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on 5/6/10 12:01 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 5/6/10 12:01 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
Topic: RE: feeling a lil discouraged
Hi Kimberly,
First let me congratulate you for having the inner strength and determination to go to the gym. Let's face it it is not easy to do when we are so overweight. Something I was never able to do. KUDOS to you for doing it!!!
Here's my 2 cents on this...
You should celebrate that you are able to do 10 mins. I'm sure it is not easy. I know when I was at my heaviest it was a real struggle for me to do 10 mins at 3.0. I can remember many mornings thinking I will never get to 1 mile, I will never get to 20 mins forget about 60....
I'm sure you already know that science shows you need get in that magic 30 mins a day to maintain good cardio health BUT at this point I'm sure most Dr's would say 10 mins is better than no mins. Having said that, I'm sure you already know you can't stay at 10 mins forever....you have to push yourself at some point.
For me I made it a little personal challenge.....when I'd hit that 10 min point I would say I could do a little more and I'd push and push and push. Each time I did this I felt SO PROUD of myself that it actually spurred me on to do more the next day....before I knew it I was doing 15 and then 20! WOW, that was big for me. Eventually at my high point in daily cardio I was walking 90 mins and 5 miles. WAHOOOO. This is something I don't tell people to do it was just a personal challenge for me. I only share it with you to show if we get excited about doing something and make it a personal challenge we can often do much more than we think we are capable of. Hey, I flew in a little Cessna plane this week and I have a paralyzing fear of flying that has kept me grounded for more than 10 years....once I put my mind to it to do something about it I was able to face the fear and am still working on it; one step at a time.
To wrap it all up I would encourage you to celebrate what you have accomplished so far but settle for less than you are really able to do...I bet you are stronger than you think and if you give it a try one day I bet you will be so excited you did those extra steps. Every extra step you take gets you closer and closer to your ultimate goal of a healthy body.
Post again and let me know how you are doing.
Hang in there, don't give up, I just know you can do it!!
Take it easy, one meal at a time and one step at a time.
TTFN
Ruth
First let me congratulate you for having the inner strength and determination to go to the gym. Let's face it it is not easy to do when we are so overweight. Something I was never able to do. KUDOS to you for doing it!!!
Here's my 2 cents on this...
You should celebrate that you are able to do 10 mins. I'm sure it is not easy. I know when I was at my heaviest it was a real struggle for me to do 10 mins at 3.0. I can remember many mornings thinking I will never get to 1 mile, I will never get to 20 mins forget about 60....
I'm sure you already know that science shows you need get in that magic 30 mins a day to maintain good cardio health BUT at this point I'm sure most Dr's would say 10 mins is better than no mins. Having said that, I'm sure you already know you can't stay at 10 mins forever....you have to push yourself at some point.
For me I made it a little personal challenge.....when I'd hit that 10 min point I would say I could do a little more and I'd push and push and push. Each time I did this I felt SO PROUD of myself that it actually spurred me on to do more the next day....before I knew it I was doing 15 and then 20! WOW, that was big for me. Eventually at my high point in daily cardio I was walking 90 mins and 5 miles. WAHOOOO. This is something I don't tell people to do it was just a personal challenge for me. I only share it with you to show if we get excited about doing something and make it a personal challenge we can often do much more than we think we are capable of. Hey, I flew in a little Cessna plane this week and I have a paralyzing fear of flying that has kept me grounded for more than 10 years....once I put my mind to it to do something about it I was able to face the fear and am still working on it; one step at a time.
To wrap it all up I would encourage you to celebrate what you have accomplished so far but settle for less than you are really able to do...I bet you are stronger than you think and if you give it a try one day I bet you will be so excited you did those extra steps. Every extra step you take gets you closer and closer to your ultimate goal of a healthy body.
Post again and let me know how you are doing.
Hang in there, don't give up, I just know you can do it!!
Take it easy, one meal at a time and one step at a time.
