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My goodness, I have been busy lately. I hope everyone is doing well. Isn't Christmas time a fun time of year? I was really thinking today about my journey through obesity and WLS and I wondered if I had the power to control destiny, would I go through my life again and choose to be obese or thin? Initially I would of course choose thin, it has been what I always wanted. But would I be who I am today if I chose that path? Would I have the two wonderful chidren that I do? Would I have such empathy for those that are obese or suffer with life's trials? Would I have learned so much about myself? I guess my answer would have to be obesity because I could not live without my children, but what it comes down to is, fat or thin, life throws you trials that make you the person that you are. One path may not be easier than the other, it just may look that way from far away. Which would you choose and why? Cheryl

Hi Cheryl, I agree with you, I think I would have to choose obesity again. As much as I hate the pain I am suffering (physically and emotionally) I know I wouldn't be the person I am without these trials. I've had to do a lot of soul searching about why I eat and how to stop doing this to myself, but I know I'm growing from it. I've also met so many people who I wouldn't know if it weren't for the many steps I've taken to try and lose weight. Now, if I could be the person I am now but be in a thinner body and be able to eat whatever I want, I would go with that option! This is a good question! Denise

As painful as many of the trials I have faced in life have been, including being an obese person, I would have to say I would probably choose to have them again. I believe there is growth when you have those trials and I think they have helped ground me as a person. Given a choice, I always choose change and growth over being stagnant and inflexible. However, I hope my children can learn these same lessons from my being observant of my life instead of having to experience the heartache of being obesse themselves. One of my main reasons for having this surgery is that parents lead by example and my habits were not a good example for them. I do agree with you that being obese can cause a person to be more empathetic. I feel it has helped me to be more sensitive.

That's a hard one. I know that being overweight made me more sensetive to others issues and needs. I believe that I developed the emotional side of my personality. So, if I had to do it over again I would choose to the way my life is right now with nothing changing in my past. You live and learn and take the lessons learned with you into the future. The undiscovered country...."the future". --shameless Star Trek reference. Ho,Ho,Ho --Bo

I wondered about this a lot. I had an opportunity to join the Air Force when I got out of nursing school (talked to Orville Wright about it, back then, LOL!) I passed that by, and I sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if I had done that. Would I have met my husband? Had my kids? I guess I am glad my life took the path that it did, no matter how big I got. It was worth it. Sue