OT: Got to get back on track!

Well a update on me..the past two weeks has really been a blur! Alittle over two weeks ago..my grandma's house burned down..she is 79 and her husband had built the house..she lost her husband back in 98..well she was upset about the house and about losing everything.. A week and a day later...they found my grandma dead. We don't know what happened..they think maybe smoke from the fire..its a huge long story..of everything that has happened and all.. But it seems like it hasnt even sunk in yet that she is gone..the other night i was going over to my aunts and thought i'd get to see my grandma and i had to sit there and think oh no i wont be seeing her..shes gone now.. its been crazy..reality just hasnt come to me yet i dont guess So anyways, with all that being said..i have totally not been exercising at all..i'm bummed..at times i have no appetite..whatever i eat its nasty..and other times i could pig out once i find something good..i have no urge to do anything but yet i WANT to lose weight but thats not going to happen like this..i thought it would be a big incentive that my sister would buy me new clothes if i lost weight and that hasnt even worked..i dont know what will work..once again here in the past two weeks i have drifted from this site and seems to help me and so many others. maybe this is just all normal with everything that has happened and gone on...who knows!

I'm sorry to hear that your grandma passed away.  That's always so hard losing a loved ones.  I think sometimes life throwing us out of whack like that takes a toll on us, so don't beat yourself for not doing well.  Just try to get back on track and come talk with us. :)  It's hard isn't it!   Repeat after me...WE WILL SUCCEED! hehe Hows your kiddo doing?  I'm getting a little worried about mine.  I just found out he ate four kids cones the other day.  I'm really wondering if that is where he's gaining his weight.  Not only from sneaking food, but from eating everyone's left overs or food they don't want.  He's starting way to early to be doing this.  I'm so caught up and confused with my own weight loss it's hard to know what to do for him other than the basics. 

Holly!! I knew you would reply back to me..you are great!! I miss emailing back and forth with you. Thanks for all your kind words and yes WE WILL SUCCEED!! I hope :) I am sorry to hear about your kiddo..mine is doing alright he has his days..there are times he will turn away ice cream even!! I have offered it to him before and he turned it away. There are times he doesnt even ask for seconds.and it doesnt try to sneak food nearly as much anymore. every once in awhile he still does but nothing like it was.. you have every right to be concerned about your child..we are overweight the last thing we want is for our kids to be the same and have to deal with that..we only want the best for them..i think you need to mention to the doc..the patch..i think its called daytrana..there has been a couple people even mention that it looks like Hunter has lost some weight.. and i noticed today..that it looks like he has thined down some..i know we have emailed back and forth and i dont remember what you said on how he was in school and such..but you need to mention to your doc and say hey i want to try the patch and maybe they will try that! Its worth a try if you think that is what he needs and if you believe that he is ADD/ADHD. They started Hunter on the smallest dose and for his weight (92 lbs) he was actually needing a higher dose..but the 10 works just fine for him he has been great at school..here recently they did parent/teacher conferences and he has been so great we didnt have to have a conference with the teacher..but only you know how your kiddo is and i hope that you are able to find some peace and some answers..i know it can get very aggravating..keep me updated :)

I'm so sorry you lost your grandma.  I lost mine a little over a year ago and I miss her so.  It will be rough for a while getting used to it.  I know I did the same thing as you with thinking about seeing her and then having to remind myself that she wasn't going to be there.  It will get easier in time.  I still miss her most every day -- I think of her all the time -- but that's the good thing -- we have our memories that will last forever! Don't beat yourself up over getting off track.  I think that the stress of things lately probably has played a big role in it.  I know it has for me recently.  I AM beating myself up over it (do as I say not as I do......) but I know in the back of my mind exactly why it's been so hard.  My mom has open heart surgery coming up (the day after my 30th birthday....bleah) in less than two weeks and it's killing me.  I know that we ALL can lose this weight, but we have to keep in mind that it's harder for us -- we HAVE to stay focused and it takes a lot of work!  When 'life' gets in the way it can take that necessary focus away.  I think we can jump back on track if we KNOW that and we try to prepare ourselves for the rough patches.  You WANT to get back on track and I think that says a lot.  How many times in the past would you have just gone off and not thought about it again?  I know I have in the past. You can do this -- WE can do this -- one day at a time!  Hugs to you for your loss...

Jenn....hope all goes well for your mom!  Exercise is supposed to be a big stress reliever.  Maybe if we use that instead of the food when things are rough we can enhance our weight loss efforts instead of sabotaging them with mindless eating.  You've got a lot on your plate right now (no pun intended).  If your mom has these health issues, all the more reason for you to get this weight off now too.  We can all do it, despite the stressors in our life.  Think positive! I'll keep your mom in my prayers!

Jenn- How are you doing? You have a lot that is coming up..we will def. keep  you in mind and hope that you get through this rough time..i am sure your mom needs the prayers..and the whole family in general!

So sorry to hear about your loss.  It's hard to lose a grandparent in any cir****tances, but this one is so tragic.  How blessed you are to have had her in your life all these years....what wonderful memories you must have.  They will comfort you in the days ahead. Getting back "on track" is so difficult for all of us.  Most of us are emotional eaters to begin with, so when something like this happens we want our source of comfort....food!  Perfectly natural.  And once we've slipped out of our routine it's so easy to keep making excuses not to get back with the program.  If it will help, think of what your Grandma would want for you....to be healthy and happy and live life to the fullest, I'm sure.  Don't try to do everything at once....take one small step at a time and know you're headed in the right direction. You can do it!!!!  May God be with you and your family at this difficult time....blessings.

Thank You Sherrie!! Here lately I have def. been busy so that always helps! Try not to sit and think of the negative things to bring me down..gotta think positive. Thank you for your kind words!

ss...wow, that is pretty traumatic alright! In times like this - it is crisis mode - just try for the very basic things:  sleep, water, more veggies/fruits. Keep in mind of course you want to pig out when you starve yourself! try hard to eat a little lean proteins/veggies& fruits/whole grains every couple hours.  I try  not to depend on sheer will for much when it comes to healthy lifesyle, but all of us need to dig into that pocket once in a while! MAKE YOURSELF take a walk - even 10-20 minutes. You will feel better. Think of it as a time to pray and meditate on your beloved grandma who you are separated from!  If your beliefs are like mine, you will see her again; this is temporary and she walks with you even now. You know she would want you to take care of yourself.  ((((ss))))) This is a lot to bear. Give it to God.

Thank You Neecee! And you are so right..my beliefs are like yours..i will see her again one day and she is much happier where shes at..and wouldnt give it up for anything to be back here i know!! shes got it made! we only think at times that we have it made here..at times we can just be kinda selfish ya know? I do need to start taking that walk i know it would help so much..its just getting up off my butt and doing it..but i can do it