TTFN
Ruth
(deactivated member)
on 5/5/10 10:39 pm
on 5/5/10 10:39 pm
Topic: RE: What are you celebrating and proud of? Weds
LOL - I do. I have had strangers stop and say hello when I'm out running errands and I'm no where near the mall that I walk in and when I ask them if I know them in an embarrassing way they tell me that they see me walking in the mall - this has happened 3 different times over this past year. So strangers - who obviously are strange people - are watching me. There are a couple of walkers that we see from time to time that we wave to - but both the lady who stopped us yesterday and the other 3 are people I don't wave to and only one of them I have seen and waved to in the mall since meeting her at the grocery store.
Do your remember your mom telling you never to wear torn underwear because you never know when you'll be in an accident and you don't want to be embarrassed in an emergency room? Well this is similar - take care with how you dress when you go to the mall or other public place because you don't know who is watching and remembering you. Lucky for me this has all been a positive experience.
On May 6, 2010 at 4:03 AM Pacific Time, gloop wrote:
Skylar, you got fans and paparazzi after you LOLDo your remember your mom telling you never to wear torn underwear because you never know when you'll be in an accident and you don't want to be embarrassed in an emergency room? Well this is similar - take care with how you dress when you go to the mall or other public place because you don't know who is watching and remembering you. Lucky for me this has all been a positive experience.
gloop
on 5/5/10 9:03 pm
on 5/5/10 9:03 pm
Topic: RE: What are you celebrating and proud of? Weds
I'm in the process of changing my diet, relationship with food and my lifestyle. I'm in training for maintaining.
Skylar, you got fans and paparazzi after you LOL
I'm in the process of changing my diet, relationship with food and my lifestyle. I'm in training for maintaining.
(deactivated member)
on 5/5/10 12:57 pm
on 5/5/10 12:57 pm
Topic: RE: What are you celebrating and proud of? Weds
Flygirl LOL - I'm still excited over your flying lesson and I wasn't even there.
Mary - I'm so sensitive to sodium in my food that if I even look at a salt shaker I can gain 5 pounds of water - but at my worst I could gain 10 pounds of water and my ankles were so swollen that I couldn't bend them. I'm really, really careful with sodium now.
I'm very proud today because I'm continuing to do some heavy spring cleaning (LOL I'm doing it slowly, should take me a year to finish with peaking at the computer regularly) so I thought I wouldn't walk today. DH dragged me to the mall and I did a brisk 5 mile walk. Near the end a really kind woman stopped us, was insistant but apologetic at the same time - so we did stop. OMG she started to tell me that she has been watching me walk for over a year now in the mall (it will be 2 years this August that I started walking in the mall) and she just had to tell me how wonderful I look and that I've lost a lot of weight - oh yeah, and she said DH also looked good - but she was amazed at my progress. OH BOY, I'm walking on air. I'm so glad I listened to DH and went to the mall today.
Mary - I'm so sensitive to sodium in my food that if I even look at a salt shaker I can gain 5 pounds of water - but at my worst I could gain 10 pounds of water and my ankles were so swollen that I couldn't bend them. I'm really, really careful with sodium now.
I'm very proud today because I'm continuing to do some heavy spring cleaning (LOL I'm doing it slowly, should take me a year to finish with peaking at the computer regularly) so I thought I wouldn't walk today. DH dragged me to the mall and I did a brisk 5 mile walk. Near the end a really kind woman stopped us, was insistant but apologetic at the same time - so we did stop. OMG she started to tell me that she has been watching me walk for over a year now in the mall (it will be 2 years this August that I started walking in the mall) and she just had to tell me how wonderful I look and that I've lost a lot of weight - oh yeah, and she said DH also looked good - but she was amazed at my progress. OH BOY, I'm walking on air. I'm so glad I listened to DH and went to the mall today.
Topic: RE: feeling a lil discouraged
shove it up her behine sounds good to me, LOL i busted up when I read that, cuz it excatly what i felt like doing. Thanks for that laugh!
