mental obesity
having a hard time seeing myself as having lost weight. its like when im looking in the mirror im seeing myself as i was a year ago 298 lbs and not as i am now 190 lbs. i see the scale moving and im proud im losing but im not seeing it. its depressing and hard to stay with my plan. does anyone else feel the way i do or am i just driving myself crazy?
I certainly do nt have the sort of victory that you have, but, going on 1.5 years in maintenance from losing 40# (15-20 more to go)...i still buy bigass underwear that just about falls off me.
I weigh about 185ish at this writing. I was getting up to 190 earlier this month, but finally, the scale is responding.
I waffle between feeling extra good about how I look to omg...a bad picture gives me a reality jolt of work that still needs done.
Thanks for posting! Stick around!
What has helped me is to compare photos over time- the photos don't lie and you will see the 108lbs you have lost.
Also, I found it helped to CHOOSE to accept compliments rather than use a "thanks, BUT you're wrong..." response. It helped me stop the negative talk.
Em
Style presumes that you are a person of interest, that the world is a place of interest, that life is worth making the effort for.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
Know how to prevent sagging?
Just eat till the wrinkles fill out.
Em u are a true super hero. i read your story and it has helped ALOT. im 5'9" and my goal weight is 140 lbs. i still have 50 lbs more to go. its been as u said an uphill struggle. sometimes i even consider using duct tape on my mouth when im thinking food will comfort this depression. i know it will only make things worse in the end.i confess i tried the easy way out with WLS . which was a total disaster. when opened up docs found a mess inside me. intestines adhered together too tightly to seperate. stomach upsidedown and in the wrong position. and my appendix was under my rib cage. so after 10 hrs of surgery all i left with was a normal stomach and minus an appendix. in my journey that was my lowest point. at 298 i couldnt even tie my shoes. i was so excited about having WLS. but i now know i was looking for an easy fix. there isnt one.
There are so many questions i could ask as i too have the wrinkly excess skin issue. having twins also helped i think lol. i think i will look at some photos for now and see if that helps ty so much Em
Angie
well angie I sure can't give you advice on this one LOL
I do know from stories that people stay fat in their minds long after they lose weight. Your mind has to catch up.
Looking at old pictures, listening (REALLY listening and taking in) compliments are the way to go, as Em noted.
Try on old clothes and see how the fqall of you. Look at the excess skin (not too much LOL) to see how far you've come. And come on here for the much needed support.
Do yuo have a loved one or family who supports you and tells you how great you look?
I do know from stories that people stay fat in their minds long after they lose weight. Your mind has to catch up.
Looking at old pictures, listening (REALLY listening and taking in) compliments are the way to go, as Em noted.
Try on old clothes and see how the fqall of you. Look at the excess skin (not too much LOL) to see how far you've come. And come on here for the much needed support.
Do yuo have a loved one or family who supports you and tells you how great you look?
this darn brain had better hop a train and catch up then lol
as to compliments NOOOOO. i just get embarassed
my family supports me to a point. but my mom, dad, and hubby are all overweight and to them im normal now even tho im still considered overweight. so they more or less are worried ill get too thin and try to get me to eat more food or foods that are bad for me. i REALLY do NOT think ill ever get too thin its been too darn hard gettin to this point. geez if i was shootin for that it might kill me. my real supporters are my little boys. they are 4 and 5 now and they ALWAyS say how pretty mommy is now. might just be a suckup lol but makes my day nonetheless
ah well, enjoy those little compliments from the boys!
and about other compliments: even if you do not mean it, train yourself to just say Thank you. No making excuses or disdaining yourself. You do not have to get into it either, but just thank you.
It will feel more comfortable after a while./
and the people who think you will get too thin...well you alone can determine that. Of course it is great you lost so much (and I think, coming from 330 that i would be totally happy with 190) but technically it is still a little overweight. So you can lose some more if you want to. Why? Because it's your body and you CAN LOL
and about other compliments: even if you do not mean it, train yourself to just say Thank you. No making excuses or disdaining yourself. You do not have to get into it either, but just thank you.
It will feel more comfortable after a while./
and the people who think you will get too thin...well you alone can determine that. Of course it is great you lost so much (and I think, coming from 330 that i would be totally happy with 190) but technically it is still a little overweight. So you can lose some more if you want to. Why? Because it's your body and you CAN LOL
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