Question about recovery and children.....

I have 3 very young children (1,3 &4). I really need this surgery and want it to be healthy and able for my boys, however, My husband is a self employed truck driver and has to stay on the road for us to make a living. I have no family nearby and wonder how I am going to be able to recover from surgery with them. I have folks from church who are willing to bring meals and help out but not to the extent I fear I will need. Has anyone else had this problem and a solution? Thanks Angela

Angela, Here's what I did. I have a home day care I closed down the day of my surgery. My mother came up from KY to run the day care while I was in the hospital. When you first get home you'll still be very out of it. You will need some one with you 24 hours a day for at least 5-7 days. You will not be able to pick up the little one to dress or change him/her. You will not be able to lift anything heavier that a gallon of milk for about 8 weeks or so. And laundry is also heavier than you think. You can't clean house very well those first few weeks either. Do you have any friends that want to come over for a 'sleep over' or 'slumber party'??? I needed help for about 3-4 weeks. My mother stayed with us for 4 weeks. Good Luck, Robin W

Angela, Maybe you can talk with the minister of your church and let them know your concerns as well as what you will need. I'm sure if they knew the extent of care for the children, they'd try to help you out. On the other hand, in reading your profile I saw that you had Medicaid. I am no expert on Medicaid but you might want to check with them to see if they might pay for a home child care provider during your time of recovery. I would think if they approved the surgery, they realize you would need recovery time and help find a way to provide that to you with your children. Just a thought. Beth

I have a one year old also and had the same worries. You will not be able to pick any of your kids up for at least 6 weeks. If you do, you risk a hernia. After 3 weeks, I was using my leg to sort of hoist my son upon to the couch and he could sit on my lap. But you will need some support...for your safety and your kids'. Good luck! Cherrie RNY 2/13/04 -84

Hi Angela- Well, first off I'm Angela too! lol Everyone keeps asking me if I'm nervous about surgery. I'm not nervous about the surgery its self, it's the recovery I'm scared about. My son will be turning two 4 days before my surgery. I'm a single parent and live with my mother, who works full time. I also have Medicaid and inquired about dayvare. The only way they will help is if you are working or are in school. I call and asked, believe me. I thought about putting him in daycare myself, but can't afford the $100 a week they want for 3 day a week daycare. I have a 16 yr. old cousin thats going to stay with me during the day. My son's father took off the week of surgery, so he'll be with him then, but its afteward I'm worried about. Sorry I can't help more, but wanted you to know that there are people in the same boat. I hope all goes well for you. Good Luck! God Bless, Ang