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Did you not get the message the first time around when the moderators deleted not just ONE but TWO of your posts for your personal attacks on the people in the RNY forum who were simply trying to help you by telling you that the information you were putting forth -- and you NEVER did identify where you read that the life expectancy after RNY is only 10-15 years, BTW -- isn't supported by any clinical data, but that because you were so very anxious about the long term effects of the surgery, you probably shouldn't have it?
No one there was mean to you or gave you any reason to call them names in that thread or to call them "psychos" or "disgusting" in this one! I sincerely hope you do well on your own and don't need to have surgery (the odds are against it, but it is by no means impossible), but your post is highly offensive to people who simply tried to help.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
I know many don't exhaust and stick with it that's where the 2-5% of morbidly obese people are successful. The other 95-98% fail at it. There are various reasons some being metabolic in nature and no matter how much one diets there's a point the body will not cooperate with continued weigh loss then comes the frustration and feeling of failure one more time. Giving up again.
I think you are doing the best for yourself right now. It seems you haven't exhausted all chances of losing, I believe everyone has to give it the final hoorah before considering surgery. You haven't hit the point where diets just will not get you to a healthy weight.
Of course people can gain after WLS you have a period of time where the surgery will work no matter what you eat because of such a small capacity and malabsorption (RNY and DS,DS continues to malabsorb). If someone doesn't optimize the 12-24 months to learn early eating and getting the weight off there's a good chance they'll regain. However if they truly want to lose and maintain it's doable, If they get off track and work the rules again they can lose regain. I've seen it happen with others so I know it's possible.
Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05
9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining
www.dazzlinglashesandbeyond.com
on 11/27/13 11:10 pm
No offense to morbidly obese people, because I'm one of them. I tried every diet in the book, it was never the diets that failed. It was me that failed. The majority of those people who gain after weight loss surgery, don't regain because th surgery failed, they regain because they go back to eating poorly, overheating, emotional eating. There is a large majority that gain back weight. My cousin included. I don't believe the majority of weight loss people have truly exhausted every effort, I believe they have tried dieting over and over but never truly stuck to it. I mean stuck through it and not gave up after months saying screw it I'm eating how I used to. If I have the surgery I want to truly know in my heart that I have exercised and eaten well for over a year with no results. Medically speaking, if you eat less & exercise more there is hardly a percentage of people that aren't going to lose. The surgery is just a tool, eventually it can fail just like everyone else. Before I cut up my perfectly wonderful stomach and intestines, I want to know in my own heart that I truly did everything I could have. There are many else patients that say that and lie. I know the guy I went through training with for else, asked if there was a McDonald's nearby during lunch "for the coffee" they have the best coffee. I believe that wls is a blessing for some, but if I can not dump, worry about any long term issues & improve myself through diet and exercise, I know that exceed what is done health wise over surgery, I am glad you are well with your surgery though, It gives me hope in case if I choose to do it. Happy thanksgiving!
Good luck trying on your own. That's not a bad idea if you haven't exhausted every chance to lose AND keep it off. Statically 2-5% of morbidly obese people lose over 100 lbs and keep it off, hopefully you will fall in that small percentage.
I tried many diets with no long-term success. I researched WLS for 6 years and didn't do it because I wasn't emotionally ready. You are young if this doesn't work for you (and I hope it does) you still have the option of WLS.
Being almost 9 years post-op and complication free I'd do it again in a heart beat. I'm almost 50 years old....I don't know how many years I have left everyone dies eventually but I do know I'll continue to enjoy the years afforded me with the excess weight gone and no comorbidities thanks to WLS.
Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05
9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining
www.dazzlinglashesandbeyond.com
I am sorry to hear that. I am so thankful that besides gaining weight back my family members have not had any lifelong issues. 9 lbs in a month!!! woohoo!!!! do that 10 months that is 90 lbs!! You can do this. Stay consistent. It didn't take a day to gain and it won't go away that quickly either. I have a plan for tomorrow...I eat lots and lots and lots of veggies before dinner (volumetrics is my pal) The veggie tray (no dip) is my BFF. When it is time for dinner I have a touch of what I like and then get outta there! I can't wait for the "worms in dirt" that my sister will make...I have a very specific amount and then, get out!!! I know you can do this. Just keep swimming. I learned to forgive myself often. If I have a slip up tomorrow I will forgive me and then make my next choice a healthy choice. Have a happy day! I am around and I would love to be supportive as you do this!!
on 11/27/13 12:36 pm
I honestly couldn't do the surgery, my cousin died after it at the age of 35 ish, my other cousin 10 years ago had the surgery, I found out a few months ago something tore inside??? And her intestines were emptying inside. She was so sick, her daughter refuses to have the surgery bc of what her mom went through. I just pray I can do this!!!
on 11/27/13 12:33 pm
I started eating "better" and exercising on oct 22. 3 weeks later I lost 9 lbs. I'm nervous though because of thanksgiving and I had a soda today, I gave up soda when I started. I pray I'm still losing. If not, I know what I need to do to start and that would be eat less!!!!!
I am sorry that I missed this post! How are you doing???
I decided to do what I had to do after 3 family members all had regain after surgery. I went and did the head work and ta-da, seem to be doing better now.
Hope you stop in frequently!!!
on 10/22/13 9:48 am
SW:416
CW: 300
Just wanted to say hello and share in the experience
