Lookin good...at any size!

Lori said something in her most recent post about losing more recently.  She said she could not bring herself to buy what sizes she needs to wear right now.  I trust that "this size" she cannot face is indeed trasnsitional. BUTT...don't you all agree that looking good in all sizes is likewise important? Lori - can you buy good ole black pants and a few tops to go with it? Let me tell you - fatchick clothes have come a long way! You no longer have to look like you are in the circus! That is one thing that *almost* kept me fat...many clothes look so darned cute...and now, not only do I have to look wistfully at the way cute fat clothes on the rack, the tiny ones are still there - in every genre excpet MY size! and finally, lori....please go get training and get on at Jon's company!  You are so lonely and bored, I think. That would snap you into life again! Life on the road does not have to suck. Nearly all hotels have gyms or pools. You can bring your own food - buy that bariatric crap. Ask for fridges - almost all will get you  one.  Or use your ice bucket to keep food overnight for breakfats and such.  This seems so fun.  There are tons of nice clothes for fat peeps now! I will mail you an awesome top and jacket right now - I have it in a bag for my friend. I'd love to give it to you.  Black, of course!

Hell yea!  At any size you can rock clothes! I know I did and still do. No matter if I was 276 or 228 now....I looked HOT! lol. They have come a very long way with plus size clothes. I now can find really cute stuff at a couple of stores...its great. But no matter what size you are you can always make yourself look fabulous! You just have to have the confidence to roll with it :)

I agree....they have very attractive plus sized clothes out there nowdays.  BUTT, for me it's not about how the clothes look on the rack (or someone else for that matter), but my own body image that gets in the way.  To someone else, I might look good in these clothes, but depending on the day and my mood I can go from feeling on top of the world to wanting to hide in the closet.....and that's all at the same weight.  I have been overweight for 60 years now and my body image is so skewed that it's very hard for me to go shopping and get excited about the way I look in something, even if it's in a smaller size. I did find a top yesterday that I felt pretty and hip (as hip as you can get at this age....LOL) and springy in....but tried on all kinds of pants and felt like a rhino in all of them.  Actually had to go home cause I was getting so upset.  I hate shopping....don't know if it will ever get better. How do you get your mirror to go from being your enemy to your friend?

This whole post hit the nail on the head. I FEEL gross.. I can't see past how I feel to know if something looks good.. it all looks nasty.  I'm safe in my danskins.  I go to the gym.. throw a big sweater on that covers my butt to go to wallyworld and there's no where else I have to be.  I wear the same thing to go to the doctor.. hey.. as long as it's clean and I'm clean.. I don't have to dress up for the doctor.  Shopping is traumatic.. and usually ends in tears.  It's frustrating.. between the pain in my hip and Looking good at any size has to come from the inside.  I'll do all the right things from the get go.. even spritz on some of my favorite perfume.. and I'll feel good until I have to look in that mirror.. then I just get sick inside.  I hear it come out of my mouth.. the names....  and I won't even type the words I say to myself.  LOL  I can make myself cry by calling MYSELF names!  I don't know I'm doing it.. it just happens.  If it's a bad one, I just plop my fat a** back down on the couch.. hand Jon a list and tell him "I'm not going.. I can't go out like this".  If it isn't a really bad one, I stretch my shirts as much as I can before tearing them.. .tug on my pants to make them bigger.. try on every shirt there is in every size I have.  I go through this ritual every freakin' time I have to leave the house.  This was huge when I joined the gym.  I MAKE myself go no matter how horrible I look because I feel it's a means to the end of living like a prisoner. Whatever (God I hate that word.. it's such a copout)..  In other words "whatever" = "I have nothing intelligent to say".

HUG!!!! 

I am sorry you feel this way.  I think it's left over for where you once were, not where you are now.  Can you do some special things for yourself to make you feel better when you look in the mirror?  For me, buying clothes that fit, having my hair done, getting a facial, manicure, pedicure help with the outside. As for the inside--this seems like a self-esteem thing.  You haven't come to love you yet.  I wish you did.  We all here see your worth, only you don't.

Lori, I often  hold up the God card on this one.  If God can forgive us our sins, who are we not to forgive ourselves?  If God can love us even at our worst, who are we not to do the same?

"How do you get your mirror to go from being your enemy to your friend?" Usually.. with a heavy object projected at it using the max velocity my upper body strength will produce

Lori, I understand what you are saying but I still have a problem with your logic. If you can't accept that you look good now, how will you accept that you look good at goal? You need to work on your self esteem and self image and sometimes the best way to do that is to GO OUTSIDE! Let people comment and give you a boost and instead of saying, "yeah right!" Accept that they just may know what the hell they are talking about. Self image and self esteem are the two worst problems obese people have. Thing is if we can't overcome those, then it won't ever matter how much weight we lose to us we will always be fat ugly slobs unworthy of attention or being noticed.  Lori, you are only 40 pounds from goal. That's awesome! Right now, you should be jumping for joy and screaming from the roof tops, "Look at me! I look freaking awesome!!!" I know it's easier said than done but hunny you deserve it. I'm still at 335 but I'll tell ya what just that fact that I have lost 38 pounds is such a rush and the fact that people are noticing, omg, it's a wonderful ride. Look at where you have come from and where you are then take ownership of all those wonderful things that come along with it. Most of all tell that ***** in your head that keeps pulling you down to STFU!! I say all this with love and understanding because hunny, "YOU LOOK MAAAUUUVVVEEELLLOUUUSSS!!!"

Beth

 

"Most of all tell that ***** in your head that keeps pulling you down to STFU!!"   classic

Beth, never a truer word was spoken from my vantage point.

I didn't like my image at plus size, inbetween I started to feel a bit better, but even now I am still very self critical.  Self esteem is slow improve for me.  I am only JUST starting to think I look OK.  Not great or as you put it marvellous, but OK.  OK is a starting point.

As far as clothes go, TRUST ME even now I try on things that look feral on me. Often it's not the size, it's the cut that is the key.  You need to find a cut that suits your body shape.  Then you can look good at any size.

Em