What Have You Done Today to Make You Feel Proud?

Did you just say that your accomplishment was SMALL?  Girlee, that thing is HUGE!  Eating off the Induction menu will make all of that hunger go away and once your withdrawal symptoms are gone, you'll feel so great that you'll forget all about that sorry X of yours! 
I'm hoping that you will be able to make it to twenty carbs because eating enough really is so important for keeping your metabolism furnace stoked and keeping that scale moving.  My problem is that I don't care for most vegetables, so I eat a big salad everyday.  Now I'm addicted to a salad everyday!  For me, who hated all natural, that was my biggie.  I hope your scale is good to you tomorrow.  If not, wait til the next day cuz you may still be paying for what you ate yesterday.

Mary 

Attention ladies and gents...MARY IS NORMAL! I'm so ready to my chart not to read "super morbidly obese". MY proud is how I've been living the past few days. I have not binged at 3 am nor have I cheated on my diet in the past 3 days! I'm so proud of myself...it may seem small to some of you all but I was cheating every day and binging like crazy around 3am for the past few weeks so yea I'm proud. ALSO I busted my ass working out today I'm talkin sweat was rolling down me and my brother was right there, in my face screaming "PU**** STACY! GIVE IT ALL YOU CAN!!" I told him he's hired b/c he totally became the male jillian(sp?) I love him for supporting me

Stac

Stacy, thats great!! I'm so proud of you for stickin with it, and breakin the cheatin cycle!! Was this the same brother who was eating crab dip with you just last week?? What a change! I'm glad to see he's being supportive!!

Mary, CONGRATS on being normal, girl!! Wow! I'd love for a doctor to say ANYTHING about me is normal!! Thats so cool, and I'm puting that on my goal list....to be normal!!

Trisha, I feel your pain...I've been doing terrible. My car was enough to break any diet resolve I momentarily had down....in fact, I think I just plain had a breakdown. Things are looking better, though. My parents drove 250 miles thursday to rescue me, They had an old car they were waiting to give to either me or my sis...whoever's car broke down first. So I won...I guess? It's an old car, and has mechanical problems too, but for now it runs, and I have a way to get back and forth to school. I just hate havning to accept help from my parents. I mean, I'm almost 30. You would think I would have my stuff together by now, but instead I'm still needing to be rescued by mommy and daddy. And my dad and I don't get along. Mom says it's cause we're exactly the same, but I don't think so. He woke me up at 1am today to yell at me for my car being messy. WTF?? I dunno. I went back to bed crying. I'm always trying to live up to his expectations for me and no matter what, I can never get his approval. They left to go back home at 5am cuz dad couldn't stand to be here any longer. Ya feel the love, dont'cha?

Anyway, I didn't mean to vent and make this post into a therapy session, but I think I did anyway...I'm gonna try and get back on my plan today now that they're gone and I don't have as much to stress about. First I have to get rid of the dozen doughnuts, and other assorted junk food dad bought...I don't think he understands (or cares) what a low-carb diet entails. Of course, he's not the one who was shovin doughnuts down my face as fast as I could breathe...that was me.

Thanks for listening guys....I luv y'all! 

Oh, yeah, a proud....not going completely crazy the past few days, would me mine I suppose....

Aw, don't feel bad if parents have to help out - you sound like a very good momma and trying to get ahead in life. I wanted to share a parent's perspective! I think you are doing great and I know that deep down they do too.  

Ahem...my younger 30yoDD also has a very messy car and house, too for what it is worth. Both my girls are not housekeepers per se. I will say that I have gotten onto my younger DD lots more for it...b/c she tends to "need help" more often financially.

The other one bought her own car, has never asked to borrow money, ever, so it is off limits for me to even bring up as far as I am concerned. Just sayin that nothing is free - ever - and by getting help from your parents - that is how you will "pay".

Your dad sounds old school like me and i am sure he loves you and wants for you to get independent. When that day comes - and it will if you keep on keepin on...he will give you repsect, and better yet, you will have the self respect to tell him, thanks for the past help and you paid by letting him ***** so get off it already!

