Oh My God...
Awwe Neen, I'm so sorry to hear about the accident you had with your wagon, sounds like you banged it up all to hell. If you're like me, you may end up having to buy a whole new wagon, I know cuz I abused mine so bad I was ashamed to be seen riding it! Besides, the wheels had fallen off so many times from me skidding into the ditch that it really did need a whole new frame. 
Strange term, falling off the wagon. What does it mean when we are 'on the wagon'? I'm thinking it means that we are taking a long journey as back in the day when the roads were really bumpy and muddy and there was no protection from the rain and cold and you were subject to all kinds of hurdles and obstacles that were constantly threatening your position on that wagon so to be able to stay on that sucker was pretty damned impressive. No wonder they compare that to trying to overcome addictive behavior...a traveler could become overwhelmed pretty darn quick if they didn't have a plan to deal with the complications along the way. And that's how I feel about the problems you are having dealing with your family, they are one helluva complication along your way.
But in their defense, you are the one who is rocking the boat, not them, afterall, you were raised as a part of this group and you ate the way they did for your whole life so what is so bad about it now? I didn't say their argument was logical, it's just what they know. Besides, if you change the way you eat, that shines a light on the way they eat and makes it look bad, and we all know that most people in this world don't want to have to deal with that judgement. So for them, it's just easier to get you to come back to their way of thinking and eating than it is for them to change because that would include a struggle that they are not willing to confront.
So a good traveler would find a way to confront this obstacle in their path...it just may be harder than it sounds and take some heavy thinking to find a solution. You could have a talk with them about how your metabolism is different than theirs is (even if it isn't it helps take the pressure off of them to have to change) and you have to eat differently than they do because of your band. Tell them your doctor said it's imperative that you eat a certain way or it could harm your band. I don't know if that's a lie but you get the jest of what I'm saying, you need some support for why you can't eat the way they do! You know your family way better than I do so you could probably come up with a reason that they will accept as long as you put it in a way that doesn't threaten them and their lifestyle. It's a lot easier of pill to swallow to say that Neen can't eat like we do because SHE has issues than it is to say that WE have issues!
I wish you well dealing with this obstacle,
Mary
Strange term, falling off the wagon. What does it mean when we are 'on the wagon'? I'm thinking it means that we are taking a long journey as back in the day when the roads were really bumpy and muddy and there was no protection from the rain and cold and you were subject to all kinds of hurdles and obstacles that were constantly threatening your position on that wagon so to be able to stay on that sucker was pretty damned impressive. No wonder they compare that to trying to overcome addictive behavior...a traveler could become overwhelmed pretty darn quick if they didn't have a plan to deal with the complications along the way. And that's how I feel about the problems you are having dealing with your family, they are one helluva complication along your way.
But in their defense, you are the one who is rocking the boat, not them, afterall, you were raised as a part of this group and you ate the way they did for your whole life so what is so bad about it now? I didn't say their argument was logical, it's just what they know. Besides, if you change the way you eat, that shines a light on the way they eat and makes it look bad, and we all know that most people in this world don't want to have to deal with that judgement. So for them, it's just easier to get you to come back to their way of thinking and eating than it is for them to change because that would include a struggle that they are not willing to confront.
So a good traveler would find a way to confront this obstacle in their path...it just may be harder than it sounds and take some heavy thinking to find a solution. You could have a talk with them about how your metabolism is different than theirs is (even if it isn't it helps take the pressure off of them to have to change) and you have to eat differently than they do because of your band. Tell them your doctor said it's imperative that you eat a certain way or it could harm your band. I don't know if that's a lie but you get the jest of what I'm saying, you need some support for why you can't eat the way they do! You know your family way better than I do so you could probably come up with a reason that they will accept as long as you put it in a way that doesn't threaten them and their lifestyle. It's a lot easier of pill to swallow to say that Neen can't eat like we do because SHE has issues than it is to say that WE have issues!
I wish you well dealing with this obstacle,
Mary 
I know we all hate weighing ourselves, but you did the right thing, Janina, by stepping on the scale. I try to weigh myself every week or two (even though I despise it and am a little scared of the experience), that way if my weight starts creeping up, I can nip it in the bud when it's 2 or 3 pounds instead of more. I start my diet journal again, and analyze my choices and portions
I usually weigh myself in the morning, after I have gone to the bathroom, and in my bare skin. That way I know that it's the weight of my body, not my clothes! Look at the scale this way: it's like when a clownfish brushes itself against the sea anemone's stingers--it hurts a little, but eventually you get used to it! Aack.
Getting back on the wagon can be hard, but we are all here to support you, and you know, we are all on the same life journey, trying hard to live healthy and happy. You should pat yourself on the back for recognizing and arresting the food demons at this point, rather than at the 50 pound, or 75 pound mark! You are awesome, and don't you forget that!
I usually weigh myself in the morning, after I have gone to the bathroom, and in my bare skin. That way I know that it's the weight of my body, not my clothes! Look at the scale this way: it's like when a clownfish brushes itself against the sea anemone's stingers--it hurts a little, but eventually you get used to it! Aack.
