Having lost weight, are you liking your reflection?

Sure confidence is up for me and I love being capable of so much.  I even like my shape a little bit and have marveled when others call it "cute" or I get flirted with (how many more doors are held for me by men!).  But I keep looking at the mirror and... Okay, okay, the extra weight staved off wrinkles, okay?  And now, now I'm seeing them. I know, I know...I'm 38, it was bound to happen.  I still get told how young I look, so I am grateful for that.  A guy married to my cousin's sister in law commented that he was shocked I'm just 1yr and 5 months from 40.  And I got hit on by a 24 year old recently.  MOst guess 26-30.  Okay, I like that. But not the reflection up close.  My neck, once full, is showing wrinkles.  It has gone down a full inch, but I can see there that, well let's just say I'll start saving for a neck lift. I don't mind that my breasts may lose some dynamic or my belly might need some help.  I just don't like those tiny little lines.  I see them, but I am looking in the mirror just two inches away. But it's been an awakening.  I am okay with age, just not aging.  : P

MY dh asked me what I was gonna do when everything was all wrinkled and saggy. I started to cry. I am so proud of myself for losing the weight but just as I don't like my body fat, I also don't want to look like I need to to duct taped and ironed. It's like an ironic ending to a fantastic journey. You do all the work and at the end instead of a fantastic body, you get the body of an 80 yr old. Where's the fairness in that?  Am I comfortable with my reflection? No and honestly, most likely never will.  I too am fine with age, it is definitely the aging that is the sticky point.

yea age is a hard one to live with, or it is in my books.  I think if you have been told most of your life that you look younger, you expect to keep it that way.lol  Because I'm the same way, everyone thinks I'm younger than I really am.  Think partially is my husband is younger too (8 years).  Every little fine line on my face gains about five years of age inside of me.  I HATE it worth a passion.  I'm turning forty here in a couple of months and I will tell ya, I DO NOT WANT TOO!!  lol sorry caps, but that is how bad I do not want this to happen.  I think I've wasted enough years of my life being married in an unhappy marraige, etc., and I've wasted 15 years of my life.  Plus my inner thoughts are a lot of a younger person so it just really kills me to turn 40.  I think my husband is afraid for his life bringing up if I want to do anything for my birthday.lol 

yup, welcome to hell. It isn't as much fun to lose too much weight at a point if you're talkin wrinkles...  ....BUTT, it begs the argument of why are we doing this really? It IS about health FIRST! Yes, of COURSE, vanity is a playah. And improved social acceptability too. Statement of fact: I'd rather have a saggy neck than a bloated one ANY day!  My neck is a wreck too. It is getting all chicken skinned as I age, hate it. The good news?  There are so many procedures, not as drastic as ps that will help. Check into it!  My GYN actually does this laser thing now - awesome results. Office procedure! Genetics matters! My friend D who had RnY has a gorgeous neck and decollete ( i think that is the term for the chest/shoulder area) - she lost over a hundred pounds and looks fabulous; in her case, it is her arms and legs that will need help. if it's not one thing, it's another! Having babies got me over the belly/boob damage years ago. I am crazily glad for that trauma to be over and done with. Focus on health benefits...and too, as time passes, your skin may improve somewhat. I thought mine would never look right again in my boob area, and they came a long way over time after I had my girls.  EDIT:  so the above was more about you.  Me? Yes, i like what I see until the oddball photo comes along and shows some ugly angles! I do not have face wrinkles, my 70 year old mother either. I love how my face looks like now with age - more angular.  I had a fat baby face when I was very young...now I rather like the mature me. I get checked out here and there...by 30 somethings! I ain't lookin back, but it still feels good.  I don't hate aging - I hate the fact that my life is likely to more than half over - I'm just getting started here! I love my life.  I've never had to depend on my looks, thank GOD. I developed more than that, i think anyway.

I got down to 218 about 5 years ago or so and really liked the way I looked.  I could shop in regular stores and go to my closet and know I looked good in anything I picked off the rack....didn't have to try and find something that could hide my stomach or butt.  I'm 30lb down from where I was a year ago, but don't really feel much different.  I need another 30lb to feel good. I too look younger than my age and get told that all the time.  Hey, this fat does keep those wrinkles filled out!  I know I will be happy to get to 190-200 and don't think I'd look good below that.  Old people age really quickly when they lose too much weight...and approaching 62...I am getting older. However, my age doesn't bother me a lick.  Turning 30 was harder than turning 60.  I had two little kids (2 & 5)  and had been widowed two months prior....not a fun birthday.  Being 30, fat and a widow was a bummer.  I don't act my age...ask my kids, I embarass them all the time with my behavior with my friends.  I refuse to grow up and still think of myself as being around 40....no wonder it was a shock for my son to turn 37 last weekend...LOL. Age is a state of mind and this body ain't gonna be pretty with a few wrinkles here and some sagging flesh there....but I'll take that if it will give me a few more years on this earth with those I love.

I hate my body appearance. Absolutely HATE it. I LOVE all of the attention...because there is alot here in Chicago! lmao. Already been thru it a few times. But I look at myself and see the same exact thing. Yea 46 pounds are gone..but I still look the same..in my eyes..I am scared it will always look that way..I cried last night over this. It all looks like it doesnt change a bit. Yea the pants are smaller and what not but I cant see it...I see it in pics of my face..its clear i've lost weight..I dunno.