getting nervous

hi, my name is karen, this is the 1st time ive been here, im having surgery monday the 23rd, at deaconess hosp. in cinti. i wasnt scared till just the last few days, im ready to chicken out, knowing i need this surgery badly. i guess the main reason is i dont have any support from my family, even my husband says im crazy, and even refuses to go to the hosp. all he talks about is all the bad things hes heard, nothing good, i try to talk to him but it doesnt work, i do have a son 21 and a daughter 19 who is 6 mons. pregant that said they will be their for the surgery but they are scared, and i really dont want to see them go through this especially with her being pregnant, i guee im just getting nervous. thanks for listening. take care, karen

Hi Karen, this is a personal issue. Only you know if you need this done. My wife was against it also, however now she is very happy. I am sure he is scared but he does not know how you feel. It is great that you kids will be there for you. Yes they will be scared. It is normal for them and you to be scared. This is a life long commitment. If you are serious about this just put your self in your higher powers hands and you will find calmness. It isnt easy, but neither is what we have gone through for many years. Good Luck, Richard

Hi Karen.... This is probably the only thing you will ever do for you. No one will ever tell you to do it or not,it has to be your decision. Dr.Curry did mine last july and it was the best thing I have ever done. Its not easy but very worth it for me. I lost 100 lbs and only have 20 more lbs to go. It took me about 6 months to really learn what I could eat but it all comes with time. If you make a list of the pros and cons, that will help you so much. I can do every thing I couldnt ever do. The emotions you will have are unbelievable. Do what you have to do in your heart just for you, Love,Cindy

Hi Karen~ I also met with family and friends not wanting me to have the surgery.... My kids were the only ones who were gung-ho for Mom from the start... it took Hubby going to consultations with me... he came areound and is now my biggest supporter! My brother is also a big cheerleader for me... as for hubby's family... well... they were extremely vocal against the WLS!!! (and many of them are medical prfessionals... and are OBESE!!! ) when I decided... (notice i said "I DECIDED" this was all for ME and MY heath!!! something FOR ME for once!!!) to have the WLS with Dr Curry, Hubby's family was never told... and they still don't know... (I am just 3 and a half months out) it was funny when I attended a function with hubby's family in attendance... one brother and his wife were encouraging of my 53# weight loss.... and the others were snotty... (jealous ) and made remarks about "oh you will just gain it all back..." I have only told "them" that I am eating a lot less and exercising... they will NEVER know that I had WLS.... that would just give them something to B***H at me about.... so, I agree that YOU have to do this for YOU.... and hold tightly to those who support you... it is your health... your life!! YOUR decision HUGS Deb @ Indian lake

Hi again, Karen~ I got your email~ I tried emailing you back but, it came back to me.... I will try very hard to call you this week end!! Dr Curry and his staff will take wonderful care of you! They are SUPER!! and all of the fiolks at Deaconess are WONDERFUL~~~ I did have a lap RNY and was up and around the day of surgery. walking down the hall by day two.... and feeling better with each passing day. getting up and moving about will help you get your strength back. I hope you have an uneventful surgery and swift recovery!!! HUGS Deb @ Indian lake