Innocent words that hurt

I have been training for 7 of the past 14 weeks.  Long weeks away from home, lots of different people to train with.  I think I have mentioned that i am one of the older folks, having made this a change of career, while other young un's are making this their first careers.  Well, 30 people in our first class, 5 whole weeks in Albany, NY and there were many groups formed.  Out of 30 people there are going to be some that you just wouldn't choose for friends, let's face it.  But for the most part i did what i had to do and then i went back to the hotel, worked out, relaxed, shopped, etc. Well there was another group of folks that liked to go out to party til the wee hours of the morning.  More power to them, I was in bed at 10:00.  Well these past two weeks in NYC there was the secon leg of training and not all 30 folks were there, but there were about 10 of us from the first group of 30.  Three of us, from the same county, pretty much hung together.  We had the same interests, liked to go to bed at the same time, and didn't find partying to be at the top of our list.  Yet we felt this strange detachment from the other folks that we had been with for the 5 weeks prior to that.  Okay, so here is where I get to the point of this. LOL The girl I hung with -- the other one was a guy -- noticed one of the other girls looking at her and then laughing.  Yes, we are adults but when people treat you strange it's kinda like, huh?  So later on she mentioned it to me and I basically told her to let it go, that whatever she had to say was irrelevant and we wouldn't have to deal with her in the future -- she is from another county.  So she says to me -- the girl I was hanging with, "well maybe she was making fun of our weight."  Well, that blew me away.  The other girl is snappable thin and she's well aware of herself.  And while the girl I was hanging with wasn't rail thin, she is a beautiful girl who has gained a few pounds since her marriage and is unhappy with her new figure.  She's maybe 5'5 and 180. I can only DREAM. So I told her that I didn't think that we stood out as these huge people, and that one of the girls in the partying group was actually a good deal bigger than the both of us!!!  I didn't want to say anything to her but I just had to.  So while on the way to the gym that night I told her that nothing anyone ever says about my weight is irrelevant because I had come so far that I would never identify as my former fat girl self.   I have to say that it hurt me, even though her words were innocent.   Do you think I'm nuts?  Well, on this point particularly? LOL

Don't think you are nuts at all.. I probably would have said something too.. And sometimes it takes saying something and standing up for yourself instead of letting people say whatever and not doing a thing about it. I don't know where people get the atittude that they are better then someone else just because of weight. Its a shame though too because they dont even bother to get to know someone to see on what kind of a person that are missing out to talking with. People can be so judgemental..but at least we know how it is to be overweight.and the day that we are all thinner we can see those bigger people and know exactly how it feels!

I getcha on everything you said.  You are inspiration by keeping your weight off as long as you have.  Yor dedication to your exercising is super too.  Honestly, you don't look your weight in your pictures either.   Brenda

It's late and maybe I am not reading this right, but your girl in your group THINKS they may have been poking fun about weight?  I'd guess not...I'd guess it was more like party pooper jabs if anything! Or they may think you are religious nuts or the like.It also may be that they are snobs. I don't think you're nuts at all! And if they were making fun, I'm sure they don't know that you were ever fat - for all they know, you just arrived on the Fat Bus!  If that is the case, they are a disgrace to social work to judge anyone. For shame.