update...sorry long

Thanks everyone for your advice. Let me start by saying I went to see my gma in the hospital for an hour then made an appearance at the party with my grandkids. My friend totally understood in fact she texted me during the banquet how happy she was to see me. Then off to my daughter's banquet.....It was very nice. I am very proud of her. I should also say although it may seem I put everyones need before my own.....I will confess when it comes to my children, they are my priority. And that's how it will always be. My older daughter never assumes she can just leave her kids with me. ( i practically have to beg  her sometimes to leave the kids) And well the two I have at home still are my  top priority. Growing up my parents were never there for us kids and I will not miss the time I have with my own children. I realize once they leave home and go off on there own they will still be there....but i treasure the time I spend with my kids. It's hard for my siblings and family to understand because they  have a different mindset.
Honestly I DO NOT feel that I SACRIFIES my time or needs for others. When I do things for my family I do them because i want to when i don't I don't. When i need ME time I TAKE IT! But at the moment i was angry at my father for not steppin' to the plate! I tend to stay away from my parents, and two of my siblings  because they have so much drama in their lives.  I finally i had to tell them  i stay away to keep my sanity. I SHOULD also say yesterday wasn't really as bad as i imagined it. Thanks again for your advice!

Work it girl!  You are doing what's right for you and YOUR family.  And all of that high drama is a diet killer so you are wise to stay away from it...you don't need those stress hormones adding on to your waistline!  

Mary

Hey!! Glad to hear that it turned out so much better then what you imagined! You sound like me and you start thinking and expecting the worse. But you made your appearance and it all turned out good! And thats great!!

thanks again. Yep.....sometimes I tend to over exam. But it all turned out Great!

Isn't that the truth...sh*t is always worse thinking about it rather than actually going thru it!

You are growing and sounds like you raised your kids right to not abuse you. Hey, we can learn valuable lessons from all types - now you know the parent you will never be!