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I found out on the same date that I was approved and surgery scheduled that my husband will be out of town and it is unavoidable. It's a work thing. Now I'm losing my cool and I'm scared to go though this alone. Well I won't truly be alone I have my brother and his wife close by and they will take me and pick me up. I figure if I go in on the 1st I should be home by the 3rd and he will be home on the 5th, do ya'll think I'm nuts for feeling scared about going through this alone. I really don't want to put if off any longer, but I keep thinking what if....

It is never easy to do anything alone,but as you say, your brother and his wife will be with you. I do not know your husband, but I believe that if he could he would cancel his business to be with you. Know in your heart and mind that he is with you, and when he gets home, he will see you maybe not so strong in body, but in spirit and it shows how ready you will be for the challenges ahead on the losing side. Also know that all of us are with you as well. Let us know if there is anything we can do. Karen

Being scared is natural under the best of cir****tances. You have to not think about what if's that are negative. Your mind is powerful ~ so use it to tell yourself that you have the faith, hope and strength to survive anything, even a little ol WLS procedure. Personally, I'd worry if you weren't scared. Surgery is a frightening thing. [yeah, even *I* was scared, but don't tell anyone; they think I am skeered of nothing]. Meditate, pray, think ~ and visit with those who love you and are supportive of you. That's the best medicine there is!

Eileen, I can totaly understand why you are feeling scared and you are not crazy for feeling that way! It is awesome that you will have your family but I can understand that there is no replacement for your hubby. How does your husband feel about this? You really need to talk to him about this and see what he feels you should do. I am sorry that his work is taking him away for your major surgery. This is not a small procedure but a major event but I am sure you all know about that by now. This whole thing is so filled with emotions and choices, we just have to believe and move forward. It sure can make ya crazy! Pleaes keep us posted and I wish you all the best Debra P

Hey Eileen... I know that it will be hard to do this without having the support of your hubby around but you have made it this far so I am sure you can get thru it. While in the hospital you will be spending alot of time sleeping and walking so you will barely have time to miss him ! Okokok I know that it isn't THAT easy but you will have your mind other places ! You may want to check with your surgeon about "what if you decide to reschedule your surgery." If you have all the info you and the hubby can make the best decision and there will be no regrets later on. If you do decide to go on with the date of 5/1 just make sure that you have everything around the house organized so you won't have to worry about going out to the store or carrying something that is too heavy until he gets home. I am sure that he feels as uncomfortable and concerned as you do ! The best of luck with the decision and your surgery. Feel free to email me anytime if you need to talk- Keep us posted !

Thank you all for your kind words and support. My emotions are going back and forth on this, as you all must have felt at some time before this procedure or leading up to it. Hubby wants me to wait until he gets back because he wants to be their for me. I know if their were anyway possible he would postpone this tri*****t go but for many reasons that can't happen. I also don't want to wait for work purposes, this is the best tme possible for me to be out of work, it will be a slow time. I LOVE my job and it is a big part of who I am. It may be unrealistic but as soon as I feel up to it (two weeks)I want to come back to work even if for a few hours a week, my boss wants me to take as long as I need so thats not the issue, she is very understanding, both her daughter and her best friend have had this procedure so she truly understands the importance of resting and not pushing it. I just know me and my ability to sit still. Fortunatly I have had some major operations and my physicians have been awed at my healing time and pain tolerance so hopefully I can get back. Of course there is also the part of me that also says, "Eileen, a month of in May come on now take it!" Again all of you thanks so mucg, I don't know what I would do without these boards!