Paging RIchard W. or Liz.. I am really needing you

If either of you see this and have a chance to talk, I really really really need you tonight. Love Laura

am i the richard w. that u want?

I am looking for Richard Wilson from Marion who came to see me in the hospital with his lovely wife Teri.. Thanks for the response. Laura

I am almost 2 weeks post op and feeling the weight of the world on me. I feel like I might of made the biggest mistake in the world having the surgery and I dont know why. I have just felt like crying and crying and feeling like my life with any joy is over..... This crept up on me last night and has a good hold on me today... Why couldnt I be a normal person who could control the way they ate.. Why did I have to be a compulsive eater who had to resort to this to control what goes in my mouth. I feel like I am always going to be an outsider from the rest of my family and friends.. I am alone enough already and this just puts more distance .. LM

Has anyone felt like this??? LM

I sent you an e-mail Laura. I went to bed early last night so I was not online. Thanks to everyone else that helped her. That is what makes this support group great. I agree with another poster also. You would benifit from a support group if you have one close. I did give you my IM's to add me. Please feel free so we can talk. Richard.

Thank you for the letter Richard, You and your wife are the best. I was just having a very bad day. First of all I had tried to do too much yesterday. I decided I felt good enough to go back to work and put in a 6 hour day.. Bad Move.. And on top of it people at work flaunting their soda's and pizza in front of me. Then coming home and the kids complaining that I am not cooking anything apetizing for them. I just melted down and began the downward spiral. I am still feeling down, but at least I have a better idea why now. Thank you so very much, Laura

I know its hard. I had a good support group at work, but they did like to eat. THey still do, but it does not bother me so much. Remember, " nothing tastes as good as thin feels". I think I said it right lol. I heard it here online and it is true. Yahoo didnt work, please put back in. Richard

Oh sweetie, we have all went through this. I had the same "What did I do to myself" questions at about 2-3 weeks post op. The one thing I can tell you is that IT DOES GET SOOOOO MUCH BETTER! I am 6 months post op, have lost 52 pounds (I was a "lightweight" in the WLS world) and I feel wonderful! I have days when I feel I can eat more than others and it is great to not feel like food is controlling my life! If you want to talk, email me and I will send you my number. We are here for you!

Dear Jill, Its good to know that these are normal feelings and I sure wish I would of known to expect them. But maybe my experience might help one person be more aware and be able to better prepare for the emotions. You know from my past posts I have been a number one supporter of the WLS and know that it is the right thing for me. But nothing prepared me for how the mourning of food would hit me. And how angry it would make me that food was such a big part of my life. Its Reality hitting me smack in the face. I was not fat for any other reason than I ate too much and the wrong things. And now everything I put in my mouth must count and be good for me. Its a complete turn around from the way I have lived for 44 years. So I guess it is logical that there would be some sadness in the loss of that relationship with food. And I am sure as I lose weight it will be a happiness that the relationship has changed. I thank you for your post and listening to me Many many Hugs, Laura