What Have You Done Today to Make You Feel Proud?
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about! I won't wear short sleeves because I have "fat elbows". My DH thinks I've lost my mind, but I've always been of the school, if it's fat, cover it up. Now here's the really crazy part. If I saw them on another woman, I wouldn't think they looked bad. I'm sure if you saw a woman your size in a bathing suit you'd think the looked fabulous.
Where's the institution we go to for alla this body dysmorphia? Put it in your back yard and that oughtta cut down on your water bill.
Mary
Where's the institution we go to for alla this body dysmorphia? Put it in your back yard and that oughtta cut down on your water bill.
Mary
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on 6/2/09 9:31 pm
on 6/2/09 9:31 pm
I certainly have body dysmorphia about some parts of my body (legs) but I have no qualms about wearing a bikini and frankly didn't have any hesitation about wearing one after my weightloss/before all my PS. I guess I'm similar to the WalMart chicks although I would have NEVER worn a swimsuit when I was fat!
wimmin! Let me break this down for you! No matter what size, here are The Rules:
1. swimsuits are okay at the pool/lake!
2. No spandex allowed in stores. Spandex is allowed in gyms, on walking trails.
I think most Americans are SO uptight about their bodies! I am no different than you guys in that I am more embarrassed of my fat than my nakedness, but I have come to realize that the human body is beautiful at any size.
I was taught this lesson in Mexico at an adult resort where peeps went around topless. Those Euro broads were shameless - and I am talking MANY of them were 300+ pounds. There were fake boobies, young perky boobies, itty bitty titties, sock of rocks, globes - and you know what? i thought they were ALL beautiful. I was struck by the art of the female human form undraped.
I'm serious. it changed me, seeing all those women just being okay with their bodies. We were all just females, sharing a space.
That experience made me come off harshly judging any person's clothing on any size body. I live in an ungodly hot area, and I see it all on all kinds of bodies. Now, I am with ya on certain things look better on big fat slobby types, but I have learned to just be good with it. Not to say i wont make fun of certain ridiculous items!
1. swimsuits are okay at the pool/lake!
2. No spandex allowed in stores. Spandex is allowed in gyms, on walking trails.
I think most Americans are SO uptight about their bodies! I am no different than you guys in that I am more embarrassed of my fat than my nakedness, but I have come to realize that the human body is beautiful at any size.
I was taught this lesson in Mexico at an adult resort where peeps went around topless. Those Euro broads were shameless - and I am talking MANY of them were 300+ pounds. There were fake boobies, young perky boobies, itty bitty titties, sock of rocks, globes - and you know what? i thought they were ALL beautiful. I was struck by the art of the female human form undraped.
I'm serious. it changed me, seeing all those women just being okay with their bodies. We were all just females, sharing a space.
That experience made me come off harshly judging any person's clothing on any size body. I live in an ungodly hot area, and I see it all on all kinds of bodies. Now, I am with ya on certain things look better on big fat slobby types, but I have learned to just be good with it. Not to say i wont make fun of certain ridiculous items!
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
Oh Neecee what a lovely way of looking at things from a different perspective. But here in the 'real' world, ( the good ol' USA ) the thinner folks seem to think it is their godgiven right to make fun of those of the 'chubbier' persuasion. I'm not saying it's right, but it is a sad fact of life and I think we all need to try and do our best to not give them ammunition. I never got made fun of for being fat, but I tried really hard never to stick out like a sore thumb. It spared me from a lot of hurt feelings and as an emotional eater, I would have gotten even fatter!
Mary
Mary
Mary, you lucked out if nobody ever cat-called you! I was far on the skinny side of 300# and heard it plenty. I feel fairly safe in saying you just did not hear the taunts. You are right, this is the way it is, but that does not mean we should not change it.
I really thought about all this today. Those gals were lashing back at a world that lashes at them, of course. That guy that called them names would have made me want to fight with him or at least pinch his damn ear.
