need some help

well i am 6 years out and i want to stop bake all the time yes i do  eat it. how do i stop it? yes i bake with sugar. i am going to try and start doing right the first of the year. yes i know what to do but i just love my darn sweets. i am not exercising too cold to walk outside. i like to do some excise in the house. i dont drive so cant get somewhere to exercise. i am now 156 pounds. any advice? thanks, anita

Hello Anita:

For myself food is never the issue it is merely a symptom of underlying issues, emotions I have yet to feel, identify or work through. Diets therefore are not the answer, rigid rules are a set up for me to binge/fail so I work on small changes. I look at the pouch guidelines to longterm success, it is all about moderation for me, making peace with food and letting go of absolutes. Allowing myself to feel get inside my head and do the personal growth that the tool can not has helped tremendously. Being emotionally present and looking for balance are key for me when I am so far out of touch with myself that I am numbing with self sabotaging things like food choices, lack of helathy movement (exercise). I remind myself that I am most important more so than anyone or anything (hard for me now that I have a 4 wk old newborn! LOL) but truly I have to be healthy to allow her to be helathy too.

Why wait to the first of the year? For me that is old behavior and a set up to fail once again. What can you start today? Like perhaps adding more water to your fluid intake..small baby steps....avoiding the perfection and looking at progress...Eating 2 cookies vs 4 etc...small victories.

I know when I fail to plan I plan to fail. Can you take some time to plan a few days activities and food choices that you have available in the house (may involve small shopping trip)....Nothing extravagant just some fruit and veggies and high fiber grain choices....

Exercise I can make a million excuses why I can not do it, too hot, too cold, too busy, too tired (I really am now tih 2 hrs sleep most days! LOL) but I know movement and breath is the key to stress relief for myself and therefore less sabotage when I am less stressed.

It is challengign at times for me to step out of the victim role and not only survive my obesity but learn I can thrive in the midst of difficulty lies opportunity if I choose. Every moment is an opportunity to grow and learn....Simple reframes, positive affirmations, focusing on the things I am grateful for and the positives however small at times vs the negatives help so much more than any diet I know of!

I wish you well. Geneen Roth has soem great books any of hers are a great read on these issues that folks have with emotions and eating, going back to WLS support groups in person and online keeping active, finding a buddy to share challenges and successes to be accountable daily with has helped me although I know ultimately I am the only one in control of my success! Getting back into therapy has also helped me tremendously, groups like OA or CODA also can help many with the underlying issues and can supplement therapy and self help books and activities. I do best when i surround myself with support vs isolate (the natural tendency I have when struggling)...

Be well, post often no matter what we are here and we care!HUGE HUGS..Happy Holidays...

jamie,
how did i do on my first day?
here i am............ woo hoo.. my first day of eating right and i feel very good and i am so proud of myself.... i can do it.....................

today ( tues) i was 153.8

tues food

b- 2 scrambled  eggs

L- 1/2 c. cottage cheese
1 slice bologna
1/2 c. fruit ****tail (rinsed)

D- 3 oz baked chicken breast
12 asparagus spears
3  potato and onion pierogies

snack- 6 garden herb triscits
1 oz. sharp cheese

4cups water
2 cups coffee


anita

Hey Anita
glad to see you posting for accountabilty and support...
More important than cleaning up my diet I ask myself how I am doing beyond the food and scale to was I emotionally present, feeling my feelings, beign in my body and such...those are larger hurdles that when i overcome the food.scale are always much healthier in their direction. be well.

Exercise??????????????
goals for next week perhaps glad you didnt wait on working on this until the first!

yes i am starting acountabilty on the gradutes board..  excercise that is going to happen too..

great!