can big girls find love???
TAME, compared to some of the things we used to discuss and some of the pics that we've seen. At least they aren't totally nekkid or on drugs on the sex board!
The most asked question on the PS board was how soon after surgery can I have sex? Like Boo said, "At least wait until you leave the hospital!"
Mary
The most asked question on the PS board was how soon after surgery can I have sex? Like Boo said, "At least wait until you leave the hospital!"
Mary
....but I think I will check out that board...
Hmm..it would probably be safe as long as you don't go outside alone with him or take a ride somewhere. That is awesome that you took the 1st step in contacting him.
Ok crash course?
Depending on finances, go get that medi/pani and something cute to wear. Otherwise, paint your nails and choose your favorite outfit (maybe kinda dressy tunic top & bootcut jeans, sandals) and some sparkly earrings.
Have a friend or you fix your hair & make-up-this is actually fun to me. This is a bar and will probably be dark, so the makeup needs to be more dramatic: extra mascara and eyeliner, lipstick, gloss, blush, and little shimmer. Don't forget perfume! ..and breath mints gum (just in case).
When you get there, sit at the bar area first. Order a water with lemon or cherries so looks like its a mixed drink. Its the best place to start a conversation b/c where does everybody get refills?
When you meet him maybe say "It's so great to meet you! Thanks for inviting me, this should be fun!" , "So, what song are you going to sing" (and if he does listen intently or dance then afterwards say- "Wow, that was awesome, you did great!" or "My turn!")
Smile a lot and enjoy yourself. Have friendly conversations with his guy/girl friends also, they will give opinions after ya know.
If there is dancing (and you are comfortable doing so) if he doesn't ask you to dance first hint "I love this song" on a slow one or something like that. Or...you could just dance with your girlfriends and then look at him and motion for him to join you.
Have lots of fun, don't be nervous, and make sure if you like him to lock down that 2nd date when ya'll say goodbyes.
Ok crash course?
Depending on finances, go get that medi/pani and something cute to wear. Otherwise, paint your nails and choose your favorite outfit (maybe kinda dressy tunic top & bootcut jeans, sandals) and some sparkly earrings.
Have a friend or you fix your hair & make-up-this is actually fun to me. This is a bar and will probably be dark, so the makeup needs to be more dramatic: extra mascara and eyeliner, lipstick, gloss, blush, and little shimmer. Don't forget perfume! ..and breath mints gum (just in case).
When you get there, sit at the bar area first. Order a water with lemon or cherries so looks like its a mixed drink. Its the best place to start a conversation b/c where does everybody get refills?
When you meet him maybe say "It's so great to meet you! Thanks for inviting me, this should be fun!" , "So, what song are you going to sing" (and if he does listen intently or dance then afterwards say- "Wow, that was awesome, you did great!" or "My turn!")
Smile a lot and enjoy yourself. Have friendly conversations with his guy/girl friends also, they will give opinions after ya know.
If there is dancing (and you are comfortable doing so) if he doesn't ask you to dance first hint "I love this song" on a slow one or something like that. Or...you could just dance with your girlfriends and then look at him and motion for him to join you.
Have lots of fun, don't be nervous, and make sure if you like him to lock down that 2nd date when ya'll say goodbyes.
what ever you do, dont sell yourself short or just settle for any guy, you are a beautiful woman and have great worth and value! be careful about finding someone online, seems kinda scary to me, but I have been with the same person for over 14 years! what about e-harmony or something like that? would you be willing to date a heavy guy? what about meeting someone else who is in the process of losing weight, you would know for a fact that you have something in common and who knows may even be able to be each other's support. just a thought, My Husband was thin when we became a couple, I was about 260 ish (we were in high school) he has gained a few over the years but he is not really that overweight, anyhow, I have a wonderful relationship with him, and he loves me and is attracted to me at what ever weight I am, so I wish the same for you. Take care Heather! oh and one more thing, until you see yourself as beautiful (at whatever weight), the man of your dreams probably wont either. Good Luck girl!
