I'm just trying to figure out....

How to change my user name and get rid of that surgeon information underneath my avatar.  I didn't put it there.. at least not on purpose...  I couldn't get rid of it or change my user name so I asked OH to DELETE everything and I thought I would start all over.  To many of you... thanks for the support .. I wasn't trying to be dramatic..really... I think we have way too much of that as it is. As far as the other "issues".... I'm so not into it when folks put their best foot forward to HELP others only to get it stepped on and the recent bullcrap really got to me!  I see so many folks who are well meaning.. offering advice in the spirit of love and respect only to get put down for it... I'm not into that...    so yea... I choose to keep myself away from the rediculousness.  ABSOLUTE utter BULLCRAP. As far as the comment about this being a dysfunctional family.. no it isn't, we are humans, made of flesh.. so ecclectic that I actually celebrate this most times.  We're here to support each other .. I truly believe that... call me naive.. I don't care.... but don't expect me to trivialize other people's struggles.... as for my own struggles... I wouldn't expect that they are trivialized either..   I CAN'T LOVE PEOPLE IN SLICES.... I try to take the good with the bad and try to respect the differences in our personalities.. and I hope there are others who can do the same... rest assured though, I can take constructive criticism in the spirit it is intended and contemplate ways to use that valuable information.  Many of you are the same way and I appreciate being able to bounce ideas back and forth.   Recent example:  both Shari and Neecee took a serious emotion I was having and played it straight UP with me.... I didn't run and feel bad... I APPRECIATED the fact that these women felt that my issue warranted their best thoughts and some tough love.... and I learned from them.  I wish we could all feel like that. Not ONE of us knows EVERYTHING.. and most of us know that.  I'm a firm believer that we all must do what works for us and offer support and ideas based on sincere thought.. not trying to make it up as I/we go along... or insist others do it OUR OWN way!    If I am guilty of this.. call me out......  I can take it and will aplogize and correct it. Trust me.. I do go to a KNOW IT ALL for serious advice... sometimes I get an answer right away... sometimes He tells me to be patient and WAIT it out.. either way.. My GOD is the only one who possesses all the answers.... the rest of us offer advice based on experience, education, love and concern. I repect all of you.. but there are times that I MUST express my discontent.... not meaning to show disrespect, but in the spirit of self preservation and self esteem.   I'm sorry if this has offended anyone..... but it does offend me to see others hurt because sometimes we're too gabadasta to see the wisdom behind the comments. With Love and Respect... Lori

I'm totally clueless of what must of happened, but I must admit, I really like what you just said.  We're no way near perfect, and...lol, I just wrote stuff and just backspaced...I don't even need to say it, what you just said says it all.

I knew I liked you! :) 

Thanks, Dudette, for not leaving most of all! I am sooo relieved that is all you wanted to do.  You would miss all of this, trust me, as annoying as it can be at times.  I TRY - not always successful - to step off and think about my posts beofre i send them off if my message is not as posiitve as It might be. I have certainly been misunderstood when I have tried to interact, and beleive it or not, have bitten my tongue in two before posting what I really think at times!  And...those times are for PM with trusted others who you may relate to. I think all we can do is try to ask questions...and seriously, in a room full of all kinds, get in the habit of putting the mood down first so others know when this is a tender area...or not... so glad you will not walk just now!!!!!  Hard to put ourselves out here and be so naked.

No idea what happened, but don't let anyone take over your peace. That's the thing about peace-- sometimes you have to fight for it.

Lori, I have absolutely no idea what happened, but I'm glad you didn't leave.  I know how much help this board has given me for almost 3 years now.  I don't know that I would have succeeded as much as I have if I didn't know I wasn't the only one going through it. I was thinking last night that I learn as much from those who are struggling and not losing weight as I do from those losing weight and getting healthy.  I can remember so vividly the frustration of trying to have this work and feeling like I couldn't do it.  I want to be there for those folks that struggle and try so hard.  I can only tell them that they CAN do it one day, but I also really want them to know that I still learn from them.  We never come too far not to learn from other people. I would rather have the straight up kick my ass approach then to have my issues trivialized.  Sometimes I want to hear the truth instead of a RAH RAH session.  But I always wish to be treated with respect, as I try to do for other people. Just know that your thoughts and experiences and your journey is valued here, at least by me. Donna

Just shows that we are all in the same boat no matter what.  Whether we have 100, 200 or 10 pounds to lose.  We are all adults, and the majority of us (if not all) have gone to doctors, nutritionists, been on every diet out there, we are all the same.  Just because one has lost lots of weight doesn't mean he's a "master" of weight loss, just means he's still in the learning process and in the home stretch!  But still is a never ending battle keeping the weight off.  It will always be a learning process, no matter what weight we are at.  Lord knows I've lost weight, gained weight, been to doctors, been to nutritionists, been on every diet out there, etc., but  if I stop listening and learning more everyday, or even just hearing it OVER again...is where I believe we will continue to learn and educate ourself. 

Think this is what makes this board great, we are all learning together no matter what stage we are in. 

I like that Donna. 

Glad you're still here, Lori.  We all need this board and one another's support...and a kick in the a** now and then too.  The previous posts here have said it very eloquently and I agree. Did you ever figure out how to change your user name...I would like to change mine too and have tried all different ways and can't figure out how.

No.. not yet... I had Chris for about 1/2 hour on AIM today, and I should have bothered him to help me with this... CHRIS.. you hear that... next time I catch you in IM please take my password and HELPPPPPPP!!!!  LOL

I'll leave it logged on so you can reach me tomorrow.  I'm gonna step away from the computer for a while tonight but I'm logged in.

ARRH HEAR HEAR!!