HW389 SW367 CW273 GW180
1lb lost is 1 step closer to your goal !!
1lb lost is 1 step closer to your goal !!
Topic: RE: feeling a lil discouraged
so sorry u feeling this way today
I have had many days like this
My problem is I love to workout but I would always get injured, like big time injuries that put my workouts on hold, so now I am wicked scared to push myself..but I do because I have to! if I do not lose the weight I will die, if I don't push my comfort zone, I will die
I will not die from an extra 5 minutes of working out..push past the pain, it is scary I get it
I have fibromyalgia, so many torn ligaments and tendons, even a partially torn achilles tendon that makes walking painful...I have a fractured at L4 on my back..etc. I could go on and on
but sometimes it is more of a mind game than a physical one..
u need to find something that will help u push a little farther each and every day, and yes we will have days where everything hurts and will limp to the car and maybe even have to stop and sit down before we can even get to the car but we MUST keep moving
I usually spend my brisk walks half walkign and half limping..soemtimes it gets so bad the pain is excruiating but I keep moving..if I stop moving I will die
when I exercise I keep telling myself, I will not die from this, it hurts well at least I am still alive to feel this pain and then can push past it, even if it is one more minute
I find the Biggest loser this season very inspirational, they have a guy on there who was 526 lbs, all the exercise has not killed him, tough as it has been, he is like 340 lbs now and runs his ass off on the treadmill..that is inspiration
for me sometimes the fear in my head holds me back
try not labelling yourself, obese, disabled etc..you are a lovely woman and deserves to be healthier- labels are like chains that hold us down..try some new words to describe yourself..how about biggest loser, gym member, treadmill hamster, walkin the weight away, weight loss traveler..u need to find some positive things u can say to yourself to keep u motivated even when a skinny ***** tells u to go eat wheat toast*lol* hold that head high and say thanks, i will try that..and go about your day doing what YOU feel is right
this is really really hard, discouraged is not a large enuf word to describe these type of days..I wasted so much money with personal trainers, they even gave up on me cuz I never lost any weight eventhough i would bust my ass....workout twice as hard as an average sized person and they would lsoe 5 lbs and I could gain 2lbs..so frustrating, such hard work BUT we are worth the work, right? we are worth the fights, struggles? we are worth all of it to get healthier.
keep on walking.. u r doing great , ur moving for the first time, u said u never exercised b4 right? so u have started, u have it in your head u r going to be biking, walking etc..maybe keep an exercise log to keep track, it may surprise you how much u r actually doing, knowing u did it feels good, then u know u can do more
sorry I talk alot*lol* your story just struck a cord with me cuz I feel it, I feel like that each every day when I decide to take the stairs at work and cringe with each and every step and using the railing to pull myself up and have to stand aside to let ppl pass..but keep moving..just keep moving
like Dory in Nemo*just keep swimming just keep swimming**lol*
take care and wish I could be your workout buddy..i would shove that wheat toast up her little behind or we could just squash her *lol*
I have had many days like this
My problem is I love to workout but I would always get injured, like big time injuries that put my workouts on hold, so now I am wicked scared to push myself..but I do because I have to! if I do not lose the weight I will die, if I don't push my comfort zone, I will die
I will not die from an extra 5 minutes of working out..push past the pain, it is scary I get it
I have fibromyalgia, so many torn ligaments and tendons, even a partially torn achilles tendon that makes walking painful...I have a fractured at L4 on my back..etc. I could go on and on
but sometimes it is more of a mind game than a physical one..
