New to board

Hi, I'm new to the board - I have been reading the boards for awhile, but this is the 1st time I've written.  I am all set to have lap band surgery on Tues, Oct 6th.  I'm really excited and really nervous at the same time.  I want this to work so much it's unbelievable.  Anyway, my question is a little different then anything I've seen before.  I'm a really private person and keep just about everything to myself. I'm there for anyone else but when it comes to me, I'm pretty private.  My husband has been encouraging me through this journey and I have told my 2 daughters about what I'm doing, but no one else has any idea.  I would like to keep this whole process quiet and just take care of myself w/o anyone else's comments or opinions.  Is wls possible w/o telling people.  Has anyone else done it quietly?  I know this sounds like I'm crazy.

I was only told a few..But let me tell ya everyone knows Now!  Rumors went around I was dying and such...lol..so I am now what my family calls  Weight loss surgery poster child...:) I'm proud of what I have done so far and not a easy way out at all....and your not crazy Plus a little secert you will be surprised how many will support what you have done and Support is gonna be something you need. Sure your gonna have those who dont understand and such..like most of mine neg people where Man I wouldnt of done that should of diet and exercise...well I did do all of it but Failed lost and regained triple the lbs I lost! Anyway your choice...and Many blessings and Congrats on your Journey

The only problem with keeping it quite is where will your support be? It is nothing to be ashamed of. This is a huge decision and one that will affect your life in every aspect. You will be eating differently, having a lot of "gas" and bathroom related times, not eating when others are and they will want to know why. God forbid any thing goes wrong with surgery and you have to be out longer or are hospitalized. Then when the weight loss starts to happen...well its nice to have cheerleaders along the way. Rethink this. You do not have to advertise or tell everyone but I think it is healthy to share. We have hidden in our large selves long enough.

You did not mention is you work outside the home or not.

No you are not crazy...but again ther secrecy has me concerned.

yes it is...the biggest problem is when you are on liquids. i only told a few people. when others asked me why i wasnt eating much i would just say im not real hungry

Thanks, I appreciate the input.  I think I am giong to mention it to some family and leave it there.  I'll deal as I go w/ letting others know.  Thanks again