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I am six weeks into a weigh****chers and have had good results--12 lbs. But this last week I have made several poor choices with food, gained some weight. I also hut mu leg so I can't exercise on the treadmill as I was. I am afraid these poor choices will become a pattern and my weight loss will turn into a wieght gain. I know each day is a new begining, but each day lately I seem to blow my diet. I want to eat healthey the rest of my life. Is is possiblefor me??? I have over 100 lbs to lose.
Deb, in my experience (whi*****ludes joining and quitting WW twice and losing up to 75 pounds at one point before I quit), the biggest determiner of success or fail for me was my attitude. In both cases, I got bored/overwhelmed with obsessing about points, and just gave up.
I think that everyone's threshold for patience is different. If you feel that WW is the right plan for you, then you need to understand that you are going to have up and down days but that as long as in the end you have more good days than bad, you are going in the right direction. This is a worthwhile endeavor!
I used to find that doing something simple like focuing on something I could control (unlike my cravings, lol) like journaling, often would bring things back in line.
I think that everyone's threshold for patience is different. If you feel that WW is the right plan for you, then you need to understand that you are going to have up and down days but that as long as in the end you have more good days than bad, you are going in the right direction. This is a worthwhile endeavor!
I used to find that doing something simple like focuing on something I could control (unlike my cravings, lol) like journaling, often would bring things back in line.
deb, oh man...all we can do is set goal for one day..then the next, and so on. And deb, there are days when it is like for the next 20 minutes, i can avoid eating the crap in the breakroom/kitchen counter.
WW is great for its adaptability. If you do go over in points, you have a weekly bonus set of points to dip into. And in general, even going over a few days is less than we ate before WW was in our lives, right? Try hard to put these changes in perspective; you ate a certain way for many years, so learning new ways will take time.
You will fail, expect that. You are a student who does not know this stuff, even though it does sound simple, we all know it isn't. There are tactics to be learned.
I am reading a very cool book this weekend that said among other cool things: "if you fail, it simply means you need more information - there is something you still don't know." Keep asking questions, deb, here and at WW.
Take notes, study the times when you failed! One thing WW taught me was that I was terrified to eat food. Really. I would get too hungry then be mindblown when I would snap and eat cruddy things. Is that you? Are you trying to eat too little to get the weight off faster? Your body will fight you tooth and nail on that one. The less you eat, the more it will hoard.
Lastly, it is overwhelming to say "over 100# to lose". Maybe say to yourself, "20# by Thanksgiving.
Stick around, and don't be afraid to tell us all the bad things you do and ask questions, Grasshopper...you are a student! We all are!
WW is great for its adaptability. If you do go over in points, you have a weekly bonus set of points to dip into. And in general, even going over a few days is less than we ate before WW was in our lives, right? Try hard to put these changes in perspective; you ate a certain way for many years, so learning new ways will take time.
You will fail, expect that. You are a student who does not know this stuff, even though it does sound simple, we all know it isn't. There are tactics to be learned.
I am reading a very cool book this weekend that said among other cool things: "if you fail, it simply means you need more information - there is something you still don't know." Keep asking questions, deb, here and at WW.
Take notes, study the times when you failed! One thing WW taught me was that I was terrified to eat food. Really. I would get too hungry then be mindblown when I would snap and eat cruddy things. Is that you? Are you trying to eat too little to get the weight off faster? Your body will fight you tooth and nail on that one. The less you eat, the more it will hoard.
Lastly, it is overwhelming to say "over 100# to lose". Maybe say to yourself, "20# by Thanksgiving.
Stick around, and don't be afraid to tell us all the bad things you do and ask questions, Grasshopper...you are a student! We all are!
"The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like, and do what you'd rather not." ~Mark Twain
Yes, Deb.. it's possible for you! You've proven that this plan works for you.. you've lost 12 lbs in six weeks.
I've lost over 100 lbs so far not with WW, but I think it's the same mindset. We have to commit to our plan and get through one day, one hour.......even one minute at a time. Going off the deep end here and there doesn't mean the game is over - it just makes the game a little more challenging. I've been losing 10 lbs at a time and it's been seriously frustrating at times. Lately I gave up once or twice but no matter how horribly needy I feel when I post about it, I've found that it's best to get it all out on the table and deal with it rather than just go off in a corner with a bag of m&m's.
YOU CAN DO THIS!
Lori
I've lost over 100 lbs so far not with WW, but I think it's the same mindset. We have to commit to our plan and get through one day, one hour.......even one minute at a time. Going off the deep end here and there doesn't mean the game is over - it just makes the game a little more challenging. I've been losing 10 lbs at a time and it's been seriously frustrating at times. Lately I gave up once or twice but no matter how horribly needy I feel when I post about it, I've found that it's best to get it all out on the table and deal with it rather than just go off in a corner with a bag of m&m's.
