Trying this again, diets and relationships.

ok so I tried to post this befor but dont know what happened cause it posted blank i guess...
Well I have recently gotten into a new relationship with an amazing man. My issue is that im not sure how to do the dating thing and diet at the same time. We both love football and usually the junk foods and beer that go along with. He also likes taking me out to dinners and really nice restaurants, and of course my favorite Sushi, which of course is really bad for you because of all the carbs. He is one of those guys that can eat what ever and never gains a pound so he is not concerned about what we eat. So how do I do the dating thing and maintain my diet. I dont want him to think im this food freak and am nurotic about what I eat. So if anyone can give some advice or let me know how you handle dating and dieting at the same time...

I understand everything you're saying.  However, you will not be able to keep your current food-behavior and be successful at a diet.

You have to decide whether or not you're going to commit to changing your life.  Something I've learned - dieting can NOT be a phase - it MUST be a way of life, or it just won't work.  You need to realize that if you intend on making yourself healthier and losing some weight, you must change your lifestyle to accommodate that. 

You can't continue to eat the quantity you were eating.  You can't eat the junk food that comes along with watching football.  You can't binge on sushi as often as you want.  You need to "Think Thin".

There's a great book called "Skinny *****" that goes over how skinny girls are just that; skinny.  It's also about veganism, but you can ignore that part - the book really focuses on how to "Think Thin".  It's a small book - only about 250 pages and it's cheap - like $15 bucks in Barnes and Noble.  You can also buy it on Amazon.com.

It's important to come to grips with the fact that you can't be who you've been and expect different results from your body.  You'll never lose weight if you continue your current behavior. 

Best of luck and congratulations on the great guy.  I hope you two are happy together for a long time.

Well said Neen,  right on, Sister!

Nijaz, I was wondering if we were ever going to see the real post?  But we sure had a lot of fun with the missing one!

First of all, congratulations on finding a great guy, especially one who can afford nice restaurants!  I think you are going to have to be honest with him up front and tell him you are this food freak and neurotic about what you eat.  Yikes!  But if you don't, he will continue to expect you to eat junk and it won't be his fault.  Just explain to him that you have lost a lot of weight and that requires maintenance or you will gain it back.  And then you just order in restaurants what you ate when you were losing.  Or you could eat before your date and just have a salad at the restaurant and still socialize.  If you get desperate, just tell him you are allergic to sushi....it makes your butt swell!  

Mary

Nijaz:
You can enjoy your "amazing" man and have fun without the relationship focusing on food.  Just be upfront with him and as you know, there is usually something on a restaurant menu that's healthy and if not, talk to the chef - they are always very accommodating.  Also, eating at home is usually lower calorie so plan some dates to cook for your man or have him cook for you and you'll have a romantic night, along with a healthy meal. 
Best wishes,
Kim 

oh gosh, Nij....I could tell you stories! My awesome DH is a major foodie!!!!! He was born skinny, ate like a pig all of his life (now that he is 60+, things are changing, but save that thought for later! LOL)  So, here's me, gaining weight looking at food and HIM, who eats all foods, lots of it.

Neen said it well..this is YOUR path, and just get your head wrapped around it right here right now, YOU cannot eat whatever you want. 

My DH  is the reason I choose a more moderate approach to my weight loss - in other words, i am working on eating small portions of all foods, with an emphasis on high protein/good fats/green veggies as my basic intake.

If you are giving LC a shot, don't order the su****here must be tons of other things you can eat at Japanese restaurants. My DH and I do not go out for food much, but I have had to make my plans on my own when we do go out:  no chips at Mexican, just one serving of an entree and veggies. If Japanese, I do eat sushi, but make sure all day i have had pretty much no grains whatsoever. I load up on veggies, miso, etc.

You are at a crossroads, you have to lay out what you are going to do and at the same time give him respect for what he chooses to eat.

I like to remind myself and all of us here:  food will not walk away from you...YOU walk from the food...that is how it works.

I certainly am not perfect, bet you won't be either, so if you do fall down, egt back on whatever plan you are working the NEXT MEAL! Don't start starving and binging, a common mistake women make, or the other extreme, toss your hands up and give up.

Practice moderation! Hun, stick around and work thru this!!!!

Thanks Everyone for the advise. I talked to him yesterday and let him know I am trying to loose weight, and after he told me that I was crazy  and that I didnt need to loose any weight, he asked me how much I weigh. OMG I couldnt believe he had asked me that, but I was honest and told him. He said there was no way I weighed 192. He even went as far as picking me up and telling me the most I could weigh is 160. I told him that I weigh myself every day and thats how much I weigh. So hes now buying me a new scale because hes insisting mine has to be broken, lol. I am glad I was honest and let him know because I have to be in controll of the choices I make and by letting him choose the meals we were having I have not been. So we are going to dinner tonight and Im going to stick to my diet and order healthy. I did however agree with him to treat my self with a sushi meal every other week, since its bolth our favorite.