Let's bash spouses (and S/O's) more...
awww just funnin ya! I love my sweetie and hope you love yours.
But dudes especially are hard to deal with when we are trying to change habits. My belief is that for one thing, they are much more pragmatic with weight issues, example: "i'll just eat less" or "oh well, more of me to love, right baby???"
With my DH out of town for the next 10 days has made me realize how much his behavior really does affect my choices. And that of course, this is my problem, not his.
i expected this issue with my DH, who does all our house shopping, and is now retired. Shopping is his recreation and he really does need to find something else to do. you should see out cabinets and freezers! STUFFED! I ate a stale cracker last night, so vile I burped it up all night long. We have become the quintessential old people with 2 year old jelly in the fridge.
Anyhoo, just venting and still pondering where to go from here! How about you? How do you deal with a spousal influence on food?
But dudes especially are hard to deal with when we are trying to change habits. My belief is that for one thing, they are much more pragmatic with weight issues, example: "i'll just eat less" or "oh well, more of me to love, right baby???"
With my DH out of town for the next 10 days has made me realize how much his behavior really does affect my choices. And that of course, this is my problem, not his.
i expected this issue with my DH, who does all our house shopping, and is now retired. Shopping is his recreation and he really does need to find something else to do. you should see out cabinets and freezers! STUFFED! I ate a stale cracker last night, so vile I burped it up all night long. We have become the quintessential old people with 2 year old jelly in the fridge.
Anyhoo, just venting and still pondering where to go from here! How about you? How do you deal with a spousal influence on food?
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
BigCityGirl
on 6/3/09 1:32 am - San Diego, CA
on 6/3/09 1:32 am - San Diego, CA
I don't know how you married gals do it.
All the men in my life, whi*****ludes my brothers, want to feed me.
FOOD IS LOVE
Just a few weeks ago in Venice, I went out with an old boyfriend. We met when we were in our 20's, so we've known each other through marriages, divorces, deaths in the family and in my case the weight roller coaster. I weighed 132 pounds when I met him and he's seen me at 230 and at my current weight. And yet, all he wants to do is feed me (he's thin as a rail and always has been) when we're together.
Neecee, clean the cabinets now that he's out of town. . . .
All the men in my life, whi*****ludes my brothers, want to feed me.
FOOD IS LOVEJust a few weeks ago in Venice, I went out with an old boyfriend. We met when we were in our 20's, so we've known each other through marriages, divorces, deaths in the family and in my case the weight roller coaster. I weighed 132 pounds when I met him and he's seen me at 230 and at my current weight. And yet, all he wants to do is feed me (he's thin as a rail and always has been) when we're together.
Neecee, clean the cabinets now that he's out of town. . . .
Surgeon: Joseph Grzeskiewicz, M.D., F.A.C.S.
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
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on 6/3/09 1:42 am
on 6/3/09 1:42 am
It isn't just spouses, kids too can throw you off course.
We're empty nesters right now so I just have the DH and while he "supports" me he has in the past gone wild stopping at the grocery store on the way home to buy "junk". However this time it's different. I have carefully explained what I learned when I read The China Study, Prevent and Reverse Heart Disease and Eat to Live books so he understands the scientific reason behind the changes in our diet. These changes are not just about losing weight so there is added benefits that DH has experienced for himself. He's been off at a conference for a few days and he's been very careful about what he's eating (which is unusual) and he only had one meal that was unhealthy but he enjoyed it and I told him that it was okay because the beauty of how we eat now is that we can enjoy the odd meal like that without the bad effects.
What makes me upset is how fast DH lost weight - and I'm losing so slowly. LOL I know it's not a contest and I know men have an easier time losing weight because of their increased muscle mass. I know that it took many years to gain this weight - but the illogical side of me wants all the weight off yesterday.
Skylar
We're empty nesters right now so I just have the DH and while he "supports" me he has in the past gone wild stopping at the grocery store on the way home to buy "junk". However this time it's different. I have carefully explained what I learned when I read The China Study, Prevent and Reverse Heart Disease and Eat to Live books so he understands the scientific reason behind the changes in our diet. These changes are not just about losing weight so there is added benefits that DH has experienced for himself. He's been off at a conference for a few days and he's been very careful about what he's eating (which is unusual) and he only had one meal that was unhealthy but he enjoyed it and I told him that it was okay because the beauty of how we eat now is that we can enjoy the odd meal like that without the bad effects.
What makes me upset is how fast DH lost weight - and I'm losing so slowly. LOL I know it's not a contest and I know men have an easier time losing weight because of their increased muscle mass. I know that it took many years to gain this weight - but the illogical side of me wants all the weight off yesterday.
Skylar
BigCityGirl
on 6/3/09 2:30 am - San Diego, CA
on 6/3/09 2:30 am - San Diego, CA
Actually, more to the point, how does one deal with spousal influence on food? I don't have a good answer for you.
In the case of my friend Roberto, his lifestyle is completely different from mine. He only eats at meals - no snacks, something that I can't do. Believe me, I've tried. He doesn't go to a gym, he's just extremely active. On his feet all day, walking everywhere (it's Venice - no cars or bikes) and he's busy - always and constantly. He doesn't eat out of boredom, he doesn't eat between meals and his diet is mostly fish and pasta. For breakfast, he eats a bowl of cereal with bread and has coffee. For lunch, he has a small plate of pasta or a panini (like a sandwich) and for dinner, which is extremely late - after 8 pm, he eats fish, fish, fish and a little pasta and bread. He's 6'3" and I'd be surprised if he weighs 200, probably more like 185 or 190.
