The Day Unfolds Something New

OH-kay, kriz....yes yes, it's hard to be the piece of meat that we alpha's are fighting over, I know, but somehow you will have to carry on. seriously, i woke up laughing my ass off in the middle of the night about all of this.  How's this for a song list for my new album to be called Alpha Female Love: What's it all about, Alpha? I'll get Apha you< I know I will! But then I got too freakin hysterical with laughter to sleep.......help me here...any more songs????

if I was trying to impress you, Chris, I'd have a copy of  Penthouse Forum in my left hand and a bag of  Cheetos in my right.

I know it's just not my place, because I come on here so rarely and I don't contribute as faithfully as everyone else, but this whole thing just gets to me.  I have managed to lose over 100 pounds and finally get my weight back in control, and never along the way (or now) have I pretended to have all the answers.  I just find it shocking that you say "if you do what i do, you will lose weight."  when I can only imagine how many women have said that to you in your life time and have been completely wrong.  There is no such thing as the final word and answer to weight loss...you of all people should know that. Also, this business with trainers and the gym and other gym members is just so bizarre.  I have lost all of my weight between two different gyms...I have never allowed any of my relationships with anyone there go beyond business/professional.  I never used a trainer, but I know all of them by name and specialty, and would never dream of crossing the line or touching one of them on the arm or saying something inappropriate.  It really sounds like you have a problem understanding boundaries.  You said something along the lines of 'oh well i let it happen b/c i didn't realize it would be like that'...you've got to be kidding.  that just seems so immature of you to not know that relationships can cross the line.  you should have been more aware of it, and probably what actually happened was that you were excited and flattered by the attention and pursued it, whether you would ever admit that to anyone on here (let alone yourself). Finally, and this is just my opinion...so you can just skip right over it and call me a moron if you so please, but I think you're one of those major know-it-all's who doesn't really know anything.  You just remind me of one of those individuals *****ads a book, or skims an abstract, and claims to know everything there is to know about everything anyone's talking about.  The reason you're not being made part of the pack in your group class is not so much because there's an alpha struggle going on, I think.  Most likely the other women in that class are a bit self-conscious of who they are/what they've become/etc. and prefer to bond with like-minded women who feel the same way.  What they are probably thinking is that you're way over confident and ****y and just make them feel worse about themselves.  Now, I want to finish with this.  Weight loss is the hardest thing I've ever done.  I lost a lot of 'friends' along the way because on top of being hard, it also required me to be extremely selfish.  I had to go skip out on a lot of nights out drinking and having 'fun' in order to cut the calories to lose the weight.  it was tremendously difficult and I couldn't have done it without being totally balls-to-the-wall about 95% of the time.  It looks like you're doing that, and that you've been doing that.  Congratulations.  Now, you just need to realize why gym relationships seem to be going in the opposite direction from where you expected them to. 

Hooboy.  Let's see how I can make this brief. I never said, ""if you do what i do, you will lose weight."  OTHERS here have said that's what I said, but I didn't.  If you read otherwise, it's not in my posts. But it's a basic formula understood by most professionals in the fitness industry--low carb for obese who are likely insulin resistant, high intensity exercise, and calories appropriate to activity  is needed to make the body lose the weight.  It is not about caloric reduction unless you a) majorly overate to begin with or b) are inactive.  Now I'm not saying I know it all, but this has been said to me by every professional there for the last year.  And...they were right. I've lost weight before, too, on low cal and all it did and does for all is make a bad situation worse.  Don't want to accept that, no skin off my nose. I have always been professional with all staff and my "touch" was the same to most, a touch to get someone's attention when they were faced the other way.  I wouldn't do it to a stranger, but to a friend, sure.  Many of us hug, kiss on the cheek, etc.  Several staff have become my friends and we go and do things together, call and talk regularly, etc.  My trainer and I considered each other, his words, friends.  In fact, I "never" said anything inappropriate.  In the Challenge I've heard the others say it.  What happened is that something innocuous was taken out of context.  Others' banter crossed the line.  Mine didn't.

I had to agree with everything you said.  Apart from the "know it all" personality, which I had enough of months ago, there is just something so odd about forming those types of relationships at the gym.

I have been a member of a gym for 6 years now.  I go, I work out, I smile at those I pass, I speak briefly with those who address me, and I go home to my life.  At no point have I ever had an issue where I was persona non grata at the gym.  I just find it odd and a bit unsettling that someone would identify so much with a place that isn't home or is merely a means to an end, in this case weight loss and getting healthy.  Matter of fact, to make me even odder, I prefer to work out alone!!! But I'm just someone who has apparently lost their weight the unhealthy way and I guess I'm perhaps doomed to gain it all back.  It's a wonder I've been able to keep it off for almost 2 whole years now.  I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.  congrats on the weight loss and the focus that it takes to get there.  Believe me, I know!!!

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