Food pushers
Just saying no may work at the moment, but some of them just can't take a hint. They do it again, and again, and again. If saying no doesn't work, here's my favorite thing to say to food pushers at this point:
And in case that gets modded:
Surgery: RNY on 12/18/2013 with Jay M. Snow, MD "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness." - Robert Herjavec, quoting Al Capone
I have many of these in my family and I have had to come with a "rule" form myself around this issue. I say no to all food that is offered me. I say this even if the food is appropriate or is offered at the right time. What I have found, is that for me, the control of what I eat, when I eat it and how much I eat has to remain completely with me. I am just not strong enough to make choices that I can live with later in "the moment". A blanket rule, where I always say something polite but turn the food down works better for me. If I want the food, it will still be available in a few moments and I can have that time to stop, think about it and make a conscious choice. Now I just have to learn to do this with really good wine...:)
"No."
"No thank you."
"You might not know you're doing this, but you're trying to push food on me right now and I'd like for you to stop. It's not cool, and it makes me uncomfortable."
VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)
Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170
TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)
I must add, that to my mother, pushing food was considered love. We laugh about the times she would come behind us at the dinner table, ask if we wanted more mashed potatoes, and when we said no, giving us a big scoop anyway. She was also the one who convinced my brother, who had RNY, that he needed to gain some weight (well before he hit even the top end of a normal BMI).
Hence the reason why I try not to be considered rude when I reply. It's a rare few that will push food on you because they wish you evil. Some do it because it's their version of loving you, and others do it because they just aren't as educated about food as you are.
Height 5'4" HW:223 Lap band 2006, revised to Sleeve 5/8/2013, SW:196