u need to find something that will help u push a little farther each and every day, and yes we will have days where everything hurts and will limp to the car and maybe even have to stop and sit down before we can even get to the car but we MUST keep moving
I usually spend my brisk walks half walkign and half limping..soemtimes it gets so bad the pain is excruiating but I keep moving..if I stop moving I will die
when I exercise I keep telling myself, I will not die from this, it hurts well at least I am still alive to feel this pain and then can push past it, even if it is one more minute
I find the Biggest loser this season very inspirational, they have a guy on there who was 526 lbs, all the exercise has not killed him, tough as it has been, he is like 340 lbs now and runs his ass off on the treadmill..that is inspiration
for me sometimes the fear in my head holds me back
try not labelling yourself, obese, disabled etc..you are a lovely woman and deserves to be healthier- labels are like chains that hold us down..try some new words to describe yourself..how about biggest loser, gym member, treadmill hamster, walkin the weight away, weight loss traveler..u need to find some positive things u can say to yourself to keep u motivated even when a skinny ***** tells u to go eat wheat toast*lol* hold that head high and say thanks, i will try that..and go about your day doing what YOU feel is right
this is really really hard, discouraged is not a large enuf word to describe these type of days..I wasted so much money with personal trainers, they even gave up on me cuz I never lost any weight eventhough i would bust my ass....workout twice as hard as an average sized person and they would lsoe 5 lbs and I could gain 2lbs..so frustrating, such hard work BUT we are worth the work, right? we are worth the fights, struggles? we are worth all of it to get healthier.
keep on walking.. u r doing great , ur moving for the first time, u said u never exercised b4 right? so u have started, u have it in your head u r going to be biking, walking etc..maybe keep an exercise log to keep track, it may surprise you how much u r actually doing, knowing u did it feels good, then u know u can do more
sorry I talk alot*lol* your story just struck a cord with me cuz I feel it, I feel like that each every day when I decide to take the stairs at work and cringe with each and every step and using the railing to pull myself up and have to stand aside to let ppl pass..but keep moving..just keep moving
like Dory in Nemo*just keep swimming just keep swimming**lol*
take care and wish I could be your workout buddy..i would shove that wheat toast up her little behind or we could just squash her *lol*
started this process back in 2007/2008 denied MGB, denied for Barix, put on hold (BMI was too high for pilot phase)at St.joe's and since moved to Windsor and had to start again, December, 2009 referral sent from GP...April 5 and 8, 2010 1st appt at Windsor clinic with nurse and doc
April 16, 2010 sleep clinic, April 27 echo
May 3,2010 Orientation at Met hospital--,
SURGERY booked Oct.20.2010
April 16, 2010 sleep clinic, April 27 echo
May 3,2010 Orientation at Met hospital--,
SURGERY booked Oct.20.2010
Topic: feeling a lil discouraged
So I joined the gym last week and I been going every day and even tho I can only walk on the treadmill for 10 minutes at speed 3.0 i feel good that im putting my mind to it and sticking to it, and ok so maybe I should going a faster speed or longer but physicaly with my disabilities thats all i can do at this point. Keep in mind I have NEVER excersied a day in my life b4.
So I went this morning and did my 10 minutes and as I was getting ready to leave the lady who works there stops me and says you know I told you yesterday you needed to go 10min 30sec today, you really need to increase it every day by 30secs. I tried explaining to her that I am already pushing myself to 10mins. I get done and I can barly walk to my car, and she says "oh c'mon nobodys body notices 30secs, Im almost 400lbs does she not relize she weighs as much as one of my legs. WTF is the matter with her, I wanted to just go off on her and give up.
I just sat there and let her say what she wanted to say for 30 minutes. Finally I said well I will do what body allows me to do and when I feel I have reached my limit i will stop rather it be at 3 minutes or 24 minutes. I will not push myself to the point that I literly fall over. She kept on for another 15 minutes about how I need to do eat only 1 piece of dry wheat toast for breakfast and have an apple for snakc and a baked potato for lunch another snack and a bowl of whole wheat cereal for dinner, I dont know how to eat right, I am trying my best and I dont feel she is the one to be telling me what my body needs.
