QOTD

Quote of the day from The Beck Diet Solution by Judith Beck, PhD:

Knowing that you have to report on your progress to someone else can motivate you to stick to your plan.

Post your food on Janina's thread, write it down in a journal, find a diet coach (doesn't have to be a professional, can be a friend or family member), start an organized program (like WW), find a diet professional (therapist and/or nutritionist), seek online support (don't leave when you fall off the wagon; stay here so we can support you getting back on the wagon!).

Have a great day everyone,
Kim

Yanno Kimmie, when I was coming off of this 129 pounds, I had NO support whatsoever, and I would have loved to have had this place to come and vent my frustrations.  But maybe that just makes me appreciate it more now that I finally landed where everyone speaks my language.

There were times that I didn't understand people at all.  How could anyone with good sense say to a dieter...you're doing so good, you can afford some cake and ice cream.  And this when I still weighed 250 pounds!  It seemed the more I reported my progress, the more people thought I was free to have a treat cuz I deserved it for working so hard.  That 'treat' would have gone straight to my apple shaped belly and it would have taken three days to get it off, so how the hell did THAT make sense?  Robert was pretty good, but if I said stop and get me a shrimp po'boy, he was all over it, no questions asked.

Talking to successful 'losers' is one of the things I have learned keeps me motivated.  And talking to those who truly are trying to be successful humbles me because I don't ever want to get so ****y that I believe I couldn't be them if I let my guard down for a second.  This ride never ends, and if we think it does, we need to think again.  Reaching goal just means that you aren't desperate or miserable anymore.  It doesn't mean that you are done watching everything you put in ya mouth!  That's why I love the support I get from my peeps here.  Even when, as Stacy says, they are up to no good!  We're all in this thing together...for better or for worse, and we have to stick together.  Thanks for all the support and insight ya'll! 

Mary    

 

I've never understood why some people think the reward for doing good on your diet should be the food you're avoiding while being on a diet. Thats just stupid.Now saying that, I'm very guilty of this very thing. The little voice in my head that WANTS to stay fat just so she can eat all she wants says "you've been doing soo good, eating off plan one meal won't hurt" and then I listen and one meal turns into over two weeks of eating nothing healthy whatsoever. Yikes. I was talking to my sister, who used to be a size 0 in high school, and is now a plump 12-14 (much to my evil satisfaction ) and she just doesn't understand. I finally dropped it, because I saw that unless she gains 100lbs (which I wouldn't wish on her!) she's not going to understand how I feel on alot of things.

Hmmm, I was wondering Saturday if it was evil of me to take pleasure in the fact that someone gained weight?  My niece's maid of honor, fifteen years ago, was so thin that we had to pin the back of her size two dress cuz that was the smallest she could get that would fit and match the other bridesmaid who was a size 18.  Now the other bridesmaid is a size eight and the maid of honor, who was *****ing that she was so big at the wedding, was thanking me Saturday for giving her my old size sixteen pants.  I know it's wrong, but I just feel some sort of justice in that.  I probably wouldn't though if she hadn't been such a ***** to the other girl.  And how much do I feel solidarity with the former fat chick?   

Mary     

Mary:
I had no support either.  All of my friends are thin or if they aren't, they aren't interested in being thin so there were LOTS of invitations to dinner, happy hour, etc. that I had to decline.  Now my friends know that entertainment for me does not revolve around food.
I'm glad I found OH; I get so much support from OH and I'll be forever grateful and indebted to you for your unwavering support for me during my PS disaster.
The work never ends and we constantly have to be on guard, monitor our behavior, and rely on the things that helped us be successful.  I will always be inclined to be fat but I will keep fighting every day, for the rest of my life, I hope.
Kim

 

I'm finding that having people to talk to, who understand and support you is very important to my success with my plan. I don't have a support system here in real life, so all y'all are it! I really notice when I dont' have internet access or am eating off plan and avoid. My question is, if we're posting our food journal on here, should we post when we go off plan? Is it helpful to write down all the junk we eat, when we're off plan? Would that be harmful to other posters *****ad it? 

I think you should post your food no matter how evil it was.  Maybe you could put a warning up front...Not for the squeamish!

Mary

I second that!  In fact..Let That BE Your Punishment! 

LOL....confession really is good for the soul...it is nothing much to lie to us by withholding facts, but to lie to yourself....NO GOOD.

I think by fearlessly posting, you really will start to see a pattern that you can break, or tie it to other things that trigger you. Because food was so tied to my emotions, I also think we should include how we felt - good bad, ugly in our daily thread!

thats a really good idea about posting our feelings for the day when we post our meals! I'm gonna try that!

Heather:
If posting your food is helpful and keeps you accountable, by all means, you should post whether you stayed on or off plan.
Kim