I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I'm doing a diet myself since I've regained.  I am doing between 1500 - 2000 calories a day (which was very low to what I got myself up to eating).  And,,,,i work out 5 times a week.  I started slow and I do only what I can.  I'm only in competition with myself.  Like you, I got to the point where I was constantly sick, but it was due to regain, and caused a bunch of stomach problems.   Try eating smaller portions of what you are used to.  When you start out, try eating a half chicken breast, the stop yourself, and don't drink anything with it.  You will feel really hungry after that, but then after about 20 minutes, you will feel full.  You may be getting sick, like I did, because I was grossly overeating....hurting myself.  I had to stop.  This is how it worked for me.   Talking to someone about your mom will help too.  I lost mine and it caused a lot of anxiety too,  that can also make you sick.   I wish you the best of luck with everything.  Hang in there.  message me if you need to talk to someone, that's what we are here for, support.

Stacey Elliott

Any particular brand of dark choc?

My NUT recommended 1 ounce square of dark chocolate or Sugar Free Chocolate Pudding. 

well, I've been stalled on weight loss for going on week three now.. I've been eating pretty good (I think) and my one little treat when I absolutely can't stand not having something has been these little russel stover sugar free peanut butter cups. I only ever have one a day... And then I took time to REALLY read the label. No wonder I'm not losing weight! The calories and carbs are way more than I thought they were. Because I saw "sugar free" I just assumed they were harmless. This is the perfect example that shows why it's so important to read the labels and be mindful of everything we put into our bodies... that being said, does anyone have any suggestions for sweet tooth cravings. Something that isn't yogurt or sugar free jello. I'm getting so burned out on those. Thanks all!

I stayed really strict the first six months.  It was very easy to do after the pre-op low carb diet for the months leading up to surgery, then the 14 day protein shake diet and the post op protein shake diet that I stuck with for 4 weeks.   It changed my relationship with food.  It sort of dropped off my radar, so to speak.   

After that I adopted an "all things in moderation" approach.  If I want something really bad....and the desire lasts for a couple days....then I'll have it.  I enjoy cooking and grilling so I'll have more control over ingredients.  

There was certainly a "honeymoon" period for me....and it was those first few months.  I'm very glad I stayed strict.