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HI GUYS! I went to the surgeon and the psychiatrist yesterday and my surgeon gave me a date........IT IS FEBRUARY 28th!!!!!!! WOO HOOO CANT WAIT!!! I got a lot of grief from my relatives tonight. A LOT! I would like to ignore them but they really make me feel bad. All i could think was i trooped it thru a storm and brought MY SONS BIRTHDAY PARTY TO THEM and they gave me GRIEF!!!!! You know the drill, Im taking the easy way out......i dont know what i am getting myself into......i could die!!!!!!!my kids need me!!!!! im so selfish!!!! Can you believe them? I wanted to cry. Let me stop lying. I did cry. All the way home.

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR DATE!!!!! Stop crying and focus on why you are having this surgery (I'm sure the number one reason is not to please your family) So that said celebrate your approval!!!! remember you have your AMOS family to provide support. You must also remember that most people don't think of obesity as a disease and we can't expect them to fully understand what you are feeling so again cheer up and take it easy. You've come a long way(evaluations, doctors appointments etc) so celebrate and WELCOME to the losing side!!! :afto: Marcy

Hi Pamela, Congratulations on getting your surgery date! I had my surgery on July 8, 2004 and so far I have lost 80 lbs so far. I know what you are going through. I had the same grief from some family members and had the fear of dying. I have a 3 year old son. I had the surgery to get healthy to have a longer life with him and my husband. I don't live that far from you, so if you'd like you can e-mail me if you need to talk, or we can chat on the phone. I also have extra protein powder if you'd like to try some before buying it. I am also the co-leader of a local WLS support group that meets once a month. I can give you information about that if you'd like to come to the next meeting also. My e-mail address is [email protected]. Jackie

Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. It really means a lot to me. My dad had the surgery and he is VERY supportive, and my mom is afraid, but doesnt say anything, she knows im going to do it and figures she may as well support me because she knows i have thought it thru and done research. She knows i love my life and wouldnt do anything risky unless i had a good reason. (My mom is the best). thanks again everyone!

Congratulations!!! My date is Feb 7th!! :D

hello Pamela When i read your letter i was thinking wow..that would be so hard...not having your family 100% behinde you..but at the same time i understand there point of view...i was wondering if they have research it at all or if you have provided them with any info!! i have been overly blessed and my fam is unbelievable!!! the are wilth me all the way..but this is my sugestion!!!! Carrnie Willson's book!!! the first one.. i think it is "im still hungry" i forget,, she is in a red top!!! on the frount!!! i geve that to my dad to read...he was ok with my choice but he was being a father and he was nervious about some risks!! but he read the book anad he understood so much more....the surgery its self..what i will have to do!!! and what i am going thought now.being over weight!!!!! Carrniw Willson lays it all out and is so honest!! that may help them to understand you!! and why you have to do this!!! i hope this help!!! good luck! k8

First, Congratulations on getting a date! That is some wonderful news. YOu should be celebrating and forget what your family says. People are always afraid of the unknown. And most have no idea what it's like to take a big step in a right direction to help themselves out. YOu are being proactive in your life and that is what counts. Maybe you should sit down and explain to them how much this surgery means to you and all the good that will come about from it. If they still dont' support you, you have this place and local meetings filled with ppl that care.