Getting back on the wagon can be hard, but we are all here to support you, and you know, we are all on the same life journey, trying hard to live healthy and happy. You should pat yourself on the back for recognizing and arresting the food demons at this point, rather than at the 50 pound, or 75 pound mark! You are awesome, and don't you forget that!
You my dear is not the first person to fall off the wagon so don't be embarassed and if you still feel shame don't let it get to you to the point where you don't fly into action. The fact that you got on the scale and faced the ugly truth means you are ready again to make some changes. You didn't need to go on the scale to know you had gained 30 lbs, I'm sure it was visible either in your clothes or in the mirror. You did it before, you can most certainly do it again. I have no doubt of it. take a deep breathe and get ready again to fight the good fight
“ Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get. ”
— Dave Gardner
Janina
I think there was a wagon massacre. I fell too and landed in the land of Ben and Jerry's, where I ate my way back to the weight when I first boarded the wagon. Like you I was desolate and absolutely embarrassed. I canceled my monthly doctor's visit. But she's no dummy . She called me and said come in or else. I went back in disguise and full of self loathing, but eventually I went back.
She told me "this is part of the journey, if you don't learn to handle setbacks now, you will never get to your goal". We then discussed what sent me tumbling. I have been back on the wagon and was sorry to see you were a victim too. I have stopped looking back.............maybe because I chickened out, and only came back here when I lost what I regained. Whatever happened before is done, we are defined by our ability to persevere, not our moments of weakness. I look forward to seeing your face.
I think there was a wagon massacre. I fell too and landed in the land of Ben and Jerry's, where I ate my way back to the weight when I first boarded the wagon. Like you I was desolate and absolutely embarrassed. I canceled my monthly doctor's visit. But she's no dummy . She called me and said come in or else. I went back in disguise and full of self loathing, but eventually I went back.
She told me "this is part of the journey, if you don't learn to handle setbacks now, you will never get to your goal". We then discussed what sent me tumbling. I have been back on the wagon and was sorry to see you were a victim too. I have stopped looking back.............maybe because I chickened out, and only came back here when I lost what I regained. Whatever happened before is done, we are defined by our ability to persevere, not our moments of weakness. I look forward to seeing your face.
MARKY
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on 8/17/09 10:08 am - Rochester, NY
on 8/17/09 10:08 am - Rochester, NY
Janina.....how did you make out with the doctor today? Anxious to hear his ideas. As you can see from my most recent post, I'm still struggling.
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on 8/18/09 1:44 pm - Rochester, NY
on 8/18/09 1:44 pm - Rochester, NY
So glad to hear you're feeling better about it all and your doctor was understanding. I guess I don't understand the band....if you have restriction, can you still eat lots of stuff or do you just eat the wrong things in small amounts? That's what's so amazing about these surgeries....you really have to change your lifestyle no matter whether you choose surgery as a tool or not. Guess we're all in that same boat (or wagon...lol) after all.
Congratulations on the 4lb...you're off to a great start!! Are you doing Atkins again?
Congratulations on the 4lb...you're off to a great start!! Are you doing Atkins again?
Hi Baby Girl!!!!
You are more than a number on that scale. Please don't freak out. be easier on yourself overall, but do get a plan going. Hey you ain't the first fatchick to "fail" with a LB. That surgeon has seen plenty of people in your zact same place, with you issues, so just try to remove emotion and look at this thing scientifically.
Under the cir****tances which you live (parents, nuff said), you cannot expect glowing progress. Pretty much you choose not to change that, for good reason, so honey just keep looking for what works.
Just get a hold of yourself, Girl! This is NOT the end of the damn world. It really isn't. I certainly understand and very much recognize the high emotion you feel, but we fatchicks have got to get a grip when reality rises up.
That's the thing with many of us, we slip, we fall and what do we do? keep on whining crying, slipping and sliding. Now does that sound like the right thing to do????? Naw, we need to lay there in the slop and THINK.
My butt is also not getting smaller these days, you are not alone. Stand up, Neen. Wipe those tears. let's roll.
You are more than a number on that scale. Please don't freak out. be easier on yourself overall, but do get a plan going. Hey you ain't the first fatchick to "fail" with a LB. That surgeon has seen plenty of people in your zact same place, with you issues, so just try to remove emotion and look at this thing scientifically.
Under the cir****tances which you live (parents, nuff said), you cannot expect glowing progress. Pretty much you choose not to change that, for good reason, so honey just keep looking for what works.
Just get a hold of yourself, Girl! This is NOT the end of the damn world. It really isn't. I certainly understand and very much recognize the high emotion you feel, but we fatchicks have got to get a grip when reality rises up.
That's the thing with many of us, we slip, we fall and what do we do? keep on whining crying, slipping and sliding. Now does that sound like the right thing to do????? Naw, we need to lay there in the slop and THINK.
My butt is also not getting smaller these days, you are not alone. Stand up, Neen. Wipe those tears. let's roll.
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
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