Too Thin?

Too small

OK, My BMI has me at “normal”  but everyone thinks I am getting too small and starting to look very thin.  My Labs so far are normal… (I just had more blood work done yesterday)  I eat at least 4 meals a day and have added starches back into my diet. I take my vitamins every day…. But I can easily drop a few lbs… I have energy and can dance, walk, and  swim with ease… although I am not a gym / routine exercise person I stay active…ALL protein shakes make me nauseous… (I don’t know why I am very careful with the sugar content …because 5 or more grams make me dump)  (mixed with water or not)  So help!  I was 283 and now struggle to stay at 116… The funny thing was for the first year I lost the weight like a snail…

Are you trying to maintain your weight at 116?  If so, then you need to talk to your nutritionist and switch your diet to the maintenance phase.  You might also want to have a RMR test done to see how many calories you should be eating to maintain your current weight.  If you want to gain a few pounds back, then the nutritionist can help you with that too.  She can help you get out of the "weight loss / diet" mindset and figure out how to start eating to maintain rather than lose. As for people commenting that you look too thin -- I've found that it takes a good year after hitting goal weight for people to start looking normal again.  When my mom lost all her weight she looked sickly and far too thin, but within 6 months her facial features had filled in a bit and she started looking much better -- guess the remaining fat needs to rearrange itself and find it's new home (or something).  There's a guy at work who had the surgery and lost very quickly and started looking like he was dying of cancer or something.... but now, several months later, he's looking better and "filling in" a  bit.   Pam

Thanks!

I am about 2 years out. (may 15^th will be 2 years post opp) I actually am doing everything so far that I have been told to gain.   I think my body is still adjusting (kinda like you said).. perhaps mine just is taking longer to “figure it self out”…LOL Jean

Im with ya... I started at 263 and am 117 now.  I get comments but according to my Dr. and all charts Im dead on FINE! Its just a drastic change for others. Your doing great.

Thanks!   BTW you look great! I went to a meeting with DH and was so happy with the way I looked then this woman came up to me and asked if I was sick... it put a damper on the night... I think if my labs are fine and the doctor says I'm fine then other people are just going to have to "deal"...LOL I lose very easily now, I can eat anything and not gain, are you like that to?

Forget the haters... honestly people have such little tact.  :( Its like asking a heavy woman if shes preggers... sheesh. Chin up you have done so good dont let anyone make you feel bad. GOOD FOR YOU !!!!!!!

It hurts to have worked so hard, then to be told "You are too skinny.  You look sick."  One college friend saw me and said that one of my pictures looked like I was a crack dealer.  I was so upset by this.  I thought I looked really good in the picture as I had just gotten my tummy tuck..  a little pale maybe... but my hair had just been colored, my makeup looked nice.  I still will not see what she saw in that picture.  It hurt me. I did have a lady in my gastric bypass support group confront me in front of an entire group of people.  She said she was worried about me.  She said I had an eating disorder, and I needed to get to my therapist as soon as humanly possible.  then tried to pull my boyfriend in, wanting him to agree.  He did not agree...  he knows what I eat, and knows that sometimes I will even treat myself to something special not on my diet, VERY rarely...  but something an anorexic would never do.  I knew she was wrong, but it hurt me so deeply.  I did go see my therapist, and mostly it was over the point, "why would she say those things to me?"  The people I work with right now never knew me as overweight.  My boyfriend never knew me as overweight.  If you were to ask them right now, none of them would say I am too thin.  They say I look great.  They know about the surgery, and cannot believe its me when they see my before pictures, but they dont think I am unhealthy.  I think its just hard for people who knew us as overweight to see us so thin... to them we are frail & sickly... I guess.

Thanks so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it hard to have others do that to you, when you know that you are eating plenty (and I can and do eat)and are a normal weight... Its nice to see others who are small like me and have had the same issue!