Sometimes I believe people are so busy having opinions they forget to think. Sometimes you are just being hurtful for no other reason then believing you have 'it' all figured out.  If you don't know the whole story of somebodies journey then ask. If you don't want to ask then don't judge.  This is an open forum and you have the ability to write whatever you feel like.  It doesn't always mean that you should. Some people will ask for tough love and by all means if your heart is in the right place then give it.  Most of the time people want support and if you are unable to supply that then keep on walking.  You DO NOT have to reply to every post, even the ones that make you shake your head in disbelief at what you perceive to be that persons flaws.

Kindness is absorbed by people, practice it...it's a sign of intelligence to reach someone with kind words especially if the message is a hard one to take.  Blunt, hurtful judgements are a sign of intolerance.

If you can't tolerate someone on the board block them and you won't have to see their posts any more.

In a couple of tired/off moments I have written and said things that came out wrong and were not helpful. Not purposely hurtful but just something that came out wrong. I've gone back and apologized, deleted and regretted what I've said. I'm learning to stop before I post and make sure I really want to say that to the person.

Before you speak think...people don't put themselves out here to be told off, beat up or tough loved into your truth.  They come here for support to get through their struggles and fears.  They also want someone to cheerlead them on when things go well.

Be kind...most people on this board have had enough hurt from other sources, they don't need more.

That is so cute! I wish I could get my dog and cats to do that. I've only had our dog for about 5 months and they are getting there. Maybe one day :)

In the past, people have delete posts and then CLAIMED that they didn't say something that they DID.  They removed the "evidence".  People often do it when they stir up some crap and then claim that they didn't participate let alone start anything, or when they post something that directly contradicts something else they wrote (liar,liar, pants on fire), or when they want to play the victim when, if they left their posts in place, it would be clear that they were not the victim    of anyone/anything.

In many cases, but not all, it is disingenuous at least.  A little like blocking someone, unblocking them to post a quarrelsome or annoying reply to them and then re-blocking them so they cannot reply back to what you wrote.  Cowardly...

Lora