I don't have an answer but all the men in my life are thin - what does that mean? I'm probably a bizzare case for psychology
In the case of my friend Roberto, his lifestyle is completely different from mine. He only eats at meals - no snacks, something that I can't do. Believe me, I've tried. He doesn't go to a gym, he's just extremely active. On his feet all day, walking everywhere (it's Venice - no cars or bikes) and he's busy - always and constantly. He doesn't eat out of boredom, he doesn't eat between meals and his diet is mostly fish and pasta. For breakfast, he eats a bowl of cereal with bread and has coffee. For lunch, he has a small plate of pasta or a panini (like a sandwich) and for dinner, which is extremely late - after 8 pm, he eats fish, fish, fish and a little pasta and bread. He's 6'3" and I'd be surprised if he weighs 200, probably more like 185 or 190.
I don't have an answer but all the men in my life are thin - what does that mean? I'm probably a bizzare case for psychology
Surgeon: Joseph Grzeskiewicz, M.D., F.A.C.S.
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
I am on skinny Hubby #2!
The first one went out of his way to make sure I remembered how fat I was. I am pretty sure i got fat just to annoy him.
My now-beloved hubby loves me loves me - and is like Mary's man, trying to always get me to "come off dieting" and eat normal. He really does not get it and I have to stay with that this is HIS problem - not mine. Hell i can't eat a damn thing without it showing up on my gut.
My DH is gaining in a big way, so maybe he will be talking turkey with me one day very soon. I just need to keep my eyes on my own plate and wait for him to join in. He has been very skinny all his life & ate like a pig, so he really is in shock and has no idea how to do this.
Donna, I read about the notion of why a tall man who weighs 200# has a better metabolism than a short woman who weighs 200# - had something to do with skin area, of course muscle mass and venous system.
The first one went out of his way to make sure I remembered how fat I was. I am pretty sure i got fat just to annoy him.
My now-beloved hubby loves me loves me - and is like Mary's man, trying to always get me to "come off dieting" and eat normal. He really does not get it and I have to stay with that this is HIS problem - not mine. Hell i can't eat a damn thing without it showing up on my gut.
My DH is gaining in a big way, so maybe he will be talking turkey with me one day very soon. I just need to keep my eyes on my own plate and wait for him to join in. He has been very skinny all his life & ate like a pig, so he really is in shock and has no idea how to do this.
Donna, I read about the notion of why a tall man who weighs 200# has a better metabolism than a short woman who weighs 200# - had something to do with skin area, of course muscle mass and venous system.
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
BigCityGirl
on 6/3/09 1:27 pm - San Diego, CA
on 6/3/09 1:27 pm - San Diego, CA
Neecee, that's really interesting about tall men and their metabolism.
Surgeon: Joseph Grzeskiewicz, M.D., F.A.C.S.
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
I have the worst kind of marriage ever for weight loss, it's a mixed marriage...he has a metabolism and I DON'T. If I ate the way he wanted me to, I would have gained another hundred pounds instead of losing it. Now here's one of the biggest problems with being all up in LUV, he treated me no differently when I was morbidly obese than he did when I was smaller...that's cuz love is blind and can't see sh*t! To this day he doesn't acknowledge that I was ever as big as I was. 
Now his big thing seems to be, when are you going stop dieting and just eat like a normal person? The first thing that comes to my mind is, "When I breath my last dying breath!", but I can't tell him that. Trying to explain maintenance to a civilian is like trying to explain driving the speed limit to a teenager, they just don't get it.
Neecee just go ahead and purge your kitchen of alla his junk food and outdated old fart foods cuz he can only yell about it when he gets home for so long before he gets tired. You know what they say, forgiveness is more easily obtained than permission!
Mary
Now his big thing seems to be, when are you going stop dieting and just eat like a normal person? The first thing that comes to my mind is, "When I breath my last dying breath!", but I can't tell him that. Trying to explain maintenance to a civilian is like trying to explain driving the speed limit to a teenager, they just don't get it.Neecee just go ahead and purge your kitchen of alla his junk food and outdated old fart foods cuz he can only yell about it when he gets home for so long before he gets tired. You know what they say, forgiveness is more easily obtained than permission!
Mary
BigCityGirl
on 6/3/09 4:56 am - San Diego, CA
on 6/3/09 4:56 am - San Diego, CA
A mixed marriage? Hmmmmm.. . . . Are fat women destined to be with thin men? It always works out that way for me. I couldn't find a heavy man if one was air-dropped into my back yard. My brothers are like me and they are married to thin women.. . . . . .go figure.
Surgeon: Joseph Grzeskiewicz, M.D., F.A.C.S.
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
La Jolla Cosmetic Surgery Centre
Well that's a very interesting question. When we got married we were both thin, it wasn't until my PCOS flaired up that I got fat fast.
But I think maybe that you don't see a lot of mixed marriages because you live in the land of the beautiful people. Now here in the South is where you would need to come to see some really big folks getting together. Especially on the Redneck Riviera at the casino buffets. But then again, we are one of those cultures that takes perfectly healthy vegetables and cooks them in fatback pork!
Mary
But I think maybe that you don't see a lot of mixed marriages because you live in the land of the beautiful people. Now here in the South is where you would need to come to see some really big folks getting together. Especially on the Redneck Riviera at the casino buffets. But then again, we are one of those cultures that takes perfectly healthy vegetables and cooks them in fatback pork!
Mary
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