Ok so after finally getting away from her I get in my car and text my best friend who works out a lot and stuff and kinda like cried to her about the way i was feeling and in a way i got the same thing from her well your not doing any good by only going 10 minutes and you really need to puch yourself to 30 minutes a day and you need to do it 2 or 3 times a day and you need to do other stuff not just the treadmill your not going to lose any weight that way.
Again I felt totally attacked and just cried and wanted to give up and go home and eat. Instead I went to the grocery store and bought some fruit for the next couple days for my snacks and came home and enjoyed a spinach salad with mushroom tomatoes bell pepers brussel sprouts and fat free ranch with 2 table spoons grated cheese, I dont know if thats truely healthy or not but it seems healthy to me. I think the foods that went in the salad are healthy and good for you.
I cried a lot today just feeling like a loser and not doing it right im trying so hard to stick with excersing and my mom is the only person who tells me im doing a good job and she proud of me and so what if go at the "normal" rate or speed atleast im trying to work myself up to it and im putting forth the effort now to get to the "normal" speed and rate. and the 10 minutes on the treadmill is better then spending that 10 minutes on the couch. Plus I have an excersie bike at home that I do for 10 minutes 1 or 2 times a day.
I guess I just turned here to once again hear some advice from people who are going thru weight loss, am I totaly being a baby about this and should I not feel like im being attacked and put down for the effort I am putting forth. I will not give up on the excersie I am wanting to do more then just the treadmill however my disability prevents me from doing weights at this time and sit ups however i still want to try but I will slowly work that in.
Any advice suggestions are greatly appreciated. This turned out to be way longer then expected sorry about that.
So I went this morning and did my 10 minutes and as I was getting ready to leave the lady who works there stops me and says you know I told you yesterday you needed to go 10min 30sec today, you really need to increase it every day by 30secs. I tried explaining to her that I am already pushing myself to 10mins. I get done and I can barly walk to my car, and she says "oh c'mon nobodys body notices 30secs, Im almost 400lbs does she not relize she weighs as much as one of my legs. WTF is the matter with her, I wanted to just go off on her and give up.
I just sat there and let her say what she wanted to say for 30 minutes. Finally I said well I will do what body allows me to do and when I feel I have reached my limit i will stop rather it be at 3 minutes or 24 minutes. I will not push myself to the point that I literly fall over. She kept on for another 15 minutes about how I need to do eat only 1 piece of dry wheat toast for breakfast and have an apple for snakc and a baked potato for lunch another snack and a bowl of whole wheat cereal for dinner, I dont know how to eat right, I am trying my best and I dont feel she is the one to be telling me what my body needs.
Ok so after finally getting away from her I get in my car and text my best friend who works out a lot and stuff and kinda like cried to her about the way i was feeling and in a way i got the same thing from her well your not doing any good by only going 10 minutes and you really need to puch yourself to 30 minutes a day and you need to do it 2 or 3 times a day and you need to do other stuff not just the treadmill your not going to lose any weight that way.
Again I felt totally attacked and just cried and wanted to give up and go home and eat. Instead I went to the grocery store and bought some fruit for the next couple days for my snacks and came home and enjoyed a spinach salad with mushroom tomatoes bell pepers brussel sprouts and fat free ranch with 2 table spoons grated cheese, I dont know if thats truely healthy or not but it seems healthy to me. I think the foods that went in the salad are healthy and good for you.
I cried a lot today just feeling like a loser and not doing it right im trying so hard to stick with excersing and my mom is the only person who tells me im doing a good job and she proud of me and so what if go at the "normal" rate or speed atleast im trying to work myself up to it and im putting forth the effort now to get to the "normal" speed and rate. and the 10 minutes on the treadmill is better then spending that 10 minutes on the couch. Plus I have an excersie bike at home that I do for 10 minutes 1 or 2 times a day.
I guess I just turned here to once again hear some advice from people who are going thru weight loss, am I totaly being a baby about this and should I not feel like im being attacked and put down for the effort I am putting forth. I will not give up on the excersie I am wanting to do more then just the treadmill however my disability prevents me from doing weights at this time and sit ups however i still want to try but I will slowly work that in.