Michelle Hendrickson Holistic Health Coach http://www.gracioushealth.net
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on 5/1/09 8:28 am
on 5/1/09 8:28 am
Heather:
The most important thing is confidence. I had the most confidence I've ever had when I weighed about 200 pounds. I had more dates then than I could keep up with. I'm much smaller now and truth be told, probably more attractive physically but I don't get the attention I used to get because my confidence is shattered. I'm working on getting that back. Men definitely notice physical attributes but no matter how good you look, if you don't have confidence, they're not interested.
As far as the online dating deal, I don't personally care for it but know some people who have been successful. I also know someone who met a man in church and after marrying him, he killed her and stole all her money. So, it doesn't really matter WHERE you meet someone; it matters that you're vigilant and keep your senses clued in to potential red flags. But, you're a smart girl so you know that already.
I just read that you already met someone online. I hope you have fun and let us know how it goes. (I can live vicariously through you...LOL!).
The most important thing is confidence. I had the most confidence I've ever had when I weighed about 200 pounds. I had more dates then than I could keep up with. I'm much smaller now and truth be told, probably more attractive physically but I don't get the attention I used to get because my confidence is shattered. I'm working on getting that back. Men definitely notice physical attributes but no matter how good you look, if you don't have confidence, they're not interested.
As far as the online dating deal, I don't personally care for it but know some people who have been successful. I also know someone who met a man in church and after marrying him, he killed her and stole all her money. So, it doesn't really matter WHERE you meet someone; it matters that you're vigilant and keep your senses clued in to potential red flags. But, you're a smart girl so you know that already.
I just read that you already met someone online. I hope you have fun and let us know how it goes. (I can live vicariously through you...LOL!).
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on 5/1/09 11:46 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 5/1/09 11:46 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
Yes Big Girls can find love.
You need to first love yourself before you can expect anyone else to really love you. Have confidence in yourself. Try to relax and enjoy the evening........be yourself.
PLEASE be careful about anyone you meet on line. Even if someone sends you their "myspace" or "facebook" link you can't be 100% sure it is really them or that they are honest on what is posted.
How about trying to meet people at casual spots.......go spend the day at the park........sit on a park bench with a good book, you never know who will pass by. If someone looks your way or you like someone you see put on a big smile and say hello.
If you move your handbag off the empty bench next to you it will an invitation for someone to sit down next to you. Go back a couple times a week...
Go to the laundry mat after work hours.........you will often find guys there struggling with how to do their laundry.
Go to the local hardware store or Home Depot.....wonder around an isle and if you see someone you might like ask him to explain how to XYZ (fill in the blank, i.e. how to fix a running toilet,, how to repair a torn screen door).
Just be careful wherever you go. Don't go with grand expectations (guys can sense it and they don't like it), just relax, and have fun for a few hours without putting pressure on yourself.
Hope that helps......
Good luck with your search.
You need to first love yourself before you can expect anyone else to really love you. Have confidence in yourself. Try to relax and enjoy the evening........be yourself.
PLEASE be careful about anyone you meet on line. Even if someone sends you their "myspace" or "facebook" link you can't be 100% sure it is really them or that they are honest on what is posted.
How about trying to meet people at casual spots.......go spend the day at the park........sit on a park bench with a good book, you never know who will pass by. If someone looks your way or you like someone you see put on a big smile and say hello.
If you move your handbag off the empty bench next to you it will an invitation for someone to sit down next to you. Go back a couple times a week...Go to the laundry mat after work hours.........you will often find guys there struggling with how to do their laundry.
Go to the local hardware store or Home Depot.....wonder around an isle and if you see someone you might like ask him to explain how to XYZ (fill in the blank, i.e. how to fix a running toilet,, how to repair a torn screen door).
Just be careful wherever you go. Don't go with grand expectations (guys can sense it and they don't like it), just relax, and have fun for a few hours without putting pressure on yourself.
Hope that helps......
Good luck with your search.
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