How u feel about OH

Word salad!!!  That's amazing!!!!

So if someone comes here and says they have been having bleeding from one of their incisions for a week, or has not been able to keep anything solid down for 3 days, or wants to know why their surgeon requires 8 weeks of liquids before or after surgery, or has been making their shakes with ice cream because otherwise it makes them sick, etc. etc., etc., are you saying that we should NOT tell them to contact their surgeon??

Usually, people respond by saying "ask your surgeon" because that is the best answer!

Lora

Here's how interpretation varies!

You posted a separate hread to ask how much to eat. You didn't tell us which surgery you have had. That may not be about dramatic blood loss or severe pain. But you are asking us, without knowing anything at all about you, to offer suggestions or advice when the only sensible answer is "follow your doctor's plan and if you don't know what that is ( and you should know), ask him/her. 

So you tell us not to judge, but in this thread you have judged.

You criticise us for offering sensible advice.

Sorry Kate that wasn't my question. My question was how much do u eat? 

At three weeks post-op, it is irrelevant what strangers online eat. The fact that you asked implied you were asking for suggestions. If it was purely a fact finding mission and you had no intention of making any personal choices based on replies, you should have said so. So I stand by my advice to ask your doctor. 

Uh, Carfigure - People do actually come on here and post things like Lora mentioned.  I have seen people asking about bleeding, inflamed incisions.  I have seen people asking about throwing up to the point where they feel weak.  I have seen people expecting us to read their surgeon's mind by asking us why they are told to do X or Y.  

In these types of cases, telling people to call their doctor is NOT a dumb response.

Additionally, while to many of us, asking those sorts of things could be taken as a "dumb" question, to the person asking it, it obviously is something they don't think is dumb. Some people are more timid and I've seen people thank us for pushing them to talk to their Doctor because they "hated to bother him for something minor".  

I agree, that some responses made in moments of irritation shouldn't be made until the poster cools down because the tone comes across wrong, but I haven't seen ANY cases where "ask your doctor" didn't need to be said!

Thanks 

But I have seen all those questions here before. 

Well then honey you must not have read to many posts on OH.  There are numerous posts on the different boards that ask things like " I'm three weeks out, but have not restriction and the cookies go down with no problem did I stretch my pouch"?  Or "I'm six months out, but only lost 30lbs and can eat anything what is wrong"? 

And when you try and explain things to these people they get their panties all bunched up because we don't pat them on the back and say "oh it's OK don't worry everything will be fine". 

This is Obesity Help not rainbows and unicorn farts help. 

Obviously in that situation they should speak to their doc or nut. I'm talking about when ppl ask a regular question for example. What are u eating after post op? I've seen this one b4 n some ppl response is ask nut really.  Ppl r just looking for support. Common sense if it's a medical concern they should ask their doc.