Update and alittle off topic..need prayers

Well I am still sitting at 270..i believe :)
I have been so depressed this last week..its unreal..I have two boys for those that doesn't know this..well i had my 2nd child at the age of 19..well the doctor that i went to..was telling me how i could die through my c-section and how i could lose the baby or bleed to death.well yeah they are all true..but i didnt have a complicated pregnancy..so why sit and tell someone this when i was having no problems at all!!! Anyways, he mentioned me having my tubes tied..so after being told all this scary stuff..i signed the paper..well my insurance at the time wouldnt pay because i was to young..and i was single also..so the doctor said well you need to get them tied so i will pay..so i cried all the way through my c-section ..i was so scared...i did fine with my first child! i didnt cry! anyways..now i 'm wanting my tubes untied..i didnt have a clue what the doctor did to me as in tying my tubes so i tried contacting them this last week and they had nothing on it..so i contacted the hospital and they had my stuff..i got it on thursday..he cut...burned and tied my tubes..i cried!!! why did he have to do that..why not do the ring or the clip or just cut and tie...i dont know what my chances are of having a tubal reversal now..i have been told that when they are burned..that its permaneant..and on the papers i got from the hospital he even took part of my tubes and cut them half way..so i dont know that they are long enough to even be rejoined..so its killing me..i broke down and just cried at work on friday talking to a nurse..and its really a touchy topic..i talk about it or think about it and i just cry..i should be hearing from the tubal reversal center..out of north carolina either monday or tuesday.. i hope that there is some hope for me! If not..i am going to completely fall apart!!! I am so depressed now..i dont know how i will take it and be if i get bad news...i am now 25..and i want another baby..i want one so bad!!! its just absoultely killing me!! So i am asking for your prayers..because i am going to really need them..i sit and cry just as i type this because it is SO HARD for me!!

Also..if i have a good chance to be able to get pregnant...then before they will do the reversal i have to lose at least 70 more lbs..my BMI has to be under 35 before they will even do the surgery..so if i can get pregnant its a good goal to work towards...so please say a prayer for me..if i get good news i will post soon as i found out..if its bad..yeah you probably wont hear from me as fast..anyways..yeah...

Oh Stacey!
Your story just breaks my heart! That doctor had no right to scare you like that and bully you into having your tubes tied!! At 19, most doctors won't  do it because the chances of wanting more children later is so great. I have a friend who wanted her tubes tied after she had her 4th child at 20, and the doctors refused becase she was so young! I know the risk of complications goes up after every c-section (because of scar tissue from the previous c-sections) but that doctor was so wrong to present it to you like that! And to not tell you what method he was using! What he did seems like overkil! I'd be talking to a lawyer about a malpractice suit (not sure if you'd have a case, but what he did just seems so wrong!). That doesn't help your current problem about wanting it reversed. You'll definantly be in my prayers! I hope you get good news from the specialists.

Ugh! I will try to reply to you..this is so freaking hard for me..i read your posts and sit and cry..this is so hard!!! Yeah i had thought about talking to a lawyer..not that it can undo time..but i really feel that its unfair!! There was other ways of tieing my tubes instead of the way that he did it..but i was stupid and didnt know any different and figured heck i could have them reversed later..i didnt have a clue they were being burned..ugh i'm just so disgusted with myself..the doctor..part of me hates myself for not asking questions and looking into it more and just knowning better!! i'm just so damn stupid!!!
and then the other part is mad at the doctor for doing it the way that he did.it could of been done differently..if mary is right..and i only have a 60% chance..he has like so destroyed my life..i'm just so sick..depressed..angry..yeah i have a lot of mixed feelings right now...

Stacey, I am so sorry to hear that you are having to go through all of this misery because of some idiot doctor!  I can't believe that he would even consider tubal ligation on one so young with only two children.

According to this doc, having your tubes cauterized is not the worst thing for reversal and the procedure used on you seems to be pretty standard and has a reversal success rate of 60%.

Dang, this is my third edit and I couldn't get the page I wanted to go through.  Go to this website homepage, click on Ligation Illustrations and from there click on Monopolar and Bipolar Tubal Coagulation.

http://www.tubal-reversal.net/

And I understand why they want you to lose that seventy pounds.  Chubby Mamas seem to have troubles with gestational diabetes, which leads to chubby babies.  Yeah, I know chubby babies are cute, but it leads to diabetes earlier in their lives.

I pray that your outcome is what you want and that God will send his angels to watch over you. 

Mary 

I am going to TRY to go to that site..i hate seeing only a 60%..makes me sit and cry..maybe i'm being a baby about this but it hurts badly!!! anyways..the good thing is..i'm fine with losing the 70 lbs or more..it gives me a WONDERFUL goal to work towards!! Plus gives me the time to save the money to be able to have it done..if i get good news..so yeah i'm fine with losing that weight..perfectly fine by me! But according to the doctor like you mentioned..burning them isn't the worse..so maybe thats a good thing???

The site that you sent me...which i just noticed..is the place that i am looking at going to..and they are the ones that i am waiting to call me back..i have already contacted them and sent them my info..now just waiting..i know me being young helps..and before having my tubes tied..i was very fertile..so i cross my fingers..maybe it will be higher then 60%! God i hope so..I am going to fall apart if i get bad news

Oh Stacy I'm so sorry,

I've sort of went through the same thing, but was a lot older than you so I have my deeopest sympathies for you.  First of all, you really need to find out from the hospital or this doctor on what really went on, and figure out  WHY he thinks you couldn't have any more kids. WHY he thinks you would have bleed so much,or WHY he thought you could have lost the baby.   Your tubal papers from the hospital I wouldn't think won't state this, I know mine didn't ( I did research also just like you).  This is  your life, and I'm just trying to figure out why it was so important to him to make this ligation happen.  I'm sure he didn't do just because.  I'm not saying theres no quacks out there, there is.  I just want you to be safe.  Although if having a baby is going to harm you having one it might be better to find an alternative way.  I know you don't want to hear this, but you really do need to figure out if a reversal will be the right thing for you.  For one...I hate to say this and I don't mean to be negative in the least...I just don't want you to be hurt, I want you to play this smart.  When I talked to a doctor about a reversal he said it should work just fine, just lose the weight, etc.  He got my hopes up soooo very high.  But then he never went inside of me and saw how messed up I was.  He just looked at my tubal ligation papers.  So ASK QUESTIONS!!!!!!  Write them all down before you go in, be prepared.

I wish you all the luck in the world.  Let us know what he says.

Holly