Gah where have all of you been??? I've been here waiting for like 6 months!
Ok.. get off the nekkid wimmin for a minute... let's get back to you!
"I've been trying to figure out why in the hell I'm so obsessed with being thin and fit."
Chris.. could you be equally obsessed with just feeling better? I'm learning slowly but surely that being smaller doesn't necessarily mean being happier - loving yourself no matter what is a tall order, I know............ and wanting something better for yourself can be all consuming but I think you need to take credit for CARING! Also give yourself credit for MAINTAINING babycakes... I know what a butterfinger ho you can be... and you're doing well!
Therapy takes a long time .. you know that.. and at first it seems like a waste of time. On the other hand, if your therapist hasn't asked you point blank out "why do YOU think you weigh what you weigh" it might be a good idea to out and out say "I wanna know why it's always on my mind". I'm really liking therapy.. my therapist showed me a bottle with a cork in it on the floor and told me that there's a genie in there waiting to kick his ass.. so when he ****** me off I go for the bottle to pull the cork out! It isn't ALL pleasant.... and it isn't all exciting.. sometimes I out and out say "is this doing any good here.. am I wasting my time with you and my favorite - You're boring me here" but the ephiphany ya get somtimes is worth it.
Personally, I think you're fine the way you are.. and you got it all goin' on... but more important is what YOU think of yourself, how you feel.. your health...
Well... I certainly believe in you.. heck, without the wisdom I got from you and the girls, especially Neecee, I would have NEVER hung in there, so I know you have it in you to accomplish anything.. even if that anything is being patient enough to find out what the freak is going on with your hormones!
Missed ya lots!
Lori
"I've been trying to figure out why in the hell I'm so obsessed with being thin and fit."
Chris.. could you be equally obsessed with just feeling better? I'm learning slowly but surely that being smaller doesn't necessarily mean being happier - loving yourself no matter what is a tall order, I know............ and wanting something better for yourself can be all consuming but I think you need to take credit for CARING! Also give yourself credit for MAINTAINING babycakes... I know what a butterfinger ho you can be... and you're doing well!
Therapy takes a long time .. you know that.. and at first it seems like a waste of time. On the other hand, if your therapist hasn't asked you point blank out "why do YOU think you weigh what you weigh" it might be a good idea to out and out say "I wanna know why it's always on my mind". I'm really liking therapy.. my therapist showed me a bottle with a cork in it on the floor and told me that there's a genie in there waiting to kick his ass.. so when he ****** me off I go for the bottle to pull the cork out! It isn't ALL pleasant.... and it isn't all exciting.. sometimes I out and out say "is this doing any good here.. am I wasting my time with you and my favorite - You're boring me here" but the ephiphany ya get somtimes is worth it.
Personally, I think you're fine the way you are.. and you got it all goin' on... but more important is what YOU think of yourself, how you feel.. your health...
Well... I certainly believe in you.. heck, without the wisdom I got from you and the girls, especially Neecee, I would have NEVER hung in there, so I know you have it in you to accomplish anything.. even if that anything is being patient enough to find out what the freak is going on with your hormones!
Missed ya lots!
Lori
Thanks girl! I've tried to get as obsessed about getting healthy but it just doesn't work that way for me. That's not to say I don't want to be that way though.. cuz I do.. I want nothing more than to run, frolic and play with ease. To be healthy, athletic and ENERGIZED, but as much as I want that it seems so unachievable. Hey.. maybe that'****ting on soemthing there.... I can't get obsessed about it because I'm too busy telling my self how I'll never succeed. See, who needs therapy?
Chris-
Honestly..even if you talk to the thin and fit ones..there is something wrong with them that they don't like! No matter what we do..how we look..we are not going to be happy with it. Theres going to always be something that we want to change which i think is just normal. The world has just made the image that everyone should be thin..my son is in the 1st grade and came home today and somebody in his class called him fat! At the age of 6 they are seeing this! Its just sad..but i just wanted to really say..no matter if we were all thin and fit..we'd still find something that we wanted to change. Talk around to some people around you that are..you'll be shocked at some of the things that they tell you. Maybe this will help who knows..it kinda helped me..its always something :)
Honestly..even if you talk to the thin and fit ones..there is something wrong with them that they don't like! No matter what we do..how we look..we are not going to be happy with it. Theres going to always be something that we want to change which i think is just normal. The world has just made the image that everyone should be thin..my son is in the 1st grade and came home today and somebody in his class called him fat! At the age of 6 they are seeing this! Its just sad..but i just wanted to really say..no matter if we were all thin and fit..we'd still find something that we wanted to change. Talk around to some people around you that are..you'll be shocked at some of the things that they tell you. Maybe this will help who knows..it kinda helped me..its always something :)
I remember seeing it at 5 and 6 myself. I think that's when it all started.. if not before that. I got picked on for being fat my very first day in kindergarten. Hell I'd practically starve myself for 2 years to be that size again!
You're right though. There are very few people who are content with thier bodies. I know of only one and he leans on the narcissistic side... :)
You're right though. There are very few people who are content with thier bodies. I know of only one and he leans on the narcissistic side... :)
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