Is it helpful... (x post)

For what its worth....(and likely not worth much to you)....but the people who write the type of post you have just written.....are invariably the ones who have real difficulties getting to or maintaining goal a few years out...I have seen this time and again.....and it is because they do not handle criticism....however delicate it may be delivered

Oh good grief lol You guys are always crying for scientific support so where's the scientifically PROVEN statistics for that little gem of a statement there? 

I should have indicated that my comment was totally anecdotal.......but I stand by it

Well I totally stand by the fact that smoked salmon is the greatest food on this great earth ever produced. But it doesn't mean it's true. 

OK Kevin....I get the point you are trying to make....but you have totally missed what I have tried to indicate to the OP......

I am not one who is looking for "scientific" studies....because I also believe there is a study pro and con to just about everything...

But this is my truth.....those who do not accept anything contrary to their opinions/concerns....are usually the ones who are back on here in a few years complaining that they did not make goal.....or have gained most of their weight back....its very sad to see......

Not everyone writes as well as they could.....doesn't mean their advice isn't sound......I have no bone to pick with this particular OP.........however I do hate this type of post....telling people what they can or cant say on a forum

She was accused of making up her issues. Please explain how you would feel if after suffering complications and venting on your support board, you were met with that attitude? 

I like the way people think that just because they have time on the board it gives them a pass to act like an asshole. And by like I mean it's garbage. If you can't get your **** together enough to actually behave like a human being anymore because you've become so desensitized to this process and exactly what it's like in the beginning then it's time for you to find a NEW HOBBY for the love of everything good in the world. Seriously. Move on with your life. You're not needed here anymore. 

"Please explain how you would feel" if after explaining your opinion on a support board, you were told "you [were] not needed here anymore."

You're asking another person, right here, right now, to have empathy... and then pretty much telling her to go away. I KNOW you know from personal experience what it's like to think (correctly or no) that your own opinion is unnecessary.

Not cool, sister.

That wasn't directed at birdy. It was to anyone who finds guilt in the meaning. You know who you are. 

There was more to it then that....you are being disingenuous....there was also some good advice given...perhaps not in the most hand holding manner....but good advice in my opinion....I did not view any comment re she was making up her issues....the thread was likely pulled before I re-read it

...also.....an asshole is an asshole...whether a month out or 10 years out.....and you are going to get this on a public forum.....you cant just tell people to leave and its done.....

You sound very angry....their must be some past history with you and this forum?

There was good advice given. I am only referring to two people. And yep, I have history with the ******** who think they are above kindness on this site because they "earned it". 

Saying that everyone should be kind while calling others names? I just  double standards! :-D