Support from Husband
I am very interested in having Weight Loss Surgery but my husband is iffy about it. He thinks I can loose over 100lbs without the surgery. He says if I do have the surgery to give it a few months and I will be right back to my old eating habits. I am afraid if I don't do something about it I am going to keep going up and up. I am currently just 6lbs shy of 300lbs I am only 28yrs old. I have 2 children ages 2 and 5 months. I have a hard time playing with them. He is afraid of the complications as I am too. But then I realize if I don't do something about this I may never be able to run and chase my kids etc. I am afraid his unsupportiveness will lead to me not having surgery. I have already called my ins company to see if they even cover it and they do. Has anyone else had a spouse who isn't supportive of WLS? My mother on the other hand is for it and looking into it herself.
My BF was real hesitant about it. I took him to info sessions and provided him with detailed information about before and after surgery. The entire process took 8 months from inquiry to surgery date so it has given him a lot of time to absorb it all and he is in a much better place now. Give your DH some time--the more you educate him the better he will understand it all.
Hi! I'm Lin in Watertown ... my hubbie Pat was hesitant at first but once he heard our Doctor, and realized this is something I need to do for me, he was on board. I was taking diabetes, high blood pressure, depression, fluid retention, and a slew of other meds. Now the only thing I take is for my low thyroid and a vitamin.
If your hubbie has a few pounds to lose, tell him he gets to be along for the ride for free too.. that's Pat's contention. He's lost 20 pounds and all he's done is cut back!
Good luck, and email me if you need help! [email protected]
Lin
If your hubbie has a few pounds to lose, tell him he gets to be along for the ride for free too.. that's Pat's contention. He's lost 20 pounds and all he's done is cut back!
Good luck, and email me if you need help! [email protected]
Lin
I hope your hubby can come to realize that what you need is support and not more guilt and shame. Weight Loss Surgery is NOT the "easy way out" - what's so easy about major abdominal surgery? - but even if it were, what would be wrong with that? Are you supposed to suffer and be punished as if you've somehow done something wrong? What about someone who needs a stent put into an artery due to plaque buildup - should they not get the stent because it's the "easy way out "and instead take the risk of a major, fatal heart attack and try to "clean" the plaque out by eating healthily and just taking medications until it (hopefully) dissolves? Why is it that he feels someone he loves should have to take a solution that's HARD on them?
Sorry, just sort of hit one of my nerves! LOL But I'm sure you've tried the "hard" way so many times you've lost count. If obese people could lose the weight that easily and keep it off, Biggest Loser would not be such a phenomenal success. It's the sheer rarity of people losing such large amount of weight that is its drawing power. And let's face it - you wouldn't have Bob and Jillian and an on-the-spot dietician planning and preparing meals every day, not to mention the available time to work out 10-12 hours a day, every day as they do. And so many of those folks have regained because there's a reason they were obese to begin with. And it's NOT because they were lazy or gluttonous or sinful in any way.
I hope you can find a way to get through to him that this is a life-saving matter, not a cosmetic "I wanna look good" vanity trip for you. Otherwise, you'll just have to be very brave and move forward on your own. Good luck!
Sorry, just sort of hit one of my nerves! LOL But I'm sure you've tried the "hard" way so many times you've lost count. If obese people could lose the weight that easily and keep it off, Biggest Loser would not be such a phenomenal success. It's the sheer rarity of people losing such large amount of weight that is its drawing power. And let's face it - you wouldn't have Bob and Jillian and an on-the-spot dietician planning and preparing meals every day, not to mention the available time to work out 10-12 hours a day, every day as they do. And so many of those folks have regained because there's a reason they were obese to begin with. And it's NOT because they were lazy or gluttonous or sinful in any way.
I hope you can find a way to get through to him that this is a life-saving matter, not a cosmetic "I wanna look good" vanity trip for you. Otherwise, you'll just have to be very brave and move forward on your own. Good luck!
Vivimolly
Sorry to say but you got to do what is right for you, not your husband!
It's your health, not his. I was at 276 pounds, had a hard time playing with the kids, developed diabetes and high cholesterol, had a hard time doing my job efficiently, and knew I had to do something to get my health back in line or die of an early age. I want to live life to its fullest, play with grand babies, and be able to walk upstairs without stopping to catch my breath. It is all possible now!! I am now 158 pounds and feel wonderful. It's not about being skinny, it's about being healthy!! My husband wasnt against me having surgery but he was 100% for it either. I told him I had to do this for me, my kids, my future grand kids and I sure the hell wasnt gonna let him or anyone else stand in my way. Since your mom is supportive, take her to the meetings with you, have her be your helping hand before, during and after surgery. Believe having your husbands mother in law at the house too much your husband will become much more helpful and understanding
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