I Feel Left Out
Yep, weeze all in the same boat, and there have been times when I felt like mine was sinking fast, but I held on for dear life and got the buckets out! It may have taken me a lot longer to get to shore, but I also learned a lot about myself along the way, so now that it is all behind me, I'm glad that it gave me time for my mind to catch up with the weight loss. And I don't DUMP! That right there would scare the hell outta me.
So how goes your weight loss?
Mary
So how goes your weight loss?
Mary
You have to remember the purpose of the sites. Lowcarbfriends is purely lc and sponsored by a site that meets lc product needs. OH is primarily surgical and is ultimately "sponsored" by the docs that advertise here.
I came to OH many years ago, have floated from forum to forum as I explored my options. Anyway, I believe OH treats the non op forum as "until you give up and decide on surgery".
The PC ness of re-routing amazes me, but shouldn't as it just shows ops the reality they may not wish to face and the nature of their sensitivity.
Finding a forum right for you is like Goldilocks.... I like LCF, however, I go there for recipes mostly and occasionally for help. I don't see what nee does, but maybe I'm not there long enough to see it.
And even there maybe I don't fit in as for me my focus is on fitness first.
But sometimes Goldilocks just needs to realize a bed is a bed and get some sleep, lol....
get what you can from here there and everywhere. it is a world wide web after all.
I came to OH many years ago, have floated from forum to forum as I explored my options. Anyway, I believe OH treats the non op forum as "until you give up and decide on surgery".
The PC ness of re-routing amazes me, but shouldn't as it just shows ops the reality they may not wish to face and the nature of their sensitivity.
Finding a forum right for you is like Goldilocks.... I like LCF, however, I go there for recipes mostly and occasionally for help. I don't see what nee does, but maybe I'm not there long enough to see it.
And even there maybe I don't fit in as for me my focus is on fitness first.
But sometimes Goldilocks just needs to realize a bed is a bed and get some sleep, lol....
get what you can from here there and everywhere. it is a world wide web after all.
What great advice, Jersey Girl, get your support from everywhere you need it.
RE: the WLS, scary stuff!! And in reading many of the posts here, I feel that fear is a completely valid and legitimate one. It just solidifies my stance ... never, not ever.
Still, I am very inspired by people who have lost BIG, regardless if they are surgical or non-surgical because I feel like there is not much difference between the two except for that kickstart. Losing weight is probably the hardest thing there is to do!
RE: the WLS, scary stuff!! And in reading many of the posts here, I feel that fear is a completely valid and legitimate one. It just solidifies my stance ... never, not ever.
Still, I am very inspired by people who have lost BIG, regardless if they are surgical or non-surgical because I feel like there is not much difference between the two except for that kickstart. Losing weight is probably the hardest thing there is to do!
I've been reading everybody's response on this post, and I find it most interesting. I seriously considered WLS at one point, but was too scared to do it. I reconsidered later, but my husband's medical insurance at his place of work had changed, and the new one didn't pay for WLS at all. So I ended up going to OA, and am still a member of that organization. Right now, I'm without a sponsor, but I am seeing a therapist for my food-related issues, which are pretty heavy. My whole family turned on me when I was a teenager, claiming I was "fat", when I was just developing. My hips developed faster than my chest, so I looked like my hips were too big, but they weren't. None of the kids at school made fun of me for being overweight, so I know I really wasn't. When I look at pictures of me, I looked normal.
