What Have You Done Today to Make You Feel Proud? Max

This is a very strange thing.  All the women in my family have big babies.  My grandmother gave birth to a 10 pound baby (my father).  I was 8 pounds 11 ounces.  Sophia was 8 pounds 12 ounces.  Must be in the genes.  Babs

She is so cute! 

Enjoy!!

Hey Chelle, staying the course even when things are rough is one of the things I admire most about folks...you my dear are a star! 

My anniversary is July 26th so I have three months to get to get to my big goal...5 1/4 pounds to go.   I bet you'll be drop dead gawgus for your anniversary.  How many pounds are you wanting to lose by then?

Mary 

 well my goal is to drop 10 lb's per month, and aug. 23rd is 4 months away, so i would LOVE to be 40 lb's lighter by my Anniversary! So we will see how it goes! I will keep on truckin!  

Ooooo, I can't wait to see!

Mary

Somehow, instead of looking at me like I've been where she is now and knows what she's going through, she has a tendency to think of me as someone who can't understand her because I've been successful and she is struggling to get started. 

This statement struck me somewhere deep down. Do *I* do that when I look at others who have been successful...kind of sit back and just be bitter? seeing it as another excuse (well that's HER...not me)???

I hope for herself that she can see you as a mentor. I will try harder to see others who are successful as mentors too!

My proud?  getting on the scale at the gym, seeing 2+ and not freaking out. Just understand that I did have a pretty lax time with food at the coast last week...now there is a payment due. So I'll pay up.

I don't think of it as being "bitter", or as an excuse.  Personally if someone told me it was an excuse I would be actually livid.  I'm just saying everyone is different, and how you just said it, you  see it as being an excuse, or bitter.  When others see it as a total life struggle, and literally don't know what to do in their eyes.  It's more than just losing weight for some.  It's a life battle,   What's easy for one isn't as easy for others. 

Sorry if I sound mean on this, because I really don't mean to offend anyone.  I actually think it's a very good topic.   It just has really irked me in the past that someone that has succeeded thinks they knows it all, or accuses me or anyone else they do not try when they are not in that persons shoes.  Just like every diet doesn't fit all.  Every person is different.  Every persons thresh hold of handling things is different.  Everyone's addiction is different.  

So in this aspect I can see how her niece  might clam up.

 

well there's that...fer shur, Hol...it must be hard for folks who did "make it" to be humble (for lack of a better word). The know it all thing could so easily be mistaken for really truly trying to help make suggestions.  Truth is, we all do find our own way in our own time. Or not.

All there is to do for one another for this or anything else:  give advice or shut up entirely. We must love & accept one another just the way we are by my own yardstick regardless.

I really do understand what you say...I don't think there's anyone who is still suffering from being extremely obese when s/he is in the presence of those who did make it to feel even more down low, just "that" much more obviously a failure. Just by sitting there. We all know that Silent Accusation that fat people can feel, no matter what is said or not said.

EDITED to ADD:  The loudest jury we fat peeps hear is the one in our own head! I am convinced that jury is what stops so many of us, too. We have been convinced that "we" cannot do this. THAT is why I think it is my excuse when i feel somehow confronted by a successful loser's very presence.

People are judgmental of very fat folks. There's no argument from me on that one. I have come to understand that it is just not that easy to lose it - especially after a point when a person has been very large for many years.  

We certainly do have our own lives and cir****tances - i do not walk your path.  I cannot judge anyone - not when it took me YEARS to get to this place - and I ain't 'zactly dainty, just better off than i have been for most of my adult life.  In this OH setting, we can again, take it or leave it.

Let's face it:  whether mildly overweight or super obese folks:  we do NOT want to hear it-feel it, nuttin.  We either cannot or will not do anything about it or  any amount of fill in the blanks here, right????

The loudest jury we fat peeps hear is the one in our own head!

Ain't that the truth!  Right there is punishment enough!ha   I hope I didn't sound like people shouldn't help each other.  I didn't really focus on the other side of it at all yesterday.  JUst what she might be feeling herself.  

It's tough!   Just like you said we do not like to hear it, I meant to put that down yesterday.  I totally agree.  Sometimes it's hard for us to hear and accept our own responsibilities when we feel like we have no control over it!  

Mary-I hope I didn't offend you in any way, I was just trying to be honest of how I feel on it.  Maybe if you know the "weak" end of it, you can even help her more.

It is such a head game, if we like to believe it is or not I think.  I know my mind plays a HUGE role in my dieting success or failure.  To me it's more than just wanting it or needing it.  If yoru mind frame isn't with ya all the way, it's going to get messy! :)

Neecee, you so smart.  Now that's a mature dieter when you realize that there is a price to be paid for time off and that you will have to pay for it in losing the same weight over again.  But such is life for folks like us who's bodies are constantly demanding it's weight back.  I wish mine would just 'get over it'!

Mary