Wheels Falling Off

Awww Kenny I am sorry. Can you get another fill? I am calling my surgeon tomorrow and telling her that although there is an improvement, I am still hungry, I am snacking, and they do not want me too at all. I eat healthy snacks but still, snacking twice a day(that's down from 4). She said to call them sooner than the 4 weeks that I'm scheduled for the next fill if I need to. Now as far as the kids are concerned, my kids snack on what I snack on. They eat dinners that hubby prepares for them but as far as snacks, hubby and I agree that they don't need junk. I am really afraid of the kids, (especially my little one coming from two obese parents)developing poor eating habits. We've always kept skim milk in the house, diet soda, (though we don't buy that anymore), and sugar free products. I don't know how old your kids are, and I know the older they are it's harder to get them to change your habits, but maybe you can talk to your wife, about getting the family eating healthier? My kids were spoiled last week because I was babysitting kids overnight,at their house and those kids eat the total opposite of what we do. Whole milk, foods with sugar, etc. I told my boys not to get used to it-lol. Kristine Down 46 pounds

Kenny hun don't beat your self up. you are doing really well. you need to get a focus that will distract you when you get the itch for some of the "bad stuff" or eat something like a piece of cheese or yougart or an sugar free popscile that will kill the craving with out eatting bad things. don't get depressed gives ya a hug. or call your DR and ask about a fill okay hugs Nikki

Thanks for the support Kristine!

Kenny: Hello. I am glad you posted. Postop life can be challenging, regardless of the surgical tool you decided on. For me accepting this, embracing it, focusing on the solution and moving past the problem helps. I find I can at times spend TOO Much time dwelling on the issue, expending all my energy and having none left to move forward! Meaning I wallow and stay stuck for a while. One thing for me is journaling, food/mood etc. Looking to where I started, WHAT WERE MY GOALS!? This can help us in the times like these. Depression is COMMON postop. EVEN if you never expereinced it pre WLS. A time of personal reflection, grlowth, evolution. The JOURNEY is amazing but not w/o challenges. Old behaviors don't leave w/o a fight! Kenny YOU have the fight to beat your demons! I believe in you! We all are a work in progress, NO ONE Is perfect. Choosing to stay w/ the grazing/snacking and old habits is within your control! Meaning you can choose to do things differently also! This is not a failure, unless you do not learn from it and move forward. Ok so you were human, you tested the waters, NOW WHAT? What is the plan to move past this? you identified some real hurdles. Certain triggers, food in the home. Now I agree it is more challenging w/ it there, DO others need it? Kids, wife? NO they will not perish w/o it, but this is about communication/compromise. How can you work together to ALL get what u need? Supporting one another? They may be resentful of your efforts, but how can you all come together to be a HEALTHY family? Physically, emotionally, etc? Ultimately we can only control ourselves, we are responsible for our actions to others actions. We can in turn ask for what we need, setting healthy limits/boundaries etc. Look to this as a learning curve, with time you will progress....It is all part of the process! Exercise can help balance this all out. HECK I still like to eat, I do, but I find I am nore centered w/ my exercise and it allows me to eat more because my metabolism is a burning !!!!!!!!! You can do this! If you need extra support seek it in a good therapist! For you, family etc! I wish u well..... think: "Progress not perfection". Be KIND, GENTLE & LOVING WITH YOURSELF! It is all part of the process!! What were your preop goals? How can you reach them! "IN THE MIDST OF DIFFICULTY LIES OPPORTUNITY!" Find the opportunity here! Also support is important, telling on ourselvesis important in the accountability! You did well with that! Take Care, Jamie Lap RNY 10/9/02 Dr. Singh 320/163 5'9'' (lost 45# before surgery) Plastics 6/9/04 & 11/11/2005 Dr. King http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=c1132518510 "Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections!"

Great stuff Jamie, thank you