Everyone is different

Hey everyone.. its been awhile since I jumped on here... I've a few things sometimes but mostly just haven't been on. I'm 26 weeks pregnant now, my baby is due December 6th... I've started making a weight loss plan for myself to get the weight off that I gained when I was pregnant with my 15 month old son. Luckily this time around I am only up 10lbs.


I felt I needed to jump on here because alot of answers to being overweight or weight loss seem to be the same... lack of self control, eating too many sweets, eating too large of portions, yada yada. Granted, as someone who needs to lose around 100lbs to be to my ideal weight (70lbs of that was gained within 2 months at the end of my pregnancy when I was put on bedrest and had alot of meds put into my body to keep from having seizures) most people probably wouldn't listen to me. I was overweight my whole life, until I got to college. I will attest to the day I die that working out and being physically active IS what will get much of the weight off for a person who  is heavy and just eats like a normal person. I would walk ALOT in college, I ate pretty much what I wanted, but it wasn't any more than what my 120lb friends were eating... I lost 50lbs in 3 months... then the other 20lbs within the year.. and I kept it off for 4 years, until I got pregnancy with my 1st child. I didn't have an addiction to food.. losing the weight wasn't hard because it was cafeteria food that was ready for me (convenience is an issue with me cause I just dont like to think about food all day long).. i would walk anywhere from an hour to 5 hours a day because it was enjoyable for me... friends would walk with me for awhile... I'd walk around in between classes.. it was good! And honestly, when I stopped walking that much, I didn't start gaining... I stayed the same. I actually didn't gain any weight until I had some sort of weird pain in my left side that lasted for a year (apparently when i got pregnant it made the pain go away) and I literally didn't move at all. I ask my husband all the time (and he knows not to lie to me) if I eat more than I think I do... and he says that I don't. When I go out to eat with my family, my parents will ask why I am not eating more (even my dad, who was always on me about my weight as a kid, he would tell me I needed to eat more.. and even now says so even though I am bigger).

What is my point to all of this? My point is weight gain is not a simple one answer thing. I had a Dr who never knew me as a smaller person tell me that I MUST be addicted to food to be this large.. that pregnancy couldn't POSSIBLY make me this big so fast on its own... well my obgyn will tell you that isn't the case... she said a womans body is going to do what its going to do and sometimes you just can't stop it.

Are there people addicted to food who don't understand portions? Of course! Are there people who eat their feelings? Of course! And those issues absolutely need to be addressed... but in the end, if a weight loss plan failed for you then there is a reason behind it. It might be you... or it is the plan! Not all plans work for all people because everyone has a weight issue for different reasons... and weight issues go back far into history. It's not a new thing... it is just the flavor of the week for the media. Rather than trying to find a "one size fits all" reason for having a weight problem we should all...especially those of us going through such a hard time with our weight... forgive ourselves and each other and understand that we are different, and its OK to be different! Find what works for you and run with it! I know that being alto more active will help me get my weight down... now I am going to try naturistsystem when my baby is born mostly because I will have 2 kids under 2 and since its convenient for me to try, it wouldn't hurt... last thing I want is to get caught up in bad eating habits like fast food (which when I dont cook my husband falls back on). However, I know I need to be physically active, its what works for me. However i have known women who work out 5 times a week, hours a day, and they still cant get below 200lbs or whatever... its just a matter of finding out what works.

I know this was long... I just really felt I needed to add this in.. its easy to think "whats wrong with me?" when we don't lose like we want. I think we should break that cycle of thinking.