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on 4/28/10 3:22 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 4/28/10 3:22 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
I could relate to this.....I used to sabotage my weight loss. I'm glad I recognized it and worked on it so I overcome it.
Thought I'd share this wih you....
Shedding Light On Ourselves
Parts That Don’t Want To HealWhen we choose that which is not best for us, there can be a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal.
In almost every case, we know what is best for us in our lives, from the relationships we create to the food we eat. Still, somewhat mysteriously, it is often difficult to make the right choices for ourselves. We find ourselves hanging out with someone who leaves us feeling drained or choosing to eat fast food over a salad. We go through phases where we stop doing yoga or taking vitamins, even though we feel so much better when we do. Often we have no idea why we continue to make the less enlightened choice, but it is important that we inquire into ourselves to find out.
When we choose that which is not best for us, the truth can be that there is a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal. We may say it’s because we don’t have the time or the energy or the resources, but the real truth is that when we don’t take care of ourselves we are falling prey to self-sabotage. Self-sabotage happens unconsciously, which is why it’s so difficult to see that we are doing it. The important thing to realize is that this very part of us that resists our healing is the part that most needs our attention and love. Even as it appears to be working against us, if we can simply bring it into the light of our consciousness, it can become our greatest ally. It carries the information we need to move to the next level in our healing process.
When we recognize that we are not making healthy choices, we might even say out loud, “I am not taking care of myself." Sometimes this is the jolt we need to wake up to what is actually happening. Next we can sit ourselves down in meditation, with a journal, or with a trusted friend to explore the matter more thoroughly. Just shining the light of our awareness on the source of our resistance is sometimes enough to dispel its power. At other times, further effort is required. Either way, we need not fear these parts that do not want to heal. We only need to take them under our wing and bring them with us into the light.
Thought I'd share this wih you....
Shedding Light On Ourselves
Parts That Don’t Want To Heal
In almost every case, we know what is best for us in our lives, from the relationships we create to the food we eat. Still, somewhat mysteriously, it is often difficult to make the right choices for ourselves. We find ourselves hanging out with someone who leaves us feeling drained or choosing to eat fast food over a salad. We go through phases where we stop doing yoga or taking vitamins, even though we feel so much better when we do. Often we have no idea why we continue to make the less enlightened choice, but it is important that we inquire into ourselves to find out.
When we choose that which is not best for us, the truth can be that there is a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal. We may say it’s because we don’t have the time or the energy or the resources, but the real truth is that when we don’t take care of ourselves we are falling prey to self-sabotage. Self-sabotage happens unconsciously, which is why it’s so difficult to see that we are doing it. The important thing to realize is that this very part of us that resists our healing is the part that most needs our attention and love. Even as it appears to be working against us, if we can simply bring it into the light of our consciousness, it can become our greatest ally. It carries the information we need to move to the next level in our healing process.
When we recognize that we are not making healthy choices, we might even say out loud, “I am not taking care of myself." Sometimes this is the jolt we need to wake up to what is actually happening. Next we can sit ourselves down in meditation, with a journal, or with a trusted friend to explore the matter more thoroughly. Just shining the light of our awareness on the source of our resistance is sometimes enough to dispel its power. At other times, further effort is required. Either way, we need not fear these parts that do not want to heal. We only need to take them under our wing and bring them with us into the light.
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on 4/28/10 6:09 am
on 4/28/10 6:09 am
Very interesting - we can be our own worst enemy and we don't even know why sometimes.
I know that this time I spent some time in a very productive psychotherapy working on changing my stinking thinking - and I think it has really helped me make other healing changes. Hopefully it will help me not sabotage myself with my shedding weight.
But I also think it's important to work hard to permanently change habits - which has nothing to do with feelings, but it's just us making choices by autopilot.
Clearly there are many reasons we struggle with obesity - it's a complex problem.
I know that this time I spent some time in a very productive psychotherapy working on changing my stinking thinking - and I think it has really helped me make other healing changes. Hopefully it will help me not sabotage myself with my shedding weight.
But I also think it's important to work hard to permanently change habits - which has nothing to do with feelings, but it's just us making choices by autopilot.
Clearly there are many reasons we struggle with obesity - it's a complex problem.
For me, I really hated the person I had become and I totally gave up on her. I didn't care enough about her to make the right choices for her, what was the point? It's only when I could have a mental image in my head of the successful healthy me that I was able to do it for THAT me...she was worth the effort. Whenever I was tempted, I'd see the smaller me in my mind's eye and I knew I'd never get to be like her if I ate off plan. Now I'm her and I am so worth the way I feel when I'm eating healthy!
Mary
Mary
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on 4/29/10 1:19 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 4/29/10 1:19 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
Amen Sister!
I never took care of myself. I never loved myself enough to make me a priority....Until I was close to turning 51 and I decided I wanted to live and I knew to live I needed to get healthy. I went to the point of telling my family and friends that I was going to be selfish and make me my priority by taking the time I need to get healthy.
I never took care of myself. I never loved myself enough to make me a priority....Until I was close to turning 51 and I decided I wanted to live and I knew to live I needed to get healthy. I went to the point of telling my family and friends that I was going to be selfish and make me my priority by taking the time I need to get healthy.
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