Any advice suggestions are greatly appreciated. This turned out to be way longer then expected sorry about that.
HW389 SW367 CW273 GW180
1lb lost is 1 step closer to your goal !!
1lb lost is 1 step closer to your goal !!
Topic: RE: Six Exercise Myths
thanks I really needed to read this post!!
HW389 SW367 CW273 GW180
1lb lost is 1 step closer to your goal !!
1lb lost is 1 step closer to your goal !!
(deactivated member)
on 5/5/10 7:03 am
on 5/5/10 7:03 am
Topic: RE: Six Exercise Myths
Thanks Molly - yes that's a great resource.
Mary - I remember Andrea - so that's where she went. I remember she was raving about it and she looked great. I wonder if she ever visits - hopes she pops back in and says hello.
As for getting ripped - it actually has nothing to do with your fat per se - some people build up super duper muscles but most of us can't - we just have normal muscles. Yes, the amount of fat that we have layered over our muscles play a role only in allowing us to see the muscle definitition. Even if we were exercising like crazy and were as lean as possible we still wouldn't be contenders for Ms or Mr America muscle contest. That's why steriods and other drugs are so popular - to help people build huge muscles who normally can't.
Mary - I remember Andrea - so that's where she went. I remember she was raving about it and she looked great. I wonder if she ever visits - hopes she pops back in and says hello.
As for getting ripped - it actually has nothing to do with your fat per se - some people build up super duper muscles but most of us can't - we just have normal muscles. Yes, the amount of fat that we have layered over our muscles play a role only in allowing us to see the muscle definitition. Even if we were exercising like crazy and were as lean as possible we still wouldn't be contenders for Ms or Mr America muscle contest. That's why steriods and other drugs are so popular - to help people build huge muscles who normally can't.
Topic: RE: sitting on the fence
hi Sherrie, oh that is not even the half of the drama and stress of the last year..My step daughter who I adore went back to Belgium and tackled some big big stuff..we just found out that her step dad had raped her when she was 10 yrs old and he has been beating her Mom and sisters..she went back to Belgium and walked into a police station alone and laid charges against him..she is so strong and I am so proud of her but she had to give up her final year of high school to do this..she will be coming back this summer permanently and then we are going to try to get her mom and sisters to move to canada
soooo much, I could go on and on but the gist of it is, my ex never stopped dating for our 7 yrs of marriage and he has some mental illness, but refuses to get diagnosed...so ongoing chaos each and every time he visits the kids, whichi luckily is not too often
so ya stress and drama is pretty high..I am very strong and have realized that and thru all the therapy etc..I know that I am worth it, just having a reallly really hard time with the exercise..I know it will get easier as the kids get older.so tonight me and the kids are going to try P90x dvd together*LOL*
u guys are really supportive!!! much appreciated
soooo much, I could go on and on but the gist of it is, my ex never stopped dating for our 7 yrs of marriage and he has some mental illness, but refuses to get diagnosed...so ongoing chaos each and every time he visits the kids, whichi luckily is not too often
so ya stress and drama is pretty high..I am very strong and have realized that and thru all the therapy etc..I know that I am worth it, just having a reallly really hard time with the exercise..I know it will get easier as the kids get older.so tonight me and the kids are going to try P90x dvd together*LOL*
u guys are really supportive!!! much appreciated
started this process back in 2007/2008 denied MGB, denied for Barix, put on hold (BMI was too high for pilot phase)at St.joe's and since moved to Windsor and had to start again, December, 2009 referral sent from GP...April 5 and 8, 2010 1st appt at Windsor clinic with nurse and doc
April 16, 2010 sleep clinic, April 27 echo
May 3,2010 Orientation at Met hospital--,
SURGERY booked Oct.20.2010
April 16, 2010 sleep clinic, April 27 echo
May 3,2010 Orientation at Met hospital--,
SURGERY booked Oct.20.2010
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