.
But seriously, the nuclear family loss, especially at this time of year, i****ting me hard. :-( Planning for the holidays has been difficult.
Surgery March 23/2011. Completed three full marathons and two half marathons, two half Ironman distances. Completed my first Full Ironman distance (4 km swim, 180 km bike, 42.2 km (full marathon) run) in Muskoka August 30/2015. Next Ironman Lake Placid July 23/2017!
I am sending big hugs to you Kelly. Remember you are worth it and deserve more.
Referal: June 23, 2011; Info: August 26, 2011; Dr.: July3, 2012; U/S: July 13, 2012; Beh/Nut: Aug 13, 2012; Ed class: Aug 22, 2012; Scope: Sept 7, 2012; Met with surgeons fellow: Sept 17, 2012; SURGERY: Nov 16, 2012 with Dr. Mamazza.
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