Abstinence - 169th Day
I wanted to mention something that happened yesterday evening that was very disturbing to me. If any of you remember that client that got me fired from my last home health aide agency, well, he called me on the phone last night. I was very curt to him, and gave him as little information about me or Michael as possible, and did not ask how he was doing. Finally, after alot of questions, during which he called me "honey" and "sweety", he hung up. That creep is still after me, and if he calls again, I will hang up on him, period. Just thought I'd let you guys know.
Breakfast
1 banana
1 whole grain bagel with peanut butter & sugar-free jam
1 cup light soy milk
1 cup hazelnut coffee
2 cups water
Lunch
1/3 cup beef stew
1 small corn muffin
Apricot halves
1/4 cup peas
2 cups water
Dinner
1 double cheeseburger on whole grain bun
1/2 can vegetable soup
1/4 cantaloupe
Diet root beer
Popcorn
7 oz. bag of M&Ms peanut candy
2 cups water
My feelings towards this ex-client were very messed up for a long time, since I fell in love with him while I was his aide, since he was, in essence, courting me, giving me alot of compliments, telling me (later on) how much he loved me, etc. In May, I called him yet again, and he had a policeman warn me that if I tried to ever contact him again, he would prosecute me. This stopped my calling, and it was really a gift - I was able to get over those terrible feelings, and get back to caring for my husband fully. I know intially you guys blamed me for getting sexual with him, but he did seduce me the whole time I was his aide, and he did initiate physical contact with me. Now he's trying to play that game again, because he couldn't get anywhere with any of his other home health aides who came after me. I hope he never calls again, but I have a terrible feeling he may want to keep trying with me, since I was his "best prospect" for a wife. He tried his best to break up my marriage, and I don't trust him!
Denise Phares/kitties4
Ain't neither one of them any good for you! Better yet, when you see his number on caller ID don't answer the phone...and you could always block his number! Did I mention you shouldn't talk to him???Mary
I don't think it was "blaming" you.. but rather validating that he DID in fact have something ON you merely because you were his aide at the time. It was a VERY sticky situation. I guess the question of whether or not he could make life difficult for you was definitely answered.
Ok.. the whole thing snowballed and went in a hardline direction..... and I'm VERY happy that you were able to come to terms with your feelings and everything is good with you and your husband!! :) AMEN
That being said.... I wonder how this man has the audacity to call you after he had a policeman warn you. I think after all you've been through.. you're justified in just hanging up on him.. but make a little note. Write down the time and date of last night's call and what was discussed, and be sure to record the time and date of any subsequent call FOR YOUR OWN PROTECTION.
He got under your skin once... your life was in turmoil over it - I would be extremely guarded going forward and keep a record of any time he tries to contact you.
God be with you!'
Lori
