On the fence looking for a little support

OK today I thought I should not have the surgery. Road blocks setting in. I have H Pylori and need to be treated for that. No biggie lots of people have that. Now I cancelled my sleep study testing do to cold feet? Some what ifs are peeking in to my thoughts. See my Husband and I want to move to be closer to our Family. I put the question to him what if we can't move until Aug. ? He said what if we can't then we just can move Aug 2,2007. I just want to do the right thing. I am rescheduling my sleep center testing tomorrow when I get to work then we will take it from there. My Husband said we will take it one day at a time! Any second guessers out there? I would love to hear from you. Thank you for letting me go on. Lori L

It's so normal to be apprehensive about the WLS surgery...and that's okay. You don't mention if you went through all your testing yet that is required by the Dr. as well as the insurance company. If you don't even have a date yet, I would go through the necessary tests because it can't hurt to be checked out anyhow. Soooo if you have big doubts about this, take the testing time to really think if this is surgery right for you. You don't have to race into something you might be unsure of. Research more and go to a few of the support groups and even get the feel about it here. You'll know in your gut (no pun intended) if this is what you really want to do. Your husband is right on when he says to take one day at a time. Be well and good luck on whatever decision you make. Take Care~~ Diane

Hi Lori - I am a big fan of weight loss surgery for the right people under the right cir****tances. I realize that it is not for everyone and I know a few folks who decided not to go this route and took their time and lost weight via more "traditional" methods. This surgery was originally intended for those who feel they have tried and tried and tried every other way to lose the weight and this is their last chance alternative since their health is in jeopardy. Not everyone looks at it in that drastic but it was meant to be a last ditch effort - not something taken lightly. Being nervous is common. Second guessing yourself is fairly common. Serious doubts means you are not ready emotionally yet. You may get there, you may not but wherever you are is perfectly fine and it is where you need to be as part of your own process. Life doesn't stop when you're considering weight loss surgery and that can be difficult when you're considering other major life decisions. Take your time, weigh the pros & cons, and learn the difference between serious doubts and just butterflies. Make the decision that works best for YOU! This your life. Your weight loss issues. Your journey. This doesn't mean not to take your family into consideration but at the end of the day, YOU have to be ok in order to be strong enough for those *****ly on you to be ok as well so try to make the best decision for your life. Good luck to you.