Insurance approved, surgeon denied me...

I got insurance approval in 10 days from GEHA. My surgeon has said I am not ready for surgery. Others like me "have failure in a couple years". ( I am going to contact the Psych who did my evaluation to ask ?'s ) Has anyone else encountered this problem? Am in shock, thought insurance would be problem...Any other's have same problem? I would be grateful to hear any idea's or suggestions.

that is interesting- dr stelmack did my surgery in march..... he DID tell me , tho, during initial consult that he was screening me as well as i was screening him..... what does he mean..."others like (me)you"?

I'm not sure...I tried to be realistic about the surgery and my hopes for it. How did you know Dr.'s name? I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I truly like him...and maybe trust him even more now! I'm just confused. Scared. Everyone (nearly) I know has been against my doing this and now the doctor seems to be too. I feel like the whole world is against me. I am in constant pain from joints aching. Divorced and single mother. I'm afraid I will keep going down this road (weight gain) and end up unable to work. Feeling desperate.

I would like to know the reason the dR, denied you. did he give you a reason? If it is that you are not mentally ready for it then he did you a huge favor.I have mine this friday and it takes alot to get ready for. Go see a Therapist and get yourself mentally ready and then go back to the Dr. and he will do it. It might just not be your time right now,Cindy

oh i don't think badly of him--i adore the man! he was brutally honest with me about some issues before my surgery and i am so glad!!!otherwise i would have possibly had complications --and i needed to be sure this was what i wanted and needed...i fought harder for this than anything else in my life..... i knew his name cuz i went to your profile - i wonder if maybe you misunderstood something he said? or heard only part of what he said? sometimes we do that!! and he DOES talk fast!!!! i know that we often get used to hearing only parts of things cuz we expect that "other shoe " to drop.... annette- i have to go to bed now- early work day tomorrow but i would like to talk to you some more about thi**** email under my post and write away to your hearts content if you feel comfortable doing it....i won't get online til probly after supper tomorrow but will try earlier- mean time--maybe think over what exactly he said--write it down? and maybe you have just misunderstood???i am trying to think positive for ya!!!! if your ins approved so quickly --the surgery must be a good thing for you medically..... it is very difficult when others are against something like this- don't give up!!!! it is ok to be scared...maybe he wants you to be absolutely certain that this is the right thing for you????? how old are your children? how many?tell me about co-morbidities???? anyhow- don't give up!!!! margo

Hi Annette, FYI ~ you have your surgeon's name listed on your profile. Sorry to hear of your troubles. I think if you have the insurance company backing you, eventually the rest will fall into place. Did you have the opportunity to see your psych results? I am guessing if there was something wrong there, your insurance company wouldn't have approved surgery, unless they hadn't seen it....