Mean People Really Suck!!

Have you ever had one of those days where you felt really good about the way you look? Well that’s how I was feeling. I was wearing my favorite color; an outfit that I know shows my shape really well. And even though I’m not to my goal yet im still at 191, it’s the first time in a long time where I didn’t feel like the fat girl.  I felt that I didn’t look obese, but felt like I was looking like all my friends. It felt really good. Then I went to lunch. One of my coworkers wanted to go to this restaurant Cooperstown for lunch. I love this place; it has a really good low and non carb menu. So I didn’t have to worry about finding something to fit into my diet. To make a long story short, we were there having a good time when a group of 4 girls walk in they seemed to be around the same age as myself. Around 28 or so, these girls looked like they were around 100 pounds. They sat at the table next to us. And then started whispering and staring at me. At one point we actually hear them talking about me. I was so embarrassed. I felt awful. I know I shouldn’t let what someone says bother me. But it just made me re-evaluate the way I was feeling about the way I looked. I am very proud of the weight I have lost and show pride in the way I am looking, I think I have every right to. I just can’t see how it could bother or cause such an issue for these girls. That they had to talk about me all through there lunch, and why would they purposely try to hurt me... Sorry maybe I am just venting, but I though who else would understand how I was feeling better then all of you.

Those girls are ignorant and you would think at their age they would have grown out of the High School mentality.  Don't let them bother you, because they must be unhappy with themselves to have nothing better to do then pick on a harmless stranger.  Don't let anyone change the way you feel about yourself and your progress. 

I know I'm a guy, but I have to admit a lot of people like to call me "Big guy" at work.  I know they aren't being mean, but it does drive home the fact that I'm the biggest person in my department.
I usually don't let things bother me, but "big guy" gets under my skin.

Keep feeling good about yourself.

I never knew that type of stuff bothers guys.

See, I'm from New York, so as soon as I would have heard them whispering, I would have said "Um... excuse me, is there a problem?" and would have proceeded to tell them off in the *****iest manner possible, including to advise them to go **** themselves. 

I'm sorry girl.  Try to let it go.

Ha ha neen....I can only picture that!

I am a true believer in Karma...You know what goes around comes around.  Don't let those mean hearted people take away your beauty...it is obvious you are a beautiful person and understand where beauty comes from.  Sorry you had to endure true stupidity.  Have a wonderful day and I am sure you did look great today...inside and out

What comes around, goes around.  Don't let it bother you.  They were VERY immature for their age.  Just shows what kind of world we have.  It's too bad, but don't let it get to you.  Just like Mary said yesterday on self love, keep it up and it will show through.  You know your progressing and that is all that matters.  I think I just read that someone mentioned being called the "big guy" at work.  My husband has the same thing happen to him, but he's called the "fat man" whom everyone feeds because he loves food and never says no.  Think people don't realize it's not a joke.  One of these days my husband is going to realize this and not want to be called fat man anymore. People are stupid and ignorant....I know it hurts, but ignore them and give yourself a present today.  Sounds like you've been doing well. :)  

Holly

Yea.. people can really suck!  The worst part is.. there's not a dayemed thing we can do about it either.

Years ago I would have got up swingin'.. lemme tell ya..... but at this point in my life I realize that I cannot please everyone's delicate sensibilities and  by the same token.. they cannot please mine.  It's not their problem if I'm not pleased.. it's mine.  If they find my appearance displeasing.. well.. that's not my problem.. it's THEIRS to deal with. 

It's probably not the last time it's going to happen... even if you were a tiny, skinny minnie.. there would be someone who has a problem with that as well.  What counts is how you handled it!  KUDOS.. you kept your cool, then came here and vented.

Now here comes the hard part... before bed tonight.. say a prayer for those poor, ignorant girls.  :)    Give it to God, babycakes!  When God's on your side.. who could ever be against you!!!!

Oh Honey, I'm so sorry, that had to hurt  (Sorry, I couldn't find the "hug" smilie so you're getting kisses LOL).  That really ticks me off when people are mean to other people - really are they so insecure that they have to pick on other people??  You are doing great, keep it up!!   Hope you have a better day!

Colleen

Nij, I have always been the Big Girl! I will never forget in hi skool, this one girl "had to" borrow my gym shorts. I wore a size 14 junior at that time, she was probably a 4. She made a BIGGGGGG hairy deal about how HUGE my shorts were and how she had to tie them up.

I always felt like a cow.  in restrospect, I wish I had accepted myself the way I was - b/c at that age I began dieting and purging, which made me gain weight i now understand!  if I had left well enuf alone, I bet I would never ever have had a weight problem.

We come in all shapes and sizes on this planet. Those gals may well be in your shoes one day and maybe not, regardless, they will pay a karmic price for the way they make others feel. Trust that!

Be yourself, love your body.