I mean, not a one of us does - or at least should - think it's "okay" to be so heavy you cannot walk. I would be lying my pants off if i said I never felt vaguely angry at a heavy person, but I can pride myself to have never treated them like they were less than I am. Maybe s/he is off the path, but it is not for me to call their behavior wrong.
I really thought about all this today. Those gals were lashing back at a world that lashes at them, of course. That guy that called them names would have made me want to fight with him or at least pinch his damn ear.
I mean, not a one of us does - or at least should - think it's "okay" to be so heavy you cannot walk. I would be lying my pants off if i said I never felt vaguely angry at a heavy person, but I can pride myself to have never treated them like they were less than I am. Maybe s/he is off the path, but it is not for me to call their behavior wrong.
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
This is a very good post. When I first read this I was thinking maybe these women can't walk around Walmart. It's not they are necessarily lazy, but that they've gotten so large they can't physically walk around Walmart. Now even though I got up to 376, I still walked Walmart though I've gotta say it wasn't easy and I wouldn't have willingly walked back and forth through the store multiple times as I didn't have the energy. Now that I've lost a good amount of weight it's no big thing to walk back and forth from one end to the other mutliple times. Now back to the women and my thought that maybe they couldn't have walked the store. Another reason...my dad (who's 66) and has a bad leg also weighs in the 300's, though I've gotta say I have him beat in the weight department. Anyway, he won't go to Walmart or Meijer (a large food/department store in the midwest) because it's too much for him to walk. If his dr. accidentally sends his prescriptions there he has to take a break when he gets inside before walking the rest of the way to the pharmacy. Now mind you he has a handi-capped sticker (2nd wife has problems), so he gets pretty good parking spots.
As for the clothing, I never wore shorts out in public and don't plan to right now either. Maybe these women didn't have anything else that would fit or don't think well of themselves to really bother. It's sad to see a person get to this point. Ok, can't say anything as to the pigging out at the deli...that is pretty gross. One has to wonder if these women like themselves or are they stuffing and hiding their feelings by stuffing themselves with food? Been there, done that.
As for the clothing, I never wore shorts out in public and don't plan to right now either. Maybe these women didn't have anything else that would fit or don't think well of themselves to really bother. It's sad to see a person get to this point. Ok, can't say anything as to the pigging out at the deli...that is pretty gross. One has to wonder if these women like themselves or are they stuffing and hiding their feelings by stuffing themselves with food? Been there, done that.
Now you see, based on my families cir****tances, I have very different views on people needing scooters. I have one sister who is very large and has had knee surgery and she walks WalMart. I have another sister with cerebral palsy and she NEEDS a scooter. Seeing these women walk from the parking lot, I didn't get the impression that they had any problems walking which is why I was surprised that they got on the scooters. But just because they were being lazy, now people like my sister *****ally NEED the scooters didn't have any. Maybe I'm just a little sensitive. 
Mary
Mary
MaryEllen OntheEastCoast
on 6/3/09 1:21 am - CT
on 6/3/09 1:21 am - CT
I thought your post was really hateful. Fat slobs, indeed.
Truemans_Mom
on 6/3/09 2:14 am - Edmonds, WA
on 6/3/09 2:14 am - Edmonds, WA
I won't even wear shorts and a tank outside my own back yard! Sleeveless in public is totally out of the question. As I watch the scale go down I am wondering if I am going to have to start saving for PS. I don't even know if I will have a job after this year so it seems a little silly to worry about batwings and slack chin skin, but there you go. 
My proud is that ONEderland is starting to look like I can be there in the foreseeable future. I've only got to loose 7 pounds and I will be under 200 for the first time in 6 years. woohoo!
Jan
My proud is that ONEderland is starting to look like I can be there in the foreseeable future. I've only got to loose 7 pounds and I will be under 200 for the first time in 6 years. woohoo!
Jan
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