My father was the biggest offender who got me started hating my body and hating myself. He told me I was "gross, fat, & ugly" when I was thirteen years old, and I believed him! Ever since that day, a war started inside of me which I was largely unaware of until recently, when my therapist help me uncover it. There are two sides to this war - 1. when I was dieting to lose weight, I was pleasing my father (in my head), so I was "losing", by pleasing him. When I was gaining weight and eating out of control, I was rebelling against him, and I was " winning" by doing what I felt like. As you probably noticed, I got the real situation reversed. I was actually doing the right thing by dieting, and trying to get down to a normal healthy weight. I actually did do that in 1988, when I went on two diets back to back and lost 70 pounds, getting down to 105 pounds (which was actually too thin for me, even back in my thirties). I remember my father's reaction so well - he praised me to the skies, so much, that I felt "embarrassed" at the time. What I actually was feeling deep inside what hatred of his judgemental and shallow view of me. All he seemed to care about was how I looked, not the type of person that I was inside. I somehow hung on to this temporary thinness for two years, until my second husband had a kidney stone, and I was terribly afraid he would die of the shock, from the pain. So I started overeating again, and eventually, I ended up gaining over 100 pounds in a year's time.
I wish you luck in your losing weight the longer and slower way, which is what I'm doing. I can't diet anymore - I just have no will power for diets now. But I am making slow, small changes in the way I am eating, trying to eat healthy, and eating smaller portions of food. I can only do this with my Higher Power's help. I cannot do it alone.
Denise Phares/kitties4
My father was the biggest offender who got me started hating my body and hating myself. He told me I was "gross, fat, & ugly" when I was thirteen years old, and I believed him! Ever since that day, a war started inside of me which I was largely unaware of until recently, when my therapist help me uncover it. There are two sides to this war - 1. when I was dieting to lose weight, I was pleasing my father (in my head), so I was "losing", by pleasing him. When I was gaining weight and eating out of control, I was rebelling against him, and I was " winning" by doing what I felt like. As you probably noticed, I got the real situation reversed. I was actually doing the right thing by dieting, and trying to get down to a normal healthy weight. I actually did do that in 1988, when I went on two diets back to back and lost 70 pounds, getting down to 105 pounds (which was actually too thin for me, even back in my thirties). I remember my father's reaction so well - he praised me to the skies, so much, that I felt "embarrassed" at the time. What I actually was feeling deep inside what hatred of his judgemental and shallow view of me. All he seemed to care about was how I looked, not the type of person that I was inside. I somehow hung on to this temporary thinness for two years, until my second husband had a kidney stone, and I was terribly afraid he would die of the shock, from the pain. So I started overeating again, and eventually, I ended up gaining over 100 pounds in a year's time.
I wish you luck in your losing weight the longer and slower way, which is what I'm doing. I can't diet anymore - I just have no will power for diets now. But I am making slow, small changes in the way I am eating, trying to eat healthy, and eating smaller portions of food. I can only do this with my Higher Power's help. I cannot do it alone.
Denise Phares/kitties4
Wow!!! First off Mary I can feel where you are comming from on the feeling alone part, AND there are many of us that need your help and support here, so please do not go anywhere 
.
I stubbled onto this website several months ago, when WLS was something that I was VERY seriously considering. But, I have done alot of research and know ALOT of people who have had the precedure done, and well at this point it is not for me I am doing good with the program I am on and this forum really helps keep me on track. So, if a kick start is what I need then I think I have a good one right now.
It is a shame that this forum is made for people to go to until they give up and get WLS, but for me it makes me want to prove I can do it by myself even more!!! But, I want to thank everyone that posts daily or veteran that stop in periodically Thank you!!! Many of us need you, and thank you so much for guidence and all of the support!!!!
. I stubbled onto this website several months ago, when WLS was something that I was VERY seriously considering. But, I have done alot of research and know ALOT of people who have had the precedure done, and well at this point it is not for me I am doing good with the program I am on and this forum really helps keep me on track. So, if a kick start is what I need then I think I have a good one right now.
It is a shame that this forum is made for people to go to until they give up and get WLS, but for me it makes me want to prove I can do it by myself even more!!! But, I want to thank everyone that posts daily or veteran that stop in periodically Thank you!!! Many of us need you, and thank you so much for guidence and all of the support!!!!
Trisha Jane
I appreciate that. I feel good with were I am right now, I know I have a long way to go, but every pound is like a sigh of relief. Most Active
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