Avoid martyrdom.
Avoid martyrdom.
How many times have you sat down with friends at a dinner party for a lovely meal and someone, who has never had a weight problem, goes on and on about how they can't eat this or that because they are on a diet? As a result, at least some people at the table felt self conscious about filling their plate and enjoying their meal. Not only did the "dieter" spoil the meal, but they openly insulted the host by judging the dinner unfit to eat.
The middle of a dinner party is not the best time to share your personal choices and to become a martyr for your new lifestyle. You can take your smaller portions and not draw attention to them. If someone asks you why you took so little, just say you want to sample everything, and then change the subject. Be a rounded conversationalist, and people will remember the interesting person they sat next to as opposed to the person who made them feel bad about themselves.
Action for the day: Reflect on ways to be interesting around people instead of focusing everyone's attention on your food choices.
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How many times have you sat down with friends at a dinner party for a lovely meal and someone, who has never had a weight problem, goes on and on about how they can't eat this or that because they are on a diet? As a result, at least some people at the table felt self conscious about filling their plate and enjoying their meal. Not only did the "dieter" spoil the meal, but they openly insulted the host by judging the dinner unfit to eat.
The middle of a dinner party is not the best time to share your personal choices and to become a martyr for your new lifestyle. You can take your smaller portions and not draw attention to them. If someone asks you why you took so little, just say you want to sample everything, and then change the subject. Be a rounded conversationalist, and people will remember the interesting person they sat next to as opposed to the person who made them feel bad about themselves.
Action for the day: Reflect on ways to be interesting around people instead of focusing everyone's attention on your food choices.
© 2010, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. All rights reserved. Daily Inspirations are provided by the National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. Get our free report, How to Regain-Proof Your Weight Loss Surgery at www.nawls.com.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
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on 4/26/10 5:02 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 4/26/10 5:02 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
I hate a "know-it-all" and especially so when I get trapped by one at a gathering.
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on 4/27/10 2:23 am
on 4/27/10 2:23 am
This is one area I have a problem with only because I don't eat any animal products AND I don't eat any added fats or oils. So basically what the average person were to serve me at a dinner party - well much of it I can't eat. I always bring a dish with me - enough to share with others. I discuss it with the hostess before hand because I don't want to obnoxious and just show up with stuff - I try to bring it as a friendly addition in the way that others bring a bottle of wine. I also eat before I leave the house so I'm not too hungry. I also don't want a hostess to go out of their way to accommodate me - I'd rather they make the food that they want to make. It's a tricky situation.
The problem is do I even want to take stuff on my plate - I mean what do I do with it, I'm not going to put any of it my mouth - but I can push the food around with my fork on my plate which makes me feel guilty. I had serious health problems before going on my diet and I firmly believe the changes are only due to strict adherence to my diet because goodness knows all the medication I was on wasn't helping. So I don't cheat on my diet, even at a dinner party.
Mostly I make a point to talk to everyone and make my experience about being with others and not about my food and what I eat.
The problem is do I even want to take stuff on my plate - I mean what do I do with it, I'm not going to put any of it my mouth - but I can push the food around with my fork on my plate which makes me feel guilty. I had serious health problems before going on my diet and I firmly believe the changes are only due to strict adherence to my diet because goodness knows all the medication I was on wasn't helping. So I don't cheat on my diet, even at a dinner party.
Mostly I make a point to talk to everyone and make my experience about being with others and not about my food and what I eat.
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