HELP! I can't let this happen again!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guys..

  I'm so lost.. .. I can't believe this is happening again.  232 today.   I honestly can't go through this again.  I can't go back there.  I simly can't live through it.

  I can't afford the surgery.helpppppppp.. something.. anything....and ruth, no offense.. I appreciate the offer, but I just can't afford any more.  I spent 7 grand on a trainer... and another 2 grand on gym memberships....            I know.. people say "you can't afford not to", but I prefer havig a roof over my head.. yanno..

  This is a desperate cry for help folks.. and when I say desperate... I mean it.  I think gettng told by David that he could never care for me because I'm so big really put the icing on the cake.

 Atkins... someone... help me out here.   I can't even concentrate anymore........and again my social life went to chit because of this gain.

Check out Kim's post on the Beck's diet soulution.  Really.  I know I know another.  The cognitive behavior therapy really could help you right now.  Not just with the weight issues but with the depression.  You really sound down and I am worried I have been there.  Sure I had the surgery and you may think I am spouting BS but I do so remember where I came from and I understand.  I suffer from depression still and know that until you pass that hurdle you can't even find the other paths.  Check it out just for the heck of it.  I really do wish you well and know you have it in you.  I have seen it.  I used this board pre op and it is wonderful people with wonderful support.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  Remember...The beck diet solution.

Lori:
I think you must have some type of metabolic or other health issue that is causing huge amounts of fluid gain.  I know you've been to some doctors but don't rule out going to some more until you get answers.  Go see someone who is affiliated with a large medical school.
And regarding David's comment:  I know it's hard to hear something like that but don't let that be the driver for your mood or your actions.  He owns that negative and ill-mannered comment, not you.  Surround yourself with positive people who support you and love you for the wonderful, kind person you are.
Kim

Quit looking at that scale!  You are not doing yourself any good looking at it,  and getting all depressed from it.  Start eating right, exercising daily like you use to do, and CALL and make an APPOINTMENT with another doc.

You never answered me if you ever actually went to a doc regarding this in particular.  I know you've gone to docs for other issues, but have you gone to one for this?  And if all docs can't seem to figure it out, I personally would go see a weight loss doc.  If he thinks you need different kind of help he will refer you to the right person I would think.  If not, he will fix you all up in your eating plan.   You need to get to the bottom of this.  I know they are also in the hospital.

As for that guy...pffft...you've had ****ty luck is all.  I remember I was one that always got put down because of my weight ect..,and in a vert mentally abusive marriage.   Because of that when I left and divorced him my self esteem was down, and I didn't think anyone could love me again.  Plus I REALLY believed all men were pretty much all alike!  When I met my husband I couldn't imagine us together because he was just way too nice.  So I treated him like a little brother (he's eight years younger than me).  There was no way the relationship was going to go any further than friendship.  Some where along the line I realized I only wanted the abusive relationships.  Well, I didn't want them, but that is where I fell into every single time.  Something about us and bad boys yanno.  So I slowly put my gaurd down and fell in love with a nice guy! :)  They are out there Lori.  You just have to find them!

Now go call a doc! :)

Holly

 

Awwe Lori, I'm sorry that you have had to endure all of this pure hell for so long now.  I'm with Kim, this is either something metabolic or medically wrong and no amount of dieting or exercising is going to fix it.  The only person I know who can gain ten pounds in one day has a little problem with her heart valve. 

I know you have been trying to find a solution to this by yourself...but desperate times call for desperate measures.  When I started gaining weight for no reason, after I got through seeing myself as a failure, I sought out the best medical help I could find.  I think that is going to HAVE to be your next step.  Find a doctor who won't stop until he knows the reason why you retain so much fluid.  You can't treat a problem until you DIAGNOSE a problem!  Finding a good doc ain't easy, but you are going to have to do your best.  This is getting worse, so finding a competent doc gets more important every day.  And if he doesn't have a problem with you retaining this much fluid, like that quack down in Florida, run for the hills!

We loves ya Sweetie! 

Mary 

OOooo.. Hunnybuns...

Maybe you just need a plain old break. 

I know Atkin's works for you but maybe you should try something different?  South Beach is low on carbs - what about that?

Surgery does not have to be the way out of this mess.  You're so close to a good weight, I really don't think surgery is the way. 

You need to get re-motivated.  What about reading some weight loss books?  I'm reading The Biggest Loser 30 Day Jump Start and Bob Harpers book Are you ready?. 

I'm just guessing.

Don't give up honey.  Take a break but don't give up.

Kimmie said it way more politely than I did, but really...that guy who dumped you is soooo not worth you holing up over. You are such a treasure and the right man waits for you - whatever you weigh.

Your problems are too big for you alone to analyze, let alone for us. I wish you could go to a doctor and do what you are told to do. That is not normal by any stretch to eat like you do, move like you do and gain vast amounts in short time periods!

God be with you...I know there is a lot you just have to put up with here.  keep the faith, baby.

It sucks sometimes and we all have to do things b/c they are the right things to do and not get a lot of pay-back:  not eat so much, move a bit every day, pray, read inspirational things, etc.

Lori,

After reading more I did not realize that you were having so many problems that were obviously pointing toward obvious medical obstuctions in your weight loss journey.  I am sorry that made my post sound petty.  I am glad that Kim and Mary made such good advocate posts for you and I knew that you would get that kind of advice on this board.  I wish you well and hope that all works out.  Please continue to advocate for yourself.  I know you feel tired and lost but you can do it and with God all things are possible.  I will keep you in my prayers.