As far as the weight misunderstandings, I feel compelled to write another thread for that! That is a big issue, right?

Hey Sweet Heather...I'm looking forward to you being normal masself!  Did that come out right?

And in a way, this post was meant to be a therapy session.  Just the question in the title alone is meant to make you think.  Either you are pretty sure of what you are doing right, or it makes you question what went wrong and why.  So, I'll put you down for sumpn' went wrong! 

Yanno, I could tell a huge difference in your confidence as soon as you got home from staying with your parents.  Your last post before you left was about working the program on the train, and being so proud that you had lost 28 pounds.  Ever since you got home, your posts are about having trouble coping with stress and feelings of being defeated by cravings.  From what little I've read, I blame this on your toxic relationship with your parents. 

Unfortunately, there is not one damn thing that you can do to change them.  They've spent a lot of years becoming the people that they've become.  What can be changed is the way that you react to them!  Even though you may have had to accept there help, cuz we all need a li'l help now and then, it doesn't mean that they have control over your life.  I've given cars to everyone of my nieces and nephews when I was ready for a new one, and never once expected a thing in return.  They're my family, and that's what families do...they help each other get ahead.

But you have us, your OH family, to help you deal with this on an emotional level that affects your weight and your health.  We've all been through this on some level or another, whether it's dealing with controlling parents, or any of the other many stressors that lead to diet disasters. First of all, get rid of all of the junk in your house!!!  You bought it when you weren't in your right mind!  Now that you are back to reality, and since we know that you are extremely carb sensitive, start on a very low carb diet for three days to shock your system into giving up the cravings and detoxing those sugary sweets you've been using as tranquilizers.  You can do this Sweetie...I know you can cuz I've seen you do it before.  And I know you can handle stress because you were rockin your diet all through your finals.  That should remind you that you are a grown up who can handle your own life. 

Be kind to yourself and go give your daughter a big hug.  Today is a better day for you and you deserve to know that you can live better than you've ever lived before.  It's all your choice!

 Mary        

Thanks Mary! reading your post, I realized that you're right. About it all. I need to stop mopeing about and realize that I can do this! I know I can, you said it yourself, I made it through finals without cheating, I can make it through this and get back on track!!  What would you recommend for a 'very low carb diet for 3 days'?? I'm already planning on going back on Atkins for the next two weeks (at least) and re-do induction. I've been off plan for too long NOT to start there....You think I should go even lower for the first 3 days till I get over the carb withdrawls??

Damn straight you can do this!  And Induction is a great place to start.  When I say very low carb, I mean only the foods on Induction, that's how to stop the cravings.  I've seen some people eating low carb tortillas and low carb wraps and those aren't even allowed til the fourth rung of Atkins and will stop the craving killer portion of Atkins, which is what you need more than anything right now.

And no, I certainly did not mean to go lower than twenty grams of carbs a day.  Any lower will slow down your weight loss.  And you have to make sure that at least fifteen of those twenty carbs are from salads and veggies.  Make sure you drink plenty of water to keep you hydrated and flush out the toxins from all of that sugar you've been eating.  It really does help with the withdrawals.

Mary    

Stacey that is not small to me, a past binger and on the edge to go back that way at any time.

Your recovery starts here...with the baby steps. Every time you make a small step in the right direction, self talk to your own self will help you get stronger...you now know you CAN do it and to say otherwise is a complete copout. Nothing less.

Go Baby Girl!!!!!

Hey Stac, I gained over a hundred pounds in one year cuz of the PCOS, and I remember the first time I got weighed and the nurse told me I was obese.  What??????  How can this be?  Six months later, I was 'morbidly' obese...Holy Crap, how did THAT happen?  Three months later I was SUPER MORBIDLY OBESE.  I told the doc that I was not going to weigh anymore because what was the next category, "Beached Whale"?  I HATE the BMI charts!

I'm so jealous that you have your own male Jillian.  Tell your brother that I said he makes a great *****!!! 

Mary 

Neecee! Your always encouraging! Thanks so much for that!

Stac