What Have You Done Today to Make You Feel Proud?
For those of you who prayed and wished my Big Baby, aka my DH, well on his surgery, I wanted to thank you and give you an update. We went to the doctor today and everything is fine and his hematoma is gone and he's healing very well.
As for the five pounds I gained while I was off of my plan for his surgery and recovery, I've lost four of it which proves that it was mostly fluid anyways. I'm pretty sure one pound of that was a real pound, damnit, but I'm working on it as we speak!
How'd you all make out over the weekend? Hopefully you sailed right through it. Am I the only one having Biggest Loser withdrawals?
Loves ya all,
Mary
He also says I do not need counseling. I am so glad I have a man who knows my needs better then I do. (tongue in cheek). If it were up to him, I would stay almost 300 pounds at 5'3" tall, no self esteem, and living in fear and miserable. And he says he wants me to be happy.
Can anyone, anyone at all tell me why he does this to me. Tells me what I need and it is in direct contradiction of what I think I need. Sorry Mary, I am sad right now and miserable and thinking there is no hope.
Life is short, laugh easily, forgive quickly, and never regret anything that made you smile.
What I'm translating from Mr. Butt Head's words is that yes, he wants you to be healthy and happy, but he doesn't want anything in "his world" to have to change to get that accomplished. If you have surgery or stick to a weight loss plan, it's going to change what you eat and that could mean that you'll start judging what he eats...which would have the potential of his life being brownie-less, yes that's a word cuz I just made it up!
You could try to convince him that surgery would heal your diabetes, but he may have it in his head that you could follow a diabetic diet on your own. I'll be brutally honest with you, whether you have surgery or diet on your own, they both involve blood, sweat and tears and a high level of commitment to doing everything in your power to stick to your plan. If wishing and hoping and dreaming worked, we'd all be skinny!
Here's the thing about weight loss for you now even if you are only pre-diabetic, you are now insulin resistant and will have to approach weight loss from that prospective. Unfortunately that means that weight loss will be slower and most likely low carb. I've been researching this for my sister and I'm going to buy this book for her.
http://www.buyatkins.com/product_detail.asp?T1=ATK+101943&HD R=ATKBOOK
Now girlee don't you go thinking that there is no hope because there's always hope as long as we can find some faith in ourselves to do the right thing for our bodies. I think because you have failed in the past and dieting seems so hard for you to stick with you think that this will never happen for you. But you have to remember that each one of us here who has been successful has been through what you are going through now and it had to get into our hearts before it could get into our heads. This is about you loving Jennifer enough for you to do something very special for Jennifer. You deserve to be as beautiful outside as you are inside and to live up to the potential that God gave you when you were born. Once it's in your heart, it's all about working the plan, and I'm pretty confident that you are intelligent enough to get that together.
And as for my determination, I'll be working this plan till the day I die because I'm not ever going to let fat rule my life again. It wasn't ever a very good ruler anyway!
Mary
Marriage is sooo complicated at times. What I would do and what you would do may two separate things, but i would kindly, gently CONSTANTLY let him know that this is how it will be and invite him at every turn to be a part of it. Never stop believing that he could really change and be the supportive person you need him to be.
Stuff like the brownies can make the first statement. Smile, say thanks, and do NOT eat them, even if you have to cover them up with foil saying you are keeping them fresh. Wrap each of them and save for later - for HIM to eat.
My DH is more subversive than yours - does all our shopping and so how can I ***** about that? he just is stubborn bringing home chips, dips, etc - all my weaknesses.
Look around the other boards - plenty of peeps had to do WLS without the support of the spouse. Most of the "bitter halves" came around, and others who thought they had a strong marriage lost it.
Only you can answer if this marriage is right for you, if you feel affirmed and accepted for wanting to be the best you can be. It may be that WLS will make you two or break you...either way, your desires and dreams are very important, so please just be patient, pray a lot, and may God lead you the right direction.
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
on 5/26/09 12:52 pm
I'm proud of the steps I've taken to finish my PS journey. I SO hope it's finally over. Thanks for all your support through the last 16 months of hell.
Loves ya,K
LOL, your surgery buddy was screaming today, "Call Kim, Call Kim and tell her that I'm being abused!" That's when I was threatening to beat him with his cane for having a smart mouth. Ask me how my last nerve is doing now!
Youze is welcome SugarButt. Us boob drama girls have to stick together now don't we? Maybe soon we'll be able to exhale!
Loves you, too,
Mary
My holiday weekend was pretty good! Lots of hiking in the mountains, a long bike ride, gardening (cussing was included). My food was likewise good...though I did tend to snack between meals more than i should have.
I have to go now: long drive to a training today!
Loves you all...
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
on 5/27/09 1:22 am - Edmonds, WA
I so glad to hear, Mary, that you only really gained 1 pound, but I know how hard you have to work to lose just one pound.
I made it home from my road trip and was feeling pretty bad that I had just given up trying to Atkins on the road and at my mom's (she has absolutely no understanding of it) but the scale was not that bad this morning. So I'm going to try to do the pre-procedure diet of no meat and low fiber eating food I know is okay - no way I can get the 15 grams of fiber and be on-program but I am going to eat eggs and cheese and protein drinks until I never want to see them again. I miss my breakfast MIM and so look forward to getting back in the groove Saturday (or Friday night, I guess). I did enjoy the onion rings I had Saturday night though! I have to try to make them at home with low carb batter.
Trueman and Cindy Lou were great traveling companions, and all that training he had came in handy when I had him do a "find" to catch the mosquitoes that snuck in the house. I always forget that May and June in Idaho is thick with the little buggers and they LOVE me.
Jan
It sounds to me like you didn't do too much damage on the road, so you still get a high mark! At least you can say you tried. What are you planning to use to make your low carb batter. I asked the question on the Atkins forum and Scott said to use QuickCarb, but I looked it up and I can only get it online. I HATE shopping online!
Hey, I didn't know you could train a dawg to catch mosquitos. How cool is that? Those blood suckers must love us so much cuz we'ze so sweet!
Mary
on 5/27/09 1:36 pm
So I have to ask, do you cuss when you ride your bike? I certainly do when riding in California - all those hills are KILLER!! The only hills we have here in Houston are highway overpasses!
Have you ever biked 17 mile drive through Pacific Grove, Pebble Beach, Carmel? Wow, is that a killer bike ride - the hills and the wind! The stunningly beautiful scenery certainly compensates for the agony of the ride.
