LOL, I had forgotten how "talented" you are!

I would say neither.  It's about your own self worth.  How we don't blossom to our full potential so that we don't make others feel badly that they don't measure up to who we are.  It's about not letting ourselves revel in our own fabulosity because we don't want to be seen as thinking we are better than others.  It's about not being afraid to let your brilliance shine, because if you do, it allows those around us to allow their's to shine, also.  I think that's what it's about!  ;-)

Mary 

I got clearance from my surgeon to start working out again...yay!!!  He said I can do everything but bench pressing.  WHAT???  Gee, I'm gonna miss bench pressing!

Hi, and welcome to our little corner of OH.  Wow, sounds like you have been through a lot with your band and your health.  I may not understand all of it but I know a lot about PCOS.  When I first started gaining weight, I gained over a hundred pounds in one year.  It took years for them to come up with a diagnosis, they didn't even know what PCOS was back then, they just said I had an enlarged ovary.  My endocrinologist said the way to control the symptoms was with low carb diet and exercise.  They then found out that women with PCOS have insulin resistance and are prone to type two diabetes.  The way that I lost 131 pounds was on the Atkins diet and exercise, I've maintained my weight loss for four years now.  I eat natural whole foods and still have a hard time getting in all of the required amount of vegetables and water but it's definitely worth the effort.  All of my labwork has been consistently normal, I recently had an EKG and everything was normal.

It sounds to me like you are starting to get a handle on your situation healthwise, I would say that if you aren't comfortable with having an RNY at this time, don't have it.  I have a friend who has PCOS and she has an RNY.  She still has the symptoms, has not lost all of the weight after four years and basically eats the low carb way that I do.  She struggles not to gain, same as I do only she can't eat as much as I do.  Just some food for thought.

Let me know if you have any questions,

Mary         

 My proud today:

I had to take out of an ATM to pay my baby sitter. I had to take out $60, but was paying the sitter $50. I needed to break a twenty but didn't want to spend a whole bunch. Dunkin donuts was closest. I stood in line and was debating the 'best' option to spend the least $. Where I live, calories are posted on the display menu's so there is no denying what your eating. So I stood there knowing I didn't want to spend calories to make change...so I decided to walk out and see if the bank directly behind me would make change w/o me being a customer. Low & behold they did!!

So my proud today was turning around!!