In need of counceling session

"Sometimes the best thing you can do when you're all tangled up is to stand still until things settle down."

Wow.....excellent advice!

I think if you could get off say 20 or 25 lbs. then you might get the motivation to continue and to start believing that it actually can be done.  I know that is HUGE for me.  Sometimes when we have a considerable amount of weight to lose it almost feels like we'll never get down to a decent weight. . Just keep thinking in your mind, one day at a time.   I think if you could just get over that first hurdle you might surprise yourself.  For me, by that time I'm used to eating less and  it starts to become more of a habit .

You do have a lot on your plate at the moment with no job and money troubles.  You have more time on your hands for dieting, but at the same time maybe your not kept busy enough to not think about food so much.  I know on the weekends when I'm not working it's always more difficult.  So much access to food and people tend to eat out more on the weekends, etc.    

I always believe on the first week of starting on a diet that I have to give myself the week before to start cutting down or man the hunger overwhelms me. 

Maybe you should not think about it so much.  Just say hey, I'm going to commit to such and such period of time and see what happens.   Have some fiber on hand and definitely incorporate foods high in protein to help keep you feeling full.  Less chance to cheat that way.  Have some motivational weight loss books on hand of people who have succeeded at weight loss.  Possibly watch some sort of shows you may have taped to keep your motivation high to realize that people have done this at every weight. 

On the days that your feeling more hungry than others, then having something extra that keeps you on plan, it's better than going off.  We all have those days.  Don't be hard on yourself. 

If you have a friend that might want to do this with you, that might help as well.  If there are free or lost cost supports groups in your area that might be helpful too.

Your happiness, health problems, etc. would continually improve the lower you got.  

Just some ideas

Brenda

Love that too! I learned over the MANY years of this daily battle to come off it more often. Forgive myself and then set loving boundaries - these parameters are to be done & thought of in pure love and concern for our bodies and our families and society as a whole.

When we are so fat we cannot move, we let down all of those people.

     Wow, Holly:

You sound depressed to me, I know when I get that way - I AM Depressed. You are fortunate, to have a husband, and children ta boot. Try going thru it all alone, and no money for a shrink. I agree, with what the other members posted. There is a lot of good advice. Why do you say, that this is the last time? I do not know how old you are, or how much you have to lose, or even your cir****tances, but as long as you are taking a breath, there is always hope. I understand not having a job, not having no money or very little, and no hope of every getting one, because of your weight, your health problems, etc. You just want to lay in bed, and wait for all of it, to end. you Holly are the master, of your fate. No one can make you do anything, you don't already want or not  want to do.  What you are, or not doing is exactly, want you want to do.(It's working for you.) Like Dr. Phil says: Is it working for you?  On another note: I really understand about feeling,  that everyone has accomplish more, in their life then you. Holly what better accomplishment is there, then to mold the next generation. To shape the world, with how you and your husband raised your children, providing a home, a safe place to come, and how they will raise their children. Yes Holly you have accomplished that, I wish I would have awakened from what ever I was in, to have gotten my life in order, to be ready to have that. I just hope I can find a ready made family needing a really young grandma.
     I also was wondering, ( as I was reading everyone), if you are, at the age of menopause, you mite want to have your hormones checked, to see if you need replacement therapy.(the alternative kind, like in Robin McGraw's book, on being over 50, and our hormones(don't remember the name, but it is on the shelf's))  Well, I need to go, it is now after 4 in the morning and I need to go to bed. Thank-you for reading my two cents worth of advice. I pray you find peace in your life, and comfort, the strength to tell every one, you are in control of yourself, and you are the only one, who can make yourself happy.
Twilight  

P.S. My brother is a Gemini.  I understand, you need to stimulate that brilliant mind of yours, Gemini's are famous for being smart, They love knowledge, seek after it.

I've been in your shoes too. I know that feeling of every Monday is the start of a new diet - often lasting until lunch the same day.

I don't know why I'm so successful this time - I wish I knew because then I could bottle it and mail it to you to help you. Sometime the puzzle pieces just fall right into place easily and sometimes they don't. I think the things that are helping me are that I understand why I'm eating the way I do now. I have goals - some of which have been met and others that I hope I will win over. I am not eating anything that is addictive and I'm avoiding watching commercials on TV that serve as triggers and not going out to eat except for a rare couple of times where we had to go for social reasons. I'm cooking all our meals at home so I have complete control and slowly we're changing our taste buds to preferring healthy food with out fat, small amount of sugar and salt but lots of spices for flavor.

I'm not so great in the exercise arena - although I am much better than I was. I can't wait for Belle to open up her rat maze gym - I love, love, love that idea. So clever.

Skylar

Hi Hol

I had log in troubles and finally figgered it out! I have not read anyone else's response to this. Tyring to give a virginal response.  LOL

Some clues in your post: 

It’s like I instantly want to be thin.

told her I most likely won't be here

These indicate to me that you do need a reality check all around: neither of statements are true. They may feel very real to you. 

The second one - of most concern to me as you are such a vital, loving mom/wife/friend: Hol, I hate to tell ya, but you would be LUCKY to just keel over from obesity. You and others like you are far more likely to become crippled whether by diabetic responses or joint breakdowns - and the die a long slow death. This degradation will take years - runing not only your life but your family's as well.

The other one is how we all feel.  It's a fantasy. Straight UP.

I wonder if you are setting your bar too high alla time? Are you somewhere deep down really expecting a week or three days of hard work and change to turn this ship around? I think for starters, take each day, literally, and get thru that. You seem very easily overwhelmed.

Holly, i know you can do this. I don't say those dreadful things to scare you or depress you. I hope to help you see the flaw in your thinking.

If I were you, I would not drag one thing home that you know is of low nutritive contribution:  chips, cookies, candy, fast food. Your hubby can go buy it if he must - your kids don't need it and neither do you. That one thing would start a cycle of baby steps.

Hol, I love your spirit and believe in you.