YOU CAN DO THIS!
Lori
Hi Deb,
It's definitely possible to lose over 100 pounds. Just like Lori, I've lost 115 and it has not been easy. Like Neecee said - this is a tough game to play and you WILL overwhelm yourself if you set your goals too high. Start with one day at a time. Make your goal to make it through the day within your points. If that's too much for you, make it through your meals.
"I will make it from Noon to 5pm without munching on junk food" - break it down to whatever you need.
I tried WW too, and you're a stronger woman than I am for progressing as much as you did. Keep up the great work.
Please stick to this website. The amount of love and support you can get from here is phenominal. We can help you as much as you need.
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
It's definitely possible to lose over 100 pounds. Just like Lori, I've lost 115 and it has not been easy. Like Neecee said - this is a tough game to play and you WILL overwhelm yourself if you set your goals too high. Start with one day at a time. Make your goal to make it through the day within your points. If that's too much for you, make it through your meals.
"I will make it from Noon to 5pm without munching on junk food" - break it down to whatever you need.
I tried WW too, and you're a stronger woman than I am for progressing as much as you did. Keep up the great work.
Please stick to this website. The amount of love and support you can get from here is phenominal. We can help you as much as you need.
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
One little suggestion, in addition to all the great words these other posters have offered. I'm listening to a CD set called 'The Slight Edge' by Jeff Olson. It's amazing to consider the smallest of choices we make on a daily basis adding up to major benefits or consequences later. I got it on ebay for $10 because I'm a cheapy!
Ruth
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on 8/24/08 10:11 am
on 8/24/08 10:11 am
Hi Deb:
Try to let go of some of the perfectionism. Perfectionism or having high expectations of one's self and others is not necessarily a bad quality but it tends to be all encompassing and will make you feel like a failure, despite all your achievements. Believe me, I know....it's much easier said than done but just try to let go of it or it will drive you out of yo' mind (that's what it does to me)!
Welcome to the non-op board and congratulations on your achievements thus far!
Kim
Try to let go of some of the perfectionism. Perfectionism or having high expectations of one's self and others is not necessarily a bad quality but it tends to be all encompassing and will make you feel like a failure, despite all your achievements. Believe me, I know....it's much easier said than done but just try to let go of it or it will drive you out of yo' mind (that's what it does to me)!
Welcome to the non-op board and congratulations on your achievements thus far!
Kim
hey there...I'm new to this site too and just really thank everyone who posts and have been here a while...you dont know how inspiring and helpful you are. I have well over 100 to lose...and have really gone back and forth for months wondering if surgery was my only option....but after going to seminars on lap and gastric...I had to listen to my gut at the time and it just didn't feel right...perhaps I'm not ready as many patients seem to tell me....but something inside of me knows that learning to live with food (and I am a huge emotional eater-unfortunately I wish I'd run to brusel sprouts when I was stressed, angry or lonely, however it seems to be junk food arghhhhhhhh) Is the way for me...but we all have to figure it out ourselves....but yes it is possible to eat heathly....my BFF is was the same weight as I am now but she had gastric and now is losing quickly...and I have to be honest, I just a bit envious of her rapid loss...but you know what? I just try to think of the pluses....I dont always throw up, can eat anything (well almost lol) and even though its a right choice for her, I just dont think it is for me. I get scared alot and fight it alot...wondering if I am doing the right thing...but listening to the people here...the replys you've already had...WW didn't work for me..just couldn't count points and to be honest didn't care for the meetings, but Jenny Craig has been(so far) working well for me, lost 19 pounds last month and just never feeling deprived. But I know I wont be doing this forever....I only do it weekdays but the great thing I'm learning portion sizes. WW is a great program too...but you know what? It really doesn't matter which weight loss plan you use or just do your own thing....what matters is how your mind deals with it. I am always searching out amazon for books etc. and one I got a few months ago (with the workbook and cds) was the Beck Weight Loss plan....its not a weight loss program but behavior modification that works with any program you're doing. It deal with the head...the emotions...I've just been looking for someone to do it with me lol do the chapters and talk about them....but maybe that is something you can look into as well. I keep remembering that when I feel like I am failing at something, I realize that I"ve gotten back up....and every time you get back up, you succeed....and learn something about yourself in the process. And that maybe the more times I get up and dust myself off the stronger I become and one day I dont take as many steps backwards.....there is one saying at my JC centre that I look at everytime I go in there....PROGRESS, NOT PERFECTION...its becoming my mantra :) I have the same journey ahead of me...if you ever need a friend, I think we might have some here on